Boyfriend trouble. My boyfriend has refused to kiss me because I have a cold a few times and he didn’t want a peck on the cheek either. I was very hurt by this. Any advice on what I should do please

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My boyfriend refuses to kiss me while I have a cough and a peck on cheek too. He has done this a few times. I feel very hurt by it. Any advice on what should I do please?

The man is entirely sensible!

How old are you?
Who wants your germ?
I'm with him...

This sounds suspiciously similar to another thread a while back about the same thing (which sounded similar to another thread). I don’t know, maybe it’s me, but there seems to be a lot of threads around that give off a very similar needy vibe.

Sorry but you are being unreasonable.

My dh and I don’t kiss when either has a cold

Because you’re being daft.

Do people really not kiss their partner when one is sick? How does that even work? If you’re in bed with someone face to face for 8 hours you’re probably getting sick anyway. Here if only one of us is unwell the other’s job is to be the nurse and make the patient feel better, do you guys just go to the spare room and hide?

Judging from the response here lots of people are very cautious and I wouldn’t take it personally, he’s probably just more of a germaphobe than you.

I understand why you’re upset, but I understand where he’s coming from. Before we lived together my DP only used to kiss me on the cheek or forehead when I was sick, but now we live together if either of us is sick we kind of just accept our fate and continue as normal. Considering you’ve had recent surgery and haven’t seen him for two weeks, I really do see why you’re upset. Also you’re probably a bit sleep deprived and stir crazy from being sick.

I’m actually shocked, I mean it’s totally sensible and fair enough, but I have never even considered this as an option or seen anyone do this.

Even during the rough covid times we still slept in the same bed and tried to look after each other the best we could, I imagine DH would react like OP a little if I decided to take myself off if he got sick at this point. In his defence he has nursed me though serious illness, mental illness and surgeries so I wouldn’t ditch him for a cold 😂

Grow up op and stop getting offended and upset and hurt with something that is normal.
Im with him keep your bug to your self.
I agree with poster up thread so many of threads on stupid things im sure most posters are teens.

We also sleep in seperate rooms is one of us is ill. There is disturbance in the night plus it means that we often end up with just the one of us ill.

If very unwell it is stay in bed and the other brings drinks, foods and meds. Was the same for the children when they were older.

Sleeping in separate rooms for a night or two when unwell, benefits both of us though. The sick person gets to adjust the room to their temperature needs and can cough away merrily without having to worry about disturbing the other. Meanwhile, the non-sick person gets a decent nights sleep and is better placed to deal with a grumpy sick partner.

My DP and I also sleep separately when one of us is ill.
It limits the chances of the other one catching a cold; but also importantly, it means a better night's sleep for the person who is well.
This means they are better rested for the next day, particularly if more chores fall on the one who is well during this time.
Sleeping separately is instinctive to us in these circumstances. Restorative sleep is so vital to the two of us that we're both quite protective of it.

This.

EIther a troll or a reverse.

You are not a disease, but you are contagious.

You have a virus. Whether you had surgery doesn’t affect that. You will get over your virus soon.

I hope you feel better soon, and that this bout of neediness is just a result of feeling pretty ropey. A cuppa in this nice bit of spring sunshine might buck your spirits up a bit.

Just because he didn’t kiss me doesn’t mean I should get disrespected.

What do you mean?

Try and see it from my point of view.

I get you, he's probably going to get the cold one way or another just by being in the same room as you,

It's important for partners to show affection and care for each other, even in times of sickness. And it's natural to feel frustrated and confused by his reaction.

When my DH is sick, even with a cold, I don't kiss him and often ask him to sleep in the spare room, especially if he has a cough

Grow up?

We don't hold hands or kiss if we're ill either. Why would you want him to catch your cold? Get a grip. You'll be better in a week and can jump his bones then.

I’ll try not to. Thanks for response. They are. I’d be the same just because he has a cold wouldn’t stop me from kissing him.