Would you leave a lazy husband

[Pennyduke564]

Would you leave your husband if he is lazy if he doesn't help you with the house work and does not want to work and you work fall time and have kids and your husband is always starting arguments with you

I have seen a a solicitor and I am splitting up with my husband I am thinking about splitting up with my husband tonight moving out of the martial bedroom and sleeping in my youngest son bedroom on the pullout bed

Ladies I have finly done it

Hope you're doing ok, OP. Take care and stay strong x

I am laed in my youngest sons bedroom on the pull out bed I have finly left my husband and I am in tears

Do you have any friends or family you can contact? A chat on the phone or a Sunday brunch over at theirs? Try to reach out to as much support as you can. Big hug

You did the right thing and it Will get better

I was going to move in with my mum and stepdad

I had been in the martial bedroom crying most of the day and he didn't not once come up to see if I was ok or anything he told the 3 older children that he thinks that we are over and it is my fault and I am a lazy wife and lazy morther and a useless wife and a useless morther

I'd lose respect, fall out of love then leave.

The only one who came upstairs to see if I was ok was our youngest son

It was my youngest son who came upstairs to the bedroom to find me crying and give me a hug

Ladies just a quick update for you I have left the martial house today and moved back in with my mum and stepdad in their 2 bed house

Well done.
You left because of his abuse of you.
Be clear on that point.
Do you have a mortgage payment to make?
If so contact them and tell them you have left the family home with 3 children to escape his abuse of you.
You will need a morgage payment holiday as the house will need to be sold.
Contact Women's aid for advice and support.

Well done OP.

I only took the our youngest son because the 3 older children told me that they were staying with their dad

It sounds like the older kids will find out all about what lazy is soon without you there.

The older children started bad mouthing me as well today and so did my husband

Leave them to it and him.

They are with their father, no need to answer your phone for a bit.

Do not back down.
He is an abusive prick.
Your children modelling him is no acceptable.
Let them see him for who he is.
You need a break from them all.

I have only got our youngest son

This tells you just how toxic your home is.
Do not accept this from your children.
They are with their father, leave them to it and him and his lazy ways.

How you have tolerated this is really sad.
Talk to Women's aid for support today and your bank re morgage if necessary.

We both own the martial house and he refused to move out that is why I left yesterday with our youngest son

Ladies I have a little updated for you I have seen my divorce solicitor to day and started filing for a divorce should I tell my husband that I have started filing for a divorce and should I give him my wedding ring and engagement ring back to him I am also thinking about changing my suernam

No don't tell him and no don't give him your rings back.

Yes of course I would not tolerate that!

It's the not working and not help to provide for his family that would be a non starter for me.

He's a lazy oaf no better than having a lump of lard sitting on your couch. Bin him.

Do NOT give him back either rings.
They are yours and can be sold if necessary.
Don't entertain that.
Let him receive the papers.

Of course! What is the point of staying with a lazy bum?