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Should I be worried, I found my partners internet activity

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jellycatlover · 13/02/2025 10:11

I'm 44 and with my partner 41 who is an amazing man in so many ways. We have a wonderful relationship, but I've always had trust issues, due to previous relationships where my trust was broken due to cheating. He has never cheated and we have a healthy sex life. But every now and then I get the urge to "keep tabs" on him, find ways to see what he's up to online.

A few days ago I checked his deleted emails on our laptop, and discovered that he has used a site to create AI nudes using photos, multiple times. When I asked him he said he used my own photos to do this and it was just curiosity and messing around, and even sent me 2 photos of me that he created in these sites, I suppose to put my mind at ease, as my first instinct is that he has been uploading other womens photos, like of attractive women he knows/works with. He denies strongly that he has done this. But I have a feeling thats he's lying as I find it so hard to believe that he's used these sites that many times just to upload a few images of me. and to clarity, it's not like he doesn't already have photos of me already.

am I right to feel worried that he might have used other womens photos also? also part of me is pissed that he had admitted using my own photos, firstly without my consent, and secondly, why would he want to alter my body in images to make it look better?

My head is hurting so bad thinking about this, and trying to find a way to move on from it, and I'm trying not to over react, but I feel so hurt. And I also know that it's really wrong to check up on him like this.

OP posts:
ServantsGonnaServe · 14/02/2025 18:56

Bumblebeestiltskin · 14/02/2025 15:32

If it were me, I'd never feel confident being naked around him again.

I would never be naked around a man like that again and I'd probably ask for a restraining order!*

*obviously assuming he didn't just move out and never contact me again. Absolutely disgusting piece of shit of a man.

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 18:57

HawkersNorth · 13/02/2025 14:49

To be fair, I don't know if it is a good relationship. Him for obvious reasons but OP 'keeping tabs on him' doesn't sound healthy either.

What relationship is perfect?

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