Dating apps so grim!

[Nelly10]

I’ve started the year with a good mindset I went back on bumble a month ago to see what if any guys looked ok.

My age range is late thirties to early 50s it’s so grim.

I would say the majority are not looking after themselves.

Lots of filtered pictures (even though they put in the bio not into filtered pictures)

Profile pics with a fish
Terrible quality pictures (really close up/sunglasses on)
really bad poses (just have normal pictures?)

The bio’s are horrific
Don't want any drama
You can buy the drinks if you don’t look like your pics (until you do!) I’ve read this 100s of times
I don’t want anyone vanilla! We all know what that means don’t we!

Honestly I know some really decent men in my family and friends but from what I can see literally none on these apps.

Im trying to broaden my interests outside but wow this positive mindset is hard to keep in the dating world!

surely these men aren’t getting anywhere with anyone?

To the point where when a man is genuinely polite and respectful it comes as a surprise.

Absolutely this.

I had a new client recently 'Alex'. Our email interactions prior to meeting were so lovely and I was so excited to meet him. Finally, a nice polite man, I was crossing fingers. When Alex, a woman, walked in, it all made sense. But I was horrified to realise that an absolutely standard email convo with a woman, would elevate a man to the best man ever.

Hobbies, friends, peace.

And cats! (Or dogs.)

I’ve long since given up on OLD, but I too hated ‘partner in crime’ or ‘cuddles on the sofa’ and the obligatory fish pic/photo taken in a bar/pub toilet mirror with a row of urinals in the background 🤮
No one’s yet mentioned this instant ick on profiles:
Bare chested selfie with head on pillow, whilst trying to attempt a sexy ‘come hither’ look -

Have we all seen at least one of these?! 😂

OMG yes. The topless laying in bed, looking doe eyed into the camera trying to tempt us into whipping our knickers off and jumping in with them

That always goes well I reckon 🤣🤣

Haha always an x from me too! He really shows they have no clue what women want at all!

Just popping on to offer a little hope. I'm 55 and went on the dating apps at Christmas for the first time after being in a relationship since 1992. I've actually had a lot of fun, some nice dates with interesting men. And have perhaps met my soul mate although of course it is early days. We're a month in to the most balanced relaxed enjoyable meeting of like minds I've ever had in my life. I feel like I've met my match. So it is possible, there are nice men out there, just don't give up hope (if that is what you are looking for of course)

I'm mid sixties now and have no interest in dating at all any more, after a brief IRL flirtation who, when I had a busy period over Christmas, promptly met up with someone else and married them in very short order. (This was a couple of years ago, btw, not this year, that would be SUPER speedy!).

And I have absolutely no interest in sex. At all. Yet I am being hit on almost daily at work (because the men know I'm single), and it all seems to be of the suggestive 'nudge nudge, wink wink, you're on your own, bed must be lonely, eh? EH?' And this is from men the same sort of age as me who seem to think that because they are constantly gagging for a performance which I am not entirely certain they are capable of, that all women must be too.

What's wrong with treating a woman as a - you know, person? Rather than a willing fanny that can cook?