"No siblings this time sadly"... on a kids party invite is that ever ok!?

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Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

Why on earth would you invite siblings?
More to the point, who the fuck expects a sibling to be invited?

Totally fine .

I remember when DS had his 7th birthday and it was pay per child . The dad of invitee child said she wouldn't be able to take part in soft play as her arm hurt but wanted to come .

Poor child's arm was broken ( nurse ) so advised to go straight to A+E. The dad left with sobbing invitee but left their 8 year old and 11 year old siblings with me ! Didn't even ask .

They were rude , boisterous and demanded food, cake and party bags .

Finally seen an actual ‘reverse’ on Mumsnet!!!

Tbh I wouldn't hold this against the parent though as they may have left it up to the child. I invited the whole of reception year but for Y1 let my child choose. She predictably said yes to her little cluster of close friends so no awkwardness there. However, she made some odd choices about the rest. I did a bit of 'really? I didn't know you play much with them' or 'I thought you really liked that person how come you don't want them there?' A lot of the time she couldn't really articulate her reasoning but I thought it was important to allow her to choose within reason. Kids are fickle but it's a good opportunity for them to learn to follow through with the consequences of their decisions

I used to have to take my younger 2 when oldest child was invited to a party as DH works weekends and I had no family around to help. BUT I always asked the mum hosting if it was ok and I made it clear to my younger ones that they weren't party guests and couldn't just go and eat the food etc. The mums always asked them to join in and there was always so much food left over they asked them to have some, but I didn't assume I could take them as extra guests and if it had been an issue my son would have to miss the party

It's designed to tackle people like my coworker, who boasts every time one of her kids gets a party invite, because she likes to drop the other 3 off as well and have an afternoon to herself! Of course it's OK!

Only the entitled cheeky fuckers would think siblings should always be included. They're also the type that would bring them knowing they weren't invited and expect them to be paid for and have party bags and food for them, even if actual invitees then don't have seats/food/party bags. Oh, and expect you to watch them while they chat or disappear.

Absolutely ok - it’s for the birthday child and their peers, not for every freeloading parent who thinks they can dump their entire brood at the host parent’s expense. I’ve NEVER invited siblings or taken my children to a party where guests’ siblings were included. The cost of doing so is prohibitive and the expectation is CFery of the first degree.

I would never expect siblings to be invited unless birthday child is friends with both siblings. I'd expect the birthday child's siblings to be invited. Plus kids parties tend to be age oriented so doesn't make sense to bring older kids. I can understand if someone has issues with babysitting etc and their younger is too young to be left alone at the party but that would need to be agreed with the hosting parent in advance.

The default is no siblings unless specified siblings welcome’. When I plan my kid’s bday I invite the class- ie all kids are more or less the same age and the activities are age appropriate. Older sibs would cause chaos and you def would be in the way. I’ve only had a sibling turn up once and the mom checked in advance if it was ok.

Yes - though i only said this recently because i was paying a lot per child for an event.

For a kids birthday absolutely fine.

For a wedding or family celebration invite where 1 sibling is invited and the other not (unless a horrendous back story) nope not OK.

You said in your OP

Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

Do you think it's ok or not? 😳

It is fine, its a good lesson to learn learn for kids that they are allowed to be individual from one another

When I was a kid, and admittedly it was a long time ago, if your name wasn't on the invitation, you were not invited. Occasionally one mum might ask to bring baby along, which was fine but that was it. My Grandkids invite their mates, and parents drop them off and run... no siblings.

Seems pretty entitled to assume siblings get to go, not everyone has the budget to invite more than the birthday childs friends and they aren't free babysitters.

Haha this 😂😂😂
OP sounds like one of them!

parties are not free baby sitting opportunities OP.
Entitled springs to mind

People who expect a sibling invite are total CFs.

It is always ok not to invite siblings and Bebe ok to expect it.

So you have a hall booked for 20 children
Insurance for 20 children
Half of them have siblings that they bring
Then what??

The siblings aren't the birthday child's friends so it's absolutely OK. Lovely to hear someone is making things so clear.

Reverse?

Of course it's OK to say no siblings. Otherwise you'd end up with 58 kids to pay for when you'd only budgeted for 15.

Why would anybody assume that a parent means 'dump all of your kids off on me for the afternoon and I'll feed them, entertain them and send them home with a party bag' when an invitation is handed over to one child? CFuckery of the highest degree there.

I think it's very rude to ever expect a sibling is invited.

I think it’s absolutely okay.

From the birthday boy/girls POV, surely they only want their mates there and not a load of random other younger or older kids. All my primary school bday parties I only had my friends there.

From the hosting parents POV, siblings attending could literally double, if not more than double, the amount of ch coming. They aren’t a day care centre.

From the sibling of an invitees POV, why the hell do they want to go to a party where they don’t know anyone? Or hardly anyone? I would’ve hated to go to my brothers friends parties, a load of boys three years older than me. No thanks!

The thread title and the 2 posts are so badly worded, I have NO idea what the OP is asking.