Mother in law ott reaction

[Anon35x]

So now and again me and my partner send each other a few naughty messages, while busy i sent him a message saying I'm in the shower, all wet, and not just from the shower, can't wait for you to get here, why don't you come and join me 😉
At the time my partners at his mom's and for some reason my brain has told me to send it to his mom... I had a message back pretty quick saying "I'd rather NOT!! now have some god damn respect and stop talking filth"
Talk about embarrassing, but I sent a text back saying I apologise and wasn't meant for her but her son, later that day I bumped into her in the shop and she didn't even talk to me or the grandkids just turned her back to us, I apologised and said it was meant for my partner and she completely ignored me and my kids, she hasn't spoke to any of us since (2 months ago). Even ignoring her son and grandkids when my non verbal autistic son went up to her and gave her a hug she pulled away and walked out the supermarket, God knows how she would of felt if it was more of a naughty one as that was pretty mild lol but feel like her reactions way over the top, how do I fix this?

I agree.

I agree!

Her text in reply to OPs was definitely about the sexual nature of the text she’d received. You’re putting your own spin on it as you can’t possibly know what MIL thinks about her additional grandchildren. As OP describes them as being pleased to see her and trying to hug her, it would seem she has had a good and affectionate relationship with them. If you are deciding she is now snatching that away because she disapproves of their existence, doesn’t that make her a nasty bitch? It’s not the children’s fault. If she doesn’t like the man her son became that’s who she should address her feelings to. Perhaps she doesn’t because she knows it’s none of her business how many children another adult has, even if she stepped in to take custody of his first child, who she is denying him access to.

Um, ok…. Why would that make her treat her grandchildren so appalling?

I think that everyone on the thread would agree that the thing to focus on is whats best for ALL for the children and however the parents have behaved they shouldn't be suffering as a result

Well after this my partners spoke to his sister who has informed him that partners mom has been recently been given some very bad news which she's confined in her daughter with, she's not spoke to any of her other children about but since this news she's took it quite badly and finding it hard to deal with, we don't know what the news is as we didn't pry as she clearly wasn't ready to share it with anyone else, so our approach is we are going to take her some of her favorite flowers and a cake we are about to bake with the kids and just write a note without letting on we know there's something more as we wouldn't want her losing trust in her daughter she's clearly felt like she could speak to. It does all make sense now because like iv said previously we've always had a great relationship, we grew up doors away from each other, parents was friends, me and partner went to school together and always mingled at family bbqs and day trips etc so it didn't make sense, thank you to everyone who gave us advice and not criticise on things no one knew full story about, and for anyone's info who said about the fact my partners daughter being s/a we didn't know about this until she was spoken to by social services and by this point she had already been removed from mom & partners care and placed into emergency care of ourselves

And once my partner had raised concerns of abuse he was stopped from seeing his daughter by mom, there is alot more to this story that I shared and want to thank anyone that wasn't quick to judge and tried to give advice

How is that helping anyone?

Well thats handy then isn't it?
You and your Partner have done absolutely nothing wrong and there is absolutely no need to examine anyones behaviour up until this point

Unless spelling and grammatical errors make a post difficult or impossible to understand, correcting someone's spelling and grammar is a dick move.

You've clearly got a you problem, no need to come online and be a dick to anyone else! Hope you have the day you deserve 💗

She sounds ridiculous. There’s nothing you can do really if she’s chosen to behave like that. Some mothers are very weird about their sons.

Thank god someone said it.
I cannot stand it when people say “we was”.

A relationship only a year old and halfway through a messy custody battle is not when responsible adults choose to have another baby! And then another one after when an older child is living elsewhere!

Oh come on Hun, what about supporting other women??
Be kind now (rather than having an opinion)

Why, oh god why, have you quoted the whole original post?

Could be worse. I once sent my MIL a text intended for DH detailing all the creative ways in which she could fuck off with her repulsive opinions.

You just have to ride it out OP. You haven't committed a crime. If she wants to hoik her bosom over her son's perfectly normal marital sex life, let her crack on.

I sent a rather racy one accidentally to my mother instead of my partner, it does happen. Luckily she found it funny and said what a lucky man he was!

Haha see my mom would of laughed it off, I suppose my accident was just bad timing

Thanks for your feedback, online bullying is very mature isn't it 😀 have a nice day

I actually wrote that the way I did because someone further up the post decided they would correct my grammar 🙃 😅 anything to annoy pathetic people that have clearly nothing better to do

His done?! I said his dad not done 🥱 see I can do it too bit pathetic though isn't it? We can all act like yourself