Would you leave a lazy husband

[Pennyduke564]

Would you leave your husband if he is lazy if he doesn't help you with the house work and does not want to work and you work fall time and have kids and your husband is always starting arguments with you

And evey time I ask him to help me with the house work he will start a huge argument with me and he will start yelling at me and swearing at me and calling me all names under the sun and blaming me for anything and everything

Can sympathise..I'm 51 with a 7 year old. Husband does help with our son to be fair, but doesn't work, moans about how tired he is and never has time to do anything, blames me for most things that aren't done and starts arguments with me...I could go on. Should I leave - yes but it's not always that simple is it? Sighs...

I wouldn’t give him another chance. He’s had his chances. I’d just leave. Do you own or rent?

We own the house and with a mortgage he used to work he was a fisherman and the sold his boat and decided that he was not going to work any more

I am on to ways of talking to him to night or just to pack my suitcases and move out tonight

Yes!! I am in a very similar situation. Husband used to be big earner when I was off work for several years at home with our 3 young children. I went back to work and slowly but surely he lost clients, jobs and hasn't worked barely at all for about 15 years. I am extremely bitter and resentful and I am
In the process of trying to make him move out. Yes he's depressed, probably had a breakdown etc but won't accept help from anyone and I am done with allowing this anymore.

I’d already be gone

Your poor children growing up in such a foul environment.

Father a lazy abusive arse.
Mother run ragged doing everything.
Contact Women's aid for advice.

I did.

You did what

Well I just had the talk with my husband

I did leave my lazy husband. Thankfully his laziness backfired on him and I never got broody in our 10 years together.

We have just had the talk

And? What was Said?

I have told him that if he does not start helping with the house work and get a job and he has got buy this weekend then I will be packing my suitcases and him and moving out of the martial house and leaving him and he started a very huge argument with me

I'd leave. I can't bear freeloaders.

I work hard to have a decent life and a warm comfortable home. I'd expect my partner to do the same if he wants to share.

How can I respect someone who's basically looking for a handout.

I while he started the argument with me I did take my wedding ring off

It is!!

Honestly OP if he was going to change he'd have done it already. I'm sure he's not oblivious to how unhappy he has been making you but he clearly does not care. Even if he made an effort now it would be temporary, he wouldn't sustain it because he's shown you he has no respect for you or for himsefl.

Stop wasting emotional energy on it. Just kick him out and get on with your life.

Yikes! I would leave yesterday. What an abject loser.

So what is the point in telling him again? Too bloody right I'd leave him.

Hang on, hold your horses. Why are you moving out?

Men like that often get sacked

Do you work, OP?

Don't bother to try to justify your decision to him. Just tell him it's non-negotiable and that's that.
Don't make idle threats, though. You have to be prepared to carry through if he refuses. You will need to give him a time limit. Give him a few weeks, a month (whatever is reasonable in your area) to get a job and 24 hours to start doing his share around the house. Not "helping" though. Doing 50% when he has a job and 75% as long as he doesn't. Remember, it's non-negotiable. If within 24 hours he hasn't changed his lazy ways, walk out that door.