Lap dancing clubs, lap dances and your opinions...this way please.

[IfYouWereInMyShoes]

DH was taken along to a "Gentleman's Club" on Saturday night.
He and the group of people he was with all had one-on-one dances. It is the first time DH has ever done anything of the sort,however, the private "dance" he had comprised of the girl making physical contact with my DH...breasts in mouth and Fanjo literally on his face.
and all for £10 - it was meant to be double but he refused to pay more (before she took him off), explaining he was married .

Am I unusual in not having thrown him out? I feel weirdly calm about the whole thing but am worried that I am just very odd because I am not shredding his clothes and phoning my solicitor.

Opinions gratefully received please?

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Hmm..I think I'm fairly liberal but for that even I would have to remove his testicles with a hammer.

Do not have sex with him again until he's had a good once over by a vet.

Are you serious? I think you may be in shock, i would pack my dh's bags if iw as in your shoes. What sort of relationship do you have? did u know he was going to this club?

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thanks Cod, forgot we weren't meant to ask for other people's opinions on here if it was to do with our own lives.

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Yes, he did tell me all about it, was very open about it,
I had no issue at all with him going to the club as think I'm pretty liberal, but I NEVER expected the physical contact!

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Was he ashamed of himself when he told you, or was he sort of bragging?

TBH i think you've been very good about being ok with him even going to this club in the first place

I don't have a prob with men going to strip clubs or watching porn.

I think I would have an ishoo with my husband paying a woman to writhe nekkid all over him.

How would he feel if you paid some seedy wanker to whack his tackle in your face - would he be ok with that?

lol at do you not know how to row

Lol at tackle wacking

he refused to pay more (before she took him off)

"took him off?"

Is this slang for something....?

Are we to presume he allowed her to shove her tits and fanjo about and then he thought, hmm actually that's just not on.

These places are just meant to cause trouble and imo are not a place for married men. I was wondering about the 'taking off' aswell

Think OP must of gone off to sort out norty hubby

Yes, she's gone to B&Q to buy a hammer.

The firm I work for - in certain departments - takes clients out to lap dancing bars on a regular basis. These clients are typically senior banking executives. I understand that in the property investment sector it is even more prevalent.

It seems anachronistic, but I imagine for any one bloke climbing the greasy pole, it is quite difficult to say no! As for the women who work in these businesses (and there are some) what the hell they do is anyone's guess!

DH is sufficiently eccentric that he would just say no and leave before they get there - but if you want to be seen to be part of the pack, it must be quite difficult!

ICod is right: why did he feel the need to tell you about her antics. Sounds a bit wild to me. I've been to quite a few clubs and the girls might let you touch their legs or bum, but tits and fanjo are def off limits.

Has he exaggerated to get a reaction from you?

If it were my dp I'd be cool if I was there but very very unhappy if I wasn't. I'd throw a strop for a few days and make him make up to me BIG TIME. But no, I wouldn't go bananas and threaten divorce over this incident, that's too ludicrous to contemplate.

lapin you were a lapdancer?