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How would you ask a guy out?

106 replies

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 14:54

So there's this guy I like.. I've given him what I think are subtle hints that I'm interested but maybe they are too subtle and he just thinks I'm being nice.

I don't know if he's interested in me like that, but he also comes across as the kind of guy that might be too shy to straight up ask.

Do I just ask him out? We do work in the same building, not together.. which is why I'd like to ask in a way that isn't full on in case it makes him feel awkward.. as I might also be reading some signs wrong and he might just 'be being nice' to me.

I think he's gorgeous and I like how I feel around him so I'd love to have a proper conversation outside of work and just see if there is anything there, no pressure kinda thing.. but how do I ask a guy out?! Do I text him?! Or wait til we're at work again? Or not ask at all...

I know people will say 'don't sh*t on your own doorstep.. I know, but I can't help my interests and there is hundreds of people at work, we rarely bump into each other.

If he declines it's honestly fine, at least I'd know! But I just don't know if he's picked up on my subtle hints/compliments.. arghh!

OP posts:
chestnutroast · 27/09/2024 20:12

what did he say when you mentioned you have a child?

napody · 27/09/2024 20:13

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 20:09

Ignore that.. he's typing.. ahhh 😬😬😬

Ooh... following!

Kerkyra2024 · 27/09/2024 20:13

On tenterhooks for his response!!!!!

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 20:17

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 14:54

So there's this guy I like.. I've given him what I think are subtle hints that I'm interested but maybe they are too subtle and he just thinks I'm being nice.

I don't know if he's interested in me like that, but he also comes across as the kind of guy that might be too shy to straight up ask.

Do I just ask him out? We do work in the same building, not together.. which is why I'd like to ask in a way that isn't full on in case it makes him feel awkward.. as I might also be reading some signs wrong and he might just 'be being nice' to me.

I think he's gorgeous and I like how I feel around him so I'd love to have a proper conversation outside of work and just see if there is anything there, no pressure kinda thing.. but how do I ask a guy out?! Do I text him?! Or wait til we're at work again? Or not ask at all...

I know people will say 'don't sh*t on your own doorstep.. I know, but I can't help my interests and there is hundreds of people at work, we rarely bump into each other.

If he declines it's honestly fine, at least I'd know! But I just don't know if he's picked up on my subtle hints/compliments.. arghh!

So he said..
Yes sounds good! and said some days that he's free next week! And said he's flexible whatever works around my childcare etc 😊

Soooo... let's see what happens I suppose?!?! But he said yes?!?! After all that worry.. thank you for your advice everyone!
Life is too short to not go for it! He obviously didn't get my hints over the last few weeks 😅

Thank you everyone!

OP posts:
napody · 27/09/2024 20:18

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 20:17

So he said..
Yes sounds good! and said some days that he's free next week! And said he's flexible whatever works around my childcare etc 😊

Soooo... let's see what happens I suppose?!?! But he said yes?!?! After all that worry.. thank you for your advice everyone!
Life is too short to not go for it! He obviously didn't get my hints over the last few weeks 😅

Thank you everyone!

Nice one OP!! Nothing ventured.....

Kerkyra2024 · 27/09/2024 20:18

YES!! So happy for you that he accepted!

chestnutroast · 27/09/2024 20:18

amazing!!!!

TipsyJoker · 27/09/2024 20:19

Well done 👍

chestnutroast · 27/09/2024 20:19

what did you suggest?

Greatnorthnan · 27/09/2024 20:19

Yay well done

beasmithwentworth · 27/09/2024 20:21

Ahhh this is so lovely. As someone with 2 teens who would love to meet someone but can't face going back onto the apps - this is very heartwarming! Well done and keep us posted

Mmhmmn · 27/09/2024 20:26

Seeing as you’re in same building you could ask him he fancies getting lunch somewhere?

Got to start reading updates to threads!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

MissConductUS · 27/09/2024 20:27

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 20:17

So he said..
Yes sounds good! and said some days that he's free next week! And said he's flexible whatever works around my childcare etc 😊

Soooo... let's see what happens I suppose?!?! But he said yes?!?! After all that worry.. thank you for your advice everyone!
Life is too short to not go for it! He obviously didn't get my hints over the last few weeks 😅

Thank you everyone!

I knew it!

Sometimes men need a little nudge. He was hoping you'd make the first move. He probably did notice your hints but wasn't sure that you weren't just being friendly.

You may have to do what I did and shag him to make sure he gets it. 😂

Well done, OP. We gave you advice, but you took the leap. Do let us know how it goes.

Mmhmmn · 27/09/2024 20:29

MissConductUS · 27/09/2024 20:27

I knew it!

Sometimes men need a little nudge. He was hoping you'd make the first move. He probably did notice your hints but wasn't sure that you weren't just being friendly.

You may have to do what I did and shag him to make sure he gets it. 😂

Well done, OP. We gave you advice, but you took the leap. Do let us know how it goes.

😂

IMustDoMoreExercise · 27/09/2024 20:35

whoevenknowsright · 27/09/2024 15:02

I love this!
Honestly I'd love to be confident enough to just go for it and ask him out.. but I don't want to make him feel awkward if he's really not interested like that! Maybe I'm over thinking it

Can you talk about a film or a theatre play that you are interested in seeing and see if he's interested too and then you can suggest that you go together.

So it's not like asking someone out for dinner. But you are going out together and you can see where it leads.

Arlanymor · 27/09/2024 20:37

Brilliant! So pleased for you, you can go to sleep tonight with a big smile on your face! Well done for taking the plunge!

honeypancake · 27/09/2024 20:44

Well done! 👏 it was brave but it was worth a shot. Men these days are afraid to approach women first, you say you work in the same building so many he had concerns on how to approach you. 🤞 good luck!

EveryOtherNameTaken · 27/09/2024 20:56

Let us know how it goes!!

lemonyellows · 28/09/2024 12:10

Excellent news!! Sounds promising 🤞

MaggieBsBoat · 28/09/2024 16:15

Fantastic! Well done! 🕺💃

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DistantDancer · 05/10/2024 15:29

Mumsnet does it again

Enjoy your "coffee" ! Wink

Kerkyra2024 · 05/10/2024 16:35

Eagerly awaiting an update to the date

whoevenknowsright · 05/10/2024 20:46

Kerkyra2024 · 05/10/2024 16:35

Eagerly awaiting an update to the date

So I think it went really well! I was soooo nervous before hand! But as soon as we sat talking I felt fine. Conversation flowed the whole time. We made each other laugh a lot; and seemed to get each others sense of humour well! I found him so sweet. Was just a lovely evening! We even had a kiss at the end and he said he would definitely like to see me again.. sooo fingers crossed!!

I'm not getting my hopes up too early, as we all know how things can take a complete 360 sometimes... however, so far so good! Very happy 😁

OP posts:
EBearhug · 05/10/2024 21:01

Lovely