Ex wanting to use force to remove bf out of house.

[Heregoes1234]

I have a situation that I am struggling to know where I stand. There was a history of abuse with my ex we weren’t married. But over a year on I live in the home that’s in his name but am the primary care for our children.

I’ve met someone and my ex has been with the person he cheated with since he left for over a year now.

I’ve introduced my partner to our kids slowly over course of six months to him staying over for first time the other night.

My ex was threatening to come over last night and remove him the house with force and due to it being threatening and late evening he left. He was actually over for dinner with no plans to stay the night. I see him once or twice a week and it works out he sees the children twice a month with the sleepover being new.

I know the situation isnt ideal living in a home that’s not in my name but due to current finances and saving up to move out this is how it’s been. He has since torn up the separation agreement to now state the house will not go to me and the children and I can stay here until they move out or 18. My ex is very wealthy and owns several properties. He wanted me to stay in the family home for our children but it’s all changing now I have met someone.

I have logged with the police once when he last came over as was aggressive towards me and the children. Didn’t touch us but threatened us. He had calmed down and all communication since and drop offs are now through his mum and with his mum looking after them in her home every other weekend where he sees them.

I know the answer is to move out and that is my plan. But do I just bend the knee to not having my partner round when I’ve built it up slowly?

Can he legally drag my partner out the house for it simply being his house. He has not lived here since 2023.

I am trying to find out online but I can’t find anything for this situation.

That’s where they go when it’s his weekend with them.

I'd apply for an occupation order and a non molestation order, go through the domestic helpline. You don't need to get permission from his mum, why is she interfering. He doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to want you either which is dangerous, you need him out of your life and everything including child visitation must go through the courts.

I would caution moving so quickly with the new partner. I am not saying that to be cruel but you have recently come out of an abusive relationship and might be more vulnerable than you realise.

To be honest, op isn't even really out of the abusive relationship.

Yes very true - even more reason to be cautious and ideally do the freedom program.

@Heregoes1234 he doesnt live with his mum does he??? I mean, she is hardly going to be neutral and this just proves that she is still very much on his side! get a contact centre arranged for pick up and drop off!

@Heregoes1234 hope things improved and your situation is more stable.