No contact with husband. Did I overreact?

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Had an arguement with husband. He kicked me out the house. Took the keys off me. (Not the first time). He packed most of my belongings that day and gave it to me.

He told me to delete his number and never to show my face again and never to come back. He also said he’ll drop the remainder of my belongings to my parents in few days.

I took whatever stuff he packed and went to my parents. As per his request, I deleted his number and didn’t contact him at all. Nor showed my face or went back.

The next day he sent me a message to tell he will drop the rest of my things in few days (he’d already said that to me in person). I blocked him and don’t reply. In return, he has deleted me as his WhatsApp profile isn’t visible. I’m unsure if he has blocked me as I haven’t contacted him.

it’s been over 2 weeks now. He still hasn’t dropped the reminder of my stuff. Tbh the stuff that is left, I don’t really need it. But why is he holding onto my stuff? Or did I OR by blocking him and not contacting him?

I have no intention of moving back btw as I’ve had enough of him constantly throwing me out the house whenever he feels. I did warn him last time, if he’s to do it again I’m not coming back. And he did. So I’m sticking to my guns.

No you did the right thing. Stick to your guns like you said

Do you own the house he's kicked you out of?

Have you seen a lawyer to start your divorce ?

I’m sorry OP.
You didn’t overreact.

He sounds like a delight. I expect he thought you’d be begging to get your things and or come back to the house. He now feels that your belongings are a bargaining chip that you will be forced to contact him for.

If you want them, have your Dad ring him and arrange to collect.

Do you jointly own the home? I assume you will filing for divorce ASAP.

Hope everyone is looking after you.
💐

You did the right thing
do you have an interest in the house? Have you seen a solicitor

No. He owns it solely.

Not yet. It is something I will be doing soon. Just need some time to emotionally process everything.

Have you posted this story before? I feel like I’ve read very similar a few times now.

if you don’t need the belongings then don’t worry about it. Sounds like he’s playing games because you didn’t reply. By withholding your items he feels like you have a reason to get in contact with him. He can’t stand the fact he’s lost the upper hand.

How long have you been married?

I posted few weeks ago when he newly kicked me out.

Your husband sounds vile. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you might have a claim to a share of the house. Time to get some legal advice.

2.5 years

Congratulations on finally being free from him. If the items aren't that valuable or needed then mentally let them go.

If you are married then the house is still partially yours unless it's an incredibly short marriage. Same as any savings or pensions. Speak to a solicitor.

Okay - that’s a short marriage. How long were you together before you got married and do you have children together? You don’t have to answer here but those can be relevant factors from a legal perspective.

He's playing games with you and you didn't play into his hand this time like i assume you would normally do.
He hasn't dropped your stuff off because you didn't reply to him, chase him, or beg. You blocked him instead and that's probably pissed him off. So he's kept hold of your stuff thinking that will force your hand and make you contact him. Don't do it, do not give him the satisfaction of thinking he's won his little game.

What an absolute arsehole. Noting to add except never speak to him again - please.

No he doesn't. You are married, so you also have legal rights to the property.

Perhaps you need to take some professional advice.

Don't look back. He sounds like an abusive arsehole who likes to hold control over you. Kicking you out of your home is unforgivable. Kick off divorce proceedings. You've told him you won't come back if he did it again, to go back on this when he decides he wants you back (which he will), will open up the flood gates for further abuse.

Congratulations on getting rid of him

Time to talk to a lawyer OP!

No she doesn't have equal rights. It's a short marriage. She has already had a very involved thread on this with lots and lots of advice so not sure why there is an identical one. She should take the involved advice already given.

She may not have equal rights, but the poster you quote says "legal rights" which she does have.

She will be entitled make a claim for a proportion of pension, savings and property equity. So will her husband against her.

At 2.5 years it is a short marriage, and the most they will look at is ensuring they have the same as what they went into the marriage with. She doesn't have children either. If she contributed massively to the mortgage she may get something, but it will be very very low. In any case, she needs proper legal advice and this was all covered in the 30 odd page post the OP has already done.

No, you didn't over-react.
You did the right thing by blocking him.
Now you need to start the divorce. Go and read your previous thread for detailed practical advice.

I asked if I overreacted because he still hasn’t given my stuff. Not asking if I’m entitled to the house or if he’s allowed to do that in this thread. But thank you

you asked that in the original thread also. I am not trying to be cruel, but you had a huge amount of response, all giving you great advice on how to move on, yet you have started another one. My advice is the same as last time, get legal advice, and get some counselling to move on from this horrible man,