No contact with husband. Did I overreact?

[Gina8]

Had an arguement with husband. He kicked me out the house. Took the keys off me. (Not the first time). He packed most of my belongings that day and gave it to me.

He told me to delete his number and never to show my face again and never to come back. He also said he’ll drop the remainder of my belongings to my parents in few days.

I took whatever stuff he packed and went to my parents. As per his request, I deleted his number and didn’t contact him at all. Nor showed my face or went back.

The next day he sent me a message to tell he will drop the rest of my things in few days (he’d already said that to me in person). I blocked him and don’t reply. In return, he has deleted me as his WhatsApp profile isn’t visible. I’m unsure if he has blocked me as I haven’t contacted him.

it’s been over 2 weeks now. He still hasn’t dropped the reminder of my stuff. Tbh the stuff that is left, I don’t really need it. But why is he holding onto my stuff? Or did I OR by blocking him and not contacting him?

I have no intention of moving back btw as I’ve had enough of him constantly throwing me out the house whenever he feels. I did warn him last time, if he’s to do it again I’m not coming back. And he did. So I’m sticking to my guns.

Well @BaMamma im sure a hectoring post or two will help sway the decision . Not.

No, you haven't overreacted, he hasn't been around with the rest of your stuff because he's playing games. He's probably wondering why you haven't been in touch with him about it. Let him wonder. For ever.

In the meantime, I'd be speaking to a solicitor about divorcing him, pronto.

Because break-ups are clean and final every time without fail. 🙄

"He can't stand the fact that he's lost the upper hand"

This. Haven't read the full thread, but he's probably wondering why you haven't been begging and pleading with him to let you back in.
What have your parents said about this, are they being supportive?

Yes it’s me again but things developed. Sorry didn’t realise there were restrictions on how much one can post.

yeah when someone begs begs and begs.. it wears you out. Plus, promises of changes and didn’t want any regrets that I didn’t give him a chance.

Me too. Literally word for word

What are you on about?

the second to last when he threw me out, it was for the first time I said if you did it again, I’m not coming back.

He has done it again and I’ve not gone back and don’t plan to.

I never claimed each time he threw me out I said “never again”.

But you posted about this weeks ago...so how far has it developed?

It’s developed in the sense I have gone fully no contact with him. I have changed my addresses and redirected my mail. I didn’t respond to his message and blocked him.

the longest I’ve done and have also began to look for places to move into. I can’t live at my parents forever.

I remember you from before..he's appalling. Do not go back there whatever you do.
Try and get a male family member to liaise with him about the rest of your stuff. And speak to a divorce lawyer.
You're so much better off without him the scumbag. X

My husband’s ex left him after 13 weeks and she still got £13k settlement. It may not be much but I would go after it on principle.

OP the only thing you’ve done wrong is to go back to him previously.

OP has already confirmed she has posted about this before but the situation has changed, in that she’s now left him for good.

I'd register a marital interest in the property and let him know you have since he's holding your things hostage.

"Registering matrimonial home rights will protect the right of a non-owning spouse to occupy the home and help to protect them against eviction. This registration is done by applying to the Land Registry for a formal notice to be recorded against the title to the property."

I remember your other thread too OP, just wanted to say a massive well done for blocking him and not going back.

How can it be an over reaction when you’ve done the exact thing he wanted you to do??

@Gina8 you’ve let your abuser.
Someone you went back to many times before.
You're doing amazingly.

I get you’re still questioning yourself and wondering if you haven’t done something wrong. I’d say it’s pretty normal.
Just be reassured you haven’t over reacted. You’ve done the right thing for yourself. To rightly protect yourself.
Keep steady. If you dint need or want the rest of the stuff, carry on ignoring him. Do NOT contact him (that’s a way for him to get at you - all power play).

And yes, start the divorce and get a lawyer. He’ll hate that (which is a good thing btw. It means you’re taking back control over YOUR life)

Does it matter?

Do you plan to have a go and point out all potential failing of any victims too?

Seriously, if you’re not interested in supporting the OP, dint answer, hide the thread and move onto something else.

Give over and leave her alone. Have you ANY idea what it's like to live with an abusive man?? They are highly manipulative.

Well thank your lucky stars that you haven't experienced abuse and you don't 'understand' it.

Send your parents over to collect your stuff. Don't unblock him

If you can get some support then go back, you can even warn him in advance, to collect your stuff. You can warn/ask for advice from the police.

If you have been living together before you got married then that counts towards the length of the marriage.

Even if you decide not to claim against his finances/the house. You could use this to bargain for your stuff back.