No contact with husband. Did I overreact?

[Gina8]

Had an arguement with husband. He kicked me out the house. Took the keys off me. (Not the first time). He packed most of my belongings that day and gave it to me.

He told me to delete his number and never to show my face again and never to come back. He also said he’ll drop the remainder of my belongings to my parents in few days.

I took whatever stuff he packed and went to my parents. As per his request, I deleted his number and didn’t contact him at all. Nor showed my face or went back.

The next day he sent me a message to tell he will drop the rest of my things in few days (he’d already said that to me in person). I blocked him and don’t reply. In return, he has deleted me as his WhatsApp profile isn’t visible. I’m unsure if he has blocked me as I haven’t contacted him.

it’s been over 2 weeks now. He still hasn’t dropped the reminder of my stuff. Tbh the stuff that is left, I don’t really need it. But why is he holding onto my stuff? Or did I OR by blocking him and not contacting him?

I have no intention of moving back btw as I’ve had enough of him constantly throwing me out the house whenever he feels. I did warn him last time, if he’s to do it again I’m not coming back. And he did. So I’m sticking to my guns.

I'm gonna echo what others have said, don't go back to him no matter what, he's a prick for kicking you out of your own home (yes he 'owns' it but you are still his wife and have rights!) and playing these pathetic mind games what the hell is with that, how old is he like 12? 🙄 Sounds like a bloody child. Fuck the belongings you can buy some new shit once u divorce and he should have to part with some money if he doesn't want to sell his house!

The irony. I know that you feel quite comfortable berating an abused woman. Nice.

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Yeah hindsight is a beautiful thing isn’t it. Am I berating you for not walking away sooner? No.

and you also don’t have to be on the thread.

Ignore them Gina.

Have you blocked him on your phone yet?

You do have agency over that you know!

How? I’m not following, but keep getting mentioned 😶

Yes

So just don’t respond! It’s not rocket science.

😂😂😂What age are you? ETA the comment I replied to has been deleted.

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As you were.

Defo get as far away from this man as you can, you did not over react in any way! He kicked you out, he’s done it before, he’s showing you who he really is - believe him. Me and my husband have had awful ups and downs in the past and needed space but we would never ever kick one another out of the house. He doesn’t sound like a keeper. Sending you strength and love xxx

this feels like an immature break up from both of you. communicate clearly and directly - you at least need to speak about divorce.

I'm not sure why you think someone being abused is being immature but she definitely doesn't need to speak to him as that is what solicitors are for, although she could just do it online by herself if she's in England or Wales. Solicitors are only necessary if it involves finances or children.

Hope you're okay this morning, @Gina8. Hopefully now MN has intervened the thread won't be derailed any longer. Just remember how well you are doing and to reiterate you haven't overreacted at all by blocking him. I do echo others that you should seek legal advice about where you stand on splitting assets in the divorce. You deserve your share after what he's put you through so don't just walk away with nothing.

Wtf is wrong with people?

In real life, if a friend is working through a massive problem, do you put up your hand and say, “That’s enough, Maureen, we’ve already discussed this once, now fuck off and follow my advice”?

OP, you haven’t overreacted at all. You’re doing great. Post as much as you need and get the support that will help you to move on from this tosser.

Just came here to say well done for making it final, that’s really hard when you love someone

definitely don’t contact again and speak to a solicitor

stay strong x

In what world would you encourage someone who’s finally left a manipulative and emotionally abusive individual to contact and communicate??
well done OP for leaving!! What sort of stuff was it? To be honest if it’s nothing of importance I’d leave it all there and never look back.
please prepare yourself for when he inevitably comes crawling back, stay strong x

Good on you for becoming stronger and moving forward to being rid of him. Over and over we read threads on here where women have returned and had children with abusive and controlling men.
Hope he doesn’t make leaving difficult for you and if the stuff back at the house is ‘just stuff’ then leave it there.

thank you 😀