Boyfriend trouble. My boyfriend has refused to kiss me because I have a cold a few times and he didn’t want a peck on the cheek either. I was very hurt by this. Any advice on what I should do please

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My boyfriend refuses to kiss me while I have a cough and a peck on cheek too. He has done this a few times. I feel very hurt by it. Any advice on what should I do please?

Eh? Who wants to get a cold! I would avoid kissing someone with a cold too.

Bizarre thing to get worked up/hurt about.

I’m with your boyfriend. Who on earth wants a cold?

Yeah he's totally right

Grow up maybe?

It's just a different attitude towards germs. Some people would be ok with this and some wouldn't, don't take it personally OP.

Advice on what to do? Grow up and realise others don't want to share your germs.

Lemsip works for me, and some balm tissues

Respect his wishes and kiss him when you are well again. Me and my DH don't kiss when either is unwell.

Any advice on what I should do please?

I agree with your boyfriend’s stance, and so my advice to you would be to manage your feelings and ask yourself why you are hurt by this. He is taking a stance that many people (myself included) would. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you. What are you feeling/what need must be met by him doing so? My advice is to identify that - eg this action means you don’t feel your boyfriend cares for you - and address that.

No one wants a snog that results in cold germs. Take your vitamin C and feel better soon.

DP avoids me like the plague if I have a cold, the closest he gets is pushing my dinner across the table to me 😂 I’m on maternity leave, he doesn’t get paid if he gets sick and has to miss work and we need to pay our mortgage. Grow up, you won’t die from not getting a peck on the cheek for a few days!

I think you need to look at why you are hurt by this. Unless something else is going on (or has happened in the past) I would just think he wants to avoid getting your germs.

Do you think it's a rejection of you rather than germs? What makes you think that?

Accept it?

Get over it. He's sensible and doesn't want to catch your cold. 🤷

Can't imagine anything worse than kissing someone all sweaty and snotty.

You feel hurt that he doesn’t want to catch a cold and feel unwell? Grow up.

Nicely, get over it, i don't kiss people when i'm sick, and i wouldn't want sick people touching me either.

Keep your germs to yourself.

He doesn’t want to catch a cold

Wait till you no longer have symptoms then offer to kiss him again?

Tell him you have no symptoms at the other end so he's ok to kiss you there instead?

Why would anyone choose to catch a cold. A minor cold on one person could mean a month feeling like death and several sick days off work for another.

It seems a bit odd you find it hurtful that he cares about his health, his happiness and his ability to make money.

What is it with the ridiculous threads that seem to be started by school kids recently?

Do people really create so much drama on their own lives over nothing then feel they need to tell the internet?

Get over yourself!

You get a grip.

Why would he want your cold ?

Lol. Grow up.

My advice would be to get better and then resume kissing.

What's the boyfriend trouble?

I won't be in a room with someone infected with the cold virus, nevermind kissing them.