Is this what negging is?

[Intomy30s]

I've been seeing a man for a few months and he made a couple of comments on Thursday which have made me raise an eyebrow and feel like 'why would you even say that'

I went to meet him after I'd been to the gym and had on my new pair of trainers. He said "what did they cost, about a score?"

I had no idea what a score was, not being a londoner, so he clarifies "£20. I thought you might have got them off Temu or something"

They are from a quality brand and cost substantially more than that. He was basically saying they look like cheap tat, right?

Later on the same day he mentioned his brother in law seeing us out together. Apparently his BIL, who seems like an idiot himself, was going on about how pale I am and asking 'doesn't she even wear any foundation'

(I do - it matches my skin colour, as its supposed to!)

Why would he feel the need to tell me that? I wouldn't dream of relaying third party criticisms about his appearance back to him.

Does this sound like negging to you?

There's a lot of men like that about. It's not worth your time being around someone who wants to tear you down so they feel better.

See how he behaves when you challenge his snide. They usually can't tolerate having their behaviour called into question. I'd put money on 'it was a joke' and 'you're too sensitive' being rolled out. Maybe a sprinkle of 'i was just being honest'.

This is the early start of knocking your confidence and will lead to more put downs as a way of control.If he's doing that at such a short space in time of your relationship this will only get worse.You need to leave the relationship as this is very narcissistic.

I've never heard of negging but he sounds like a right nob. Luckily you are only a few months in so I would ditch him now.

RUN!!! RED FLAGS 🚩