Lap dancing clubs, lap dances and your opinions...this way please.

[IfYouWereInMyShoes]

DH was taken along to a "Gentleman's Club" on Saturday night.
He and the group of people he was with all had one-on-one dances. It is the first time DH has ever done anything of the sort,however, the private "dance" he had comprised of the girl making physical contact with my DH...breasts in mouth and Fanjo literally on his face.
and all for £10 - it was meant to be double but he refused to pay more (before she took him off), explaining he was married .

Am I unusual in not having thrown him out? I feel weirdly calm about the whole thing but am worried that I am just very odd because I am not shredding his clothes and phoning my solicitor.

Opinions gratefully received please?

I think most women would rather their dh went to a lapdancing club than an affair but it is not a great choice!

Either would be a continued state of seeking extra-curricular activity.

I think the emotional connection would hurt me more, but they'd both be grounds for kicking him out.

I think I could forgive a drunken snog and grope. He told me when he "accidentally" got off with someone but it was during the very early stages of the relationship. If it happened again now I think I could shrug it off, unless it was happening ALL THE TIME in which case I'm obviously not enough for him and he's need to own up to not being ready for a committed relationship.

How can you accidently get off with someone?

You'd be amazed what men do 'accidently'!!

My boyfriend is the sort of guy to go to a lap dancing club, on a stag do for example. Do I mind? He's not been to one since we got together, I think I'd be a bit pissed off if he did but not because I see it as being unfaithful but more that I just think it's a thing sleazy men do. Which is weird, as I knew all this when I got together with him.

He was really drunk and dancing, this girl sidled up and started dancing with him and it "felt nice, then she kissed me and it still felt nice, but after a while I got bored and danced off again"

Kind of a half hearted attempt by the sound of it!

By the way, I would never go to a male strip club unless I was being dragged by a group of hen night revellers and it was a VERY good mate. If it wasn't someone I was close to and they really wanted to go, I'd make my excuses. I have no intention of spending money on what's just bad theatre at the end of the day. I'd rather go to the cinema, at least Colin Farrell films have a storyline in it, and it costs a lot less!

speaking as an ex-lap dancer i'm far more apalled at the behaviour of the women in question

anywhere i worked there was a very strict no touching rule, if the dancer was found to break it she lost her job and if the customer (male or female) broke it they were booted out the door without even getting the chance to get their coat, it was generally thrown out into the street after they had already been booted out.

i'm horrified the club and the dancer behaved like this, it's dangerous for the dancers

as to your origional question, i'd say his behaviour says it all really, ime there are 2 types of men; the guys who are so embaressed they can't even look at you and the guys who get really into it... guess which group 'stimulating her nipple' would fall under .

as for dp going to a lapdancing club, couldn't care less really, although he's never felt the urge what with having a stripper at home to entertain him, lol. i'd be very insulted if i couldn't eye up actors on tv, or see a male stripper at a hen night as i'd wonder whether there was any trust at all in our relationship.

I'm not a fan of male strippers either, more to do with me, as I am very shy in RL and would be mortified if one of them came near me or pulled me out of the crowd or something, I wouldn't know what to do with myself!
Then there's that urban myth about the girl who went to a Chippendale's night, one of the strippers threw his jock strap at her, it hit her in the face and the next day she found crabs in her eye brow and hair line....yeuch!

I have never been to a male strip club but wouldn't turn down the opportunity if it arose. But then I guess that's just me, I am very shy though and probably wouldn't like to be pulled on the stage but to go for a little look, what's the harm in that?! I have a fairly high sex drive!!