Boyfriend trouble. My boyfriend has refused to kiss me because I have a cold a few times and he didn’t want a peck on the cheek either. I was very hurt by this. Any advice on what I should do please

[Crestofthewave89]

My boyfriend refuses to kiss me while I have a cough and a peck on cheek too. He has done this a few times. I feel very hurt by it. Any advice on what should I do please?

Thanks for your response. Will do that.

That’s right. One way we can care for partners is to take simple precautions to reduce their chances of catching an illness from us, such as avoiding kissing. This also makes it easier for them to care for us.

Well, Typhoid Mary, you should have started with the whole story then, shouldn't you!

Jesus H Christ...

Same! We don't want to wake each other up coughing sniffing and tossing and turning, sweating, all the wonders of the cold.

Or catch it, for that matter.

Undisturbed sleep is one of the greatest forms of respect you can gibe a loved one

Stop wanting to spread your germs. Yeesh.

I don't share a bedroom with my husband full stop. So it's pretty easy to avoid catching his lurgies. You can care for someone without sharing in their germs.

Typhoid Mary 😂😂 I don’t think you would like if I called you Typhoid Mary

How about infectiousCrest then.

I gave refused to kiss a partner too when they have a cold, even if they ususlly made my fanny gallop. If I had a cold I would not be kissing a partner either.

I care for my husband if he's ill. I'll make him food and drink and bring him medication. Like hell am I going to kiss him though - and he'll most likely go off to the spare room. I don't want his cold and he wouldn't want mine.

Name calling not nice

I wouldn't want to kiss you either covered in snot!

Messages getting nasty now

Names? You are infectious and you're deliberately trying to spread it unless you are ignorant of germ theory.

He doesn't owe you kisses, especially when you're sick. Trying to force physical affection when the other person doesn't want it is really really really not a good thing.

I’m with your boyfriend on this one, if either my partner or I are ill we respect each others health and keep our distance for a little bit, this includes sleeping in separate rooms. You are possibly overthinking this as you are not feeling 100%

I'm on his side. Can't understand why you think anyone would want to kiss you when you've got a cold

Are you new here? These posts are tame

I wouldn’t kiss someone with a cold.

I would be upset with my partner for wanting me to kiss them when they had a cold.

You obviously don’t like him much do you OP.

Hopefully he will find someone kinder who actually likes him and appreciates him.

@Crestofthewave89 , grow up?

Would have been better if the person with a cold hadn't passed it onto you.

Two paracetamol, one Sudafed and drink water - hot with grated ginger and some lemon works well.

"I'm suffering so I want him to suffer too"

That’s interesting, good for you guys for finding something that works. Me and DH don’t like sleeping apart unless it’s absolutely necessary I guess. I even slept in our bed with the dog after a big operation recently, so I doubt that would work for us.

I absolutely agree- you can, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sleeping apart for whatever reason. But I’m not scared of (most) germs, so it never occurred to me thats what some people did.

Showing care doesn't mean unnecessary contact.

It really is not unusual to avoid kissing and cuddling when one person has a virus.

You seem to feel that unless he happily shares your virus he doesn't care about you

You literally are a disease at the moment. Grow up.

I get colds really badly. A "sniffle" in someone else can turn into bronchitis - even pleurisy - for me.

I wouldn't want to kiss you either.

I think you need to cut your boyfriend some slack about this. There may be other things going on in your relationship, but you need to separate that from him not wanting to catch your cold!