He has asked me to move in with him, how can I say no nicely?

[Badwitch222]

I am currently in what I would class as a situation-ship.
Long story short we was speaking & dating he would always be hot and cold with me. The first time we met he was telling me that he loves me and then the day after he just wanted to be friends.

we had sex for the first time, we spoke for a few days after. He then started ignoring my messages just opening them and ignoring them so I blocked him last week. I ended up unblocking him yesterday as I had a pregnancy scare my periods are usually like clock work but I have missed my period. I asked him if he would be with me when I did the test to which he said yes.

I told him I would contact him tomorrow with a time and place to meet he said okay and then 20 minutes he kept sending me messages asking if I had been okay, asking me how life has been ect…

So I just told him about life, my landlord is currently wanting to sell up so wants me out. I told him I’m just looking for houses at the moment because of this. He has now offered me to come and move into his flat with him. Whilst the idea is really nice I really don’t think this is a good idea. We spend so much time arguing and that’s just over text message now imagine if we’re just in each others space constantly and his flat is only small.

I tried to brush it off the first time he said it, but he must of noticed because he kept mentioning it either how he’ll be able to look after me ect ect ( not like I do need looking after, I am very independent and I work myself). I just said yeah I’ll have a think about it he wants me to come over today to discuss it.

I also asked him why he was ignoring me on purpose, he said he wasn’t ignoring me at the start but he started to ignore me when I messaged him asking why he was ignoring me. He ignored me 2 days, just kept opening my messages and reading them but no reply. It was completely out of nowhere so I blocked him.

Thank goodness you aren't pregnant, that's a relief for all involved.

You don't sound in the right headspace for a relationship at the moment to be honest OP.

Sort out contraception and get STI check. Block this guy
Look at what you want from a relationship

Or have a baby with 😳

This is so far from being a relationship, he's a ONS you've met twice.

Why are you wasting any head space chasing him? He's not interested! Was the "pregnancy scare" just a ruse to get his attention?

How old are you @Badwitch222 ?

That's great news. Now KEEP him blocked and do not give him any more headspace.
If he has a key then change your locks immediately and if he turns up at your door and is threatening then be prepared to call the police
and probably most crucially
Stay single until you've done the freedom course and worked extremely hard on your self worth

look OP, you absolutely do not need to prove that you were or weren’t out.
There are so many red flags with his behaviour.
what’s keeping you? Because you’re starting to sound like you love the drama.

The right kind of love is easy.

This whole situation sounds like a massive mindfuck - way too much drama for the early stages of a relationship - probably because this is NOT a relationship - it's a totally asymmetric arrangement for his pleasure/titillation and his alone.

He just wants you for sex when he wants to have it. Nothing you have shared has demonstrated that he cares about your thoughts or feelings. Kick him to the kerb, he's an arsehole - says that he won't see you so that you won't want to let him go when you finally meet (childish) and constantly accuses you of being with other men (abusive). Keep him blocked and move on, he's a total pig.