Am I over reacting- partner finished inside me

[MyRealBiscuit]

Bit of background, we conceived a child whilst I was using birth control so are now extra cautious and he doesn't finish inside me. He has demonstrated good control of this over 8.5 months of having regular sex but the other night he "got carried away" in his words... why do I feel so crap and out of control about it? Took the morning after pill which I was angry about as I've had it in the past and it really plays havoc with my hormones.

She probably feels out of control because she’s been sexually assaulted

this constitutes a sexual assault

Withdrawals is NOT a method of birth control or a precaution. For anyone with a grain of common sense that is. No wonder there are so many unwanted pregnancies.

At the point of ejaculation wild horses couldn't get me arse to go in the opposite direction ~ Billy Connolly

Yeah - it's unacceptable and he is wrong but use contraception

why is consent such a difficult concept for people to grasp?
she hadn’t consented to him ejaculating inside her, so yes, yes she does expect him to reliably withdraw. Every single time.

Have you considered getting the coil? I got the one with non hormone one and it was a game changer for me

Yes, we're all well aware of this @Viviennemary !! Hence why the OP, for the zillionth time is also ON THE PILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm hitting my head against a brick wall with you here.

Can you completely control your own orgasms?

the pull out method is pure stupidity. This was bound to happen eventually even if he was trying very hard to avoid ejaculating. Buy some condoms.

So the pill is unreliable. But withdrawal is seen as the saviour. I give up.

Then she is a fool.

I agree. If OP is so paranoid about becoming pregnant while already on contraception then maybe she should have a proper conversation about a more reliable method, or abstain completely.

What? No, the withdrawal here is clearly just to lessen the risk of pregnancy in case the pill failed again. Pleased you're giving up, as you always comment nonsense on every post I see you on.

Also pre-ejaculate can also cause pregnancy - that's why the pull out method is not contraception. And no man can control whether they get pre-cum or not anymore than a woman can control getting wet. Some men leak before they fully come as well. You can control a man wearing a condom, you can't control his sperm entering you once he's inside you without a condom. Stealthing is considered a crime because it puts a woman at risk of pregnancy against her will - this involves entering someone without any barrier protection without your consent. But once you've consented to them entering you bareback, it's impossible to control how much ejaculate is going to enter you..

Stealthing is only in relation to condoms.

Alone, the pull out method is pure stupidity. Using it alongside being on the contraceptive pill is not pure stupidity, which is what the OP does. It has been said dozens of times on this post that the OP is also on the pill.

What a ridiculous suggestion to expect that you should have that amount of control over his ejaculation.

HE was the one who said HE had that control.

What a ridiculous implication to suggest that HE should have that amount of control over sperm entering her vagina.

No means no. If your partner says not to come inside then that's what you do. What the fuck is it with the rape apologist posts on here?

🤣 If only it was that simple. Naive to the extreme in both circumstances.

Being reasonable here if OP's pill contraception failed him after she believed it would work (and science telling her it would) - it's not unreasonable for him to believe he could control his ejaculation and fail (which science says can happen too).

I’d be furious.

If he did it on purpose