Can you get over bad teeth when potentially dating someone?

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I feel terrible and shallow but... I've recently reconnected with someone I used to see a lot when I was younger. Nothing ever materialised but we recently connected on social media. After exchanging a few recent photos.. he sent me one of him smiling and omg his teeth... he's missing a fair few, yellow, crooked and broken...

I always liked him and never recall him having bad teeth... but they're really noticeable and I don't want it to put me off but they do....

Is there anyway getting past bad teeth when you're dating when it's an otherwise really lovely guy who you know would treat you really well?.....

I couldn't. I never have been able to.

Men can let themselves go a bit. Some on sticklers for self-maintenance. He may just need a check up at the dentist, get things sorted out. I'd always be of the opinion that if someone is at least working on the problem, then that's it half-solved already.

No, because I couldn't kiss them. Crooked is one thing, but this sounds like poor dental hygiene. I can't imagine what his breath smells like!

I couldn't.
Bad oral hygiene and kissing. I'd heave and that's not fair to anyone.

Another no. Sorry.

It sounds like more than a quick check up at the dentist.

Cosmetic work is expensive, but I couldn’t be with anyone with manky teeth.

I would assume he hasn't got the money to get his teeth fixed. I wouldn't assume he had poor dental hygiene as dental problems can be genetic.

You are under no obligation to date anyone.

Well, I have shite teeth thanks to genetics and phobias, so you'd all think me manky and disgusting apparently....

I can't afford the £15k to give me a Hollywood smile and I'm not eligible for treatment in Turkey etc as its far far too extensive for that. I can't have them whitened because the yellowing is the thinned and worn enamel showing the yellow colour of the dentin layer beneath.

So no, I wouldn't judge unless someone lost their teeth to heroin, crack, meth or similar.

Dental work is very costly and not something people can prioritise if they are not in pain.

This is what I want to believe too.
I am nobody to judge him, he's a lovely guy and I know from knowing him previously he'd treat me well. I don't think he's got poor oral hygiene, I think he's perhaps been unfortunate growing up. I last remember he had a full set of teeth when I last saw him 15 years ago.

No, simply because I went through a shit tonne of pain to get my teeth how they are. They don't have to be Hollywood smile and fake veneers but basic hygiene is essential.

Crooked is less than an issue, however depending on his age it could well be a sign of lack of care. Braces were free and fairly easy to get if he is in his 30-40s certainly easier to access than today. Stained and broken though is again an issue, don't have to be a American smile but dentists were fairly easy access until COVID. I'd be surprised at that level of decline in such a small amount of time and suggests a more life long issue.

I was with my ex for a while and one day he laughed and I realised he was missing 5 at the top toon me a week to get over but I did look past it! turned out it was from a fight and I left due to risk of violance (wasn't being precarious he is now in prison for attempted murder) so I never would again

No, and I don't like turkey teeth either.

Definitely not. Missing, yellowing and decayed teeth indicate a lack of self care.

A xouole of imomats and hes good to go. I would tell him though

Depends on the cause. My DH doesn't have nice teeth but it's from health issues in his childhood not bad hygiene.

Why cant i edit on the app!!! I would be honest and tell him. Hw needa to get some implants

No way.

All my life I'd always had 6 monthly dental check ups and really looked after my teeth.
Then along came Covid and I didn't see a dentist for over 2 years and I'm only back having regular appointments because I was forced into going private.
And it was amazing the deterioration in my teeth through not getting regular checkups and maintenance such as tartar cleaning.
So I wouldn't automatically judge people these days for poor teeth. Especially when in some areas there are literally no dentists.
Having said that as much as I would feel bad about it I wouldn't be able to kiss someone with poor teeth.I will also say I find Turkey teeth quite off putting as well.

DH always had poor teeth, not awful but poor. I overlooked it in the early days, but did begin to find it repulsive later.

I have a lovely male friend who has terrible teeth. I know they're a result of lifestyle issues he's now got on top of and I know he'd love to get them fixed but can't afford it. He's a really good guy, we get on and he's otherwise a very presentable middleaged man, but I just can't find him attractive.

I know getting implants would cost ££££ but surely it can be fixed with dentures for a few hundred pounds?

No.
Teeth don't have to be perfect, a little wonky and a few fillings - fine.
But missing teeth, cracked, very yellow - no way.

I'd be concerned about his breath as well. If he's not got very good dental hygiene. And if he doesn't have good dental hygiene... what about the rest?

He has poor dental hygiene and now doesn't have the money to fix them, in which I wouldn't want to be with a man with no money.

Or

He has poor dental hygiene and doesn't care and I wouldn't want to kiss a man with rotten teeth.

It is going to be a no from me regardless.

God no, if that's his hygiene standards with parts people can see, imagine what horrors you'll encounter with more hidden parts.

I don't think bad teeth are always, or even often, about poor hygiene. It's far more likely to be poverty, either now or in the past, and poor health.

I can’t best seeing men in their 50’s and 60’s with glowing white Turkey teeth.

Im not saying don’t have a bit of corrective or cosmetic work done but the tombstone teeth in an ageing mouth - god no!

God no. I would run a mile. Very quickly.