I have been with this guy a year. Well, he has disappeared again.
First time, he accidentally called me his ex wife’s name and disappeared for 2 days because he thought I’d be angry. Even though I tried to talk about it. The 2nd time, he changed plans so I did something else, yes I was annoyed but did not react, just went elsewhere for the day. He disappeared for 5 days. Came back very apologetic and telling me he finds it hard to communicate. Then 3rd time, it was a week and I have absolutely no idea what I had done this time. He apologised and said it would never happen again. We had a talk on communication and he said he wouldn’t disappear. Following this, I did feel a bit anxious about saying anything in regards to how I felt. He does change plans a lot, he spends like there is no tomorrow and sometimes says things and doesn’t follow through. However, we get on and have a laugh. He can be really helpful and tells me how much he wants a future. The 4th time was a month ago. We went to a party and as we were leaving a friend of his (female) approached me laughing saying he had ‘tongued’ her. I was a little embarrassed and uncomfortable. I said to him what did you do. He said he had licked her face. I told him I understand he felt it was a bit of fun but it’s uncomfortable for me. He stormed off. I went home alone. The following day, he apologised and said it was for fun. I told him again, I understand but it was a little embarrassing in front of everyone her telling me that. He told me I had issues! Anyway, he said this wouldn’t happen again and his communication is getting better as it was only 24 hours! On Wednesday he messaged me at work to say he was going to the pub at 2. We had planned to eat together. I came home from a busy shift and waited for him to get home before cooking as he said he wouldn’t be late. 7pm he came home drunk. He was chatty and we started cooking. When the food was done I sliced into my chicken breast and said I was popping it back in the air fryer for 5. He told me it was cooked, I said you know how fussy I am with meat. I sat eating the rest on my plate waiting for the chicken. He finished his. I said how nice it was. He ignored me. He then said I’m going to my mums. I asked what had happened. He ignored me. I asked again. He walked out. The following day he turned up as I was getting ready for work. I was angry not upset this time. He went to cuddle me and I told him no and to leave as I’m getting ready for work. He walked out. Messaged me later to ask me to put his belongings outside for him to collect. He has collected them today. Not heard nothing.
I’m messaging here because I just need someone to talk to.