He's disappeared after I sent a pic of myself

[Powderpinkpenguin]

Hi 👋 I just needed somewhere to vent this .
I met a man two months ago ( so he has seen what I look like face to face ) while I was out with friends for my birthday drinks.
We chatted, flirted & swapped numbers.
Since then we have been chatting back and forth, we've also arranged to meet up next week.
We added each other on social media also.
So lots of pics of me on there for him to see and vice versa.
He sent me a photo of himself at work yesterday morning, I had a day off and was out walking , I sent one back. It wasn't the most glamorous pic, but very natural and I look like myself still.
He instantly msg back wow you look stunning 😍 I then msg back thank u and he said he had to go back to work .
I said enjoy your day.
He hasn't msg since then, nothing. It seems he has ghosted me.
I just feel a bit low as I have a feeling it was the pic I sent him 😔 it's got me feeling all insecure , I've showed the pic to two very honest friends and they have said its a lovely photo , they would say if it was bad.
He obviously didn't like it 🙄

I was ghosted the first time I sent a make up free picture to someone I had met in real life. So maybe he was on autopilot polite mode?

Wtf? What sort of reply is that? So bloody nasty

I doubt it. Men mostly don't care about make up etc. that's why they don't wear it themselves. They will be looking at the shape of your body and unconscious signals such as body language, pheromones. It's all about sex with men. They don't are about whether you have perfect hair or some colour on your eyelids. They might compliment you on it because they know you care about that stuff

Be careful this isn’t a slippery slope of head fuckery trying to ruin your confidence.
unfortunately, the world is full of people who enjoy breaking others.

He's been asking for 2 months. How can someone find no time in 2 months? I'm sorry if it sounds nasty. It just seemed factual to me.

It’s still two months of messages without meeting since the night they actually met and exchanged numbers. Why? What happened to you meet someone you like the look of, get their number, ring them up and arrange a date? No one with any self respect spends two months back and forth messaging someone who can’t be bothered to meet up. Non starter.

Could he not have just gotten back with an ex? This sounds the most likely reason ime.

He could have been hit by a bus 🤞🏻

Maybe he’s talking to multiple women? Maybe he’s busy? Who knows. He’s met you in person so it won’t be that.
He will probably message you by the end of the week.

It's not you, it's him x.

There are a lot more fish in the sea.

When did you send the last message that he still hasn’t opened

Why on earth would you assume that to be the most likely reason? There could be any number of reasons why he hadn’t contacted her in the last 24hrs

It's so not the picture as others say. He probably had a bunch of women he was interested in, and it progressed further with one of them.
He should still politely say he's off the market now but don't dwell on it.

Honestly, who cares OP. If he honestly took against you for 1 pic, best find out early he’s a shallow prick.

😂
No one does this.

Have you been in the dating world in the last 30 years?!

OP, do not give it a second thought.

The problem with messaging for so long without dating is that you get falsely emotionally invested. Delete the message thread and move on ASAP. Don’t even blink.

This is actually very true.

This

Because it popped up and he read it at the time and he can't be arsed to go back in and blue tick it.
Why would he?

I leave lots of messages unchecked.

Really OP needs to get a life whether this man is available or not.

This.

Do you really want to be with a man who can't go 24 hours without texting??? No interesting, responsible, decent man I know spends a big chunk of every day sending vapid texts forth and back. They're off doing interesting things and frankly they expect their partners to be doing something more interesting than living through their digital devices and selfie-ing every minute of the day.

He probably has better things to do; it's totally unrelated to your photo. If you are getting frantic at the thought of a near-stranger not finding you physically attractive, that's a problem that needs working on.

Bigtime.

Work on self-esteem and not letting the lack of a text derail you. Make yourself interesting by doing interesting things, not performing for the selfie lens.

Do you think he was hoping for a photo with less clothing on???

Maybe he got fed up of all the waiting then?
also why is he on your social media?