"No siblings this time sadly"... on a kids party invite is that ever ok!?

[Magicshroom]

Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

I agree that it’s ok, and it sounds like the person sending the invitations has had siblings turn up uninvited in the past.

We’ve had this; there’s a family here who bring both children along when only one has been invited, and both parents come along too!

It's very tedious isn't it

I've had siblings rock up at parties uninvited before and then had to pay for extra food for them, not have enough cake or a party bag etc. Then the older siblings jumping about on younger child's soft play etc and parents sat chatting not giving a shit. So yes absolutely parents can say no siblings!

It's fine.

If you invite the class, that's 30 kids in my school, that's expensive enough without adding another say, 10 to 20 kids, that you don't even know or even want to pay for.

Of course it’s fine! And IME it’s always the parents who never go to the trouble and expense of hosting parties themselves who are the ones who turn up with several uninvited siblings, all of whom grab the food and are front of the queue for party bags while the parent ignores them and drinks prosecco. CFs!

It's absolutely NOT obligatory to invite siblings and it's very kind and frankly quite unusual if they do get invited.

I think lots of parents these days can't be bothered to drop one child at a party, buy a present and pick them up again, unless there's something in it for them, ie, the promise of 2-3 hours free babysitting for all their kids so they can go and do something for themselves. That attitude sucks, frankly, but it doesn't surprise me that some people really are that entitled these days.

Either accept the invitation for your child or don't, if it's a massive inconvenience for you. But don't make inclusion of siblings a condition of your invited child's attendance.

Of course it's okay. My daughters party costed me £16 a head. Im not paying for her school friends siblings. Because, it was in a soft play if the parents wanted to bring other kids and pay for their entry that's their business. However, the food, party bags, cake ect were for my guests. I wouldn't begrudge a child a bit of cake if I had extra but invited guest come first.

Aghhh people need to read the OP's next post. It's a reverse

Obviously I am assuming the parent isn't expected to stay at the party, but unless it's a toddler's party, who asks that anyway?

If you are expected to stay then that's a bit different. But much like child-free wedding invitations, the party host is entitled to ask no siblings, but if it causes a massive childcare issue then they have to be prepared for the RSVPs to say 'thanks but I can't do it.'

Who would even do that?
CFs.

The inhospitable Mumsnet invite 😂
These things mostly don't happen in real life where parents understand not everyone has access to childcare
In any case it's an invite not a summons

Yep, especially if it’s a drop off, you pay to entertain your other children, it’s not a family invite.

It's perfectly ok to write that. I would omit the 'this time sadly' bit. No siblings, sorry. When did it become a thing that one person is invited and it means their siblings attend too? In fact, I'd write 'No siblings or parents' for extra clarity.

Of course it's ok, they're probably limited on numbers. You should always ask if it's ok to bring a sibling to a party and it should always be a last resort if no other childcare available. I have always said yes to people asking to bring siblings tbh but people bringing them without asking is rude

The person sending the invites has probably had to put this because of cheeky buggars thinking it's OK to bring sibling along to a party that they weren't invited to.

Of course you don't just bring along other kids and let them tag on to a party.

A reverse 😡

A bloody REVERSE. 🙄

I agree that it’s NOT OK to expect siblings to be accommodated.

A reverse is NEVER OK!!!!!!

i think it's much better to be upfront that no siblings are invited than risk having several show up on the day expecting to be entertained. Some activity parties have strict number limits anyway - this happened at one of DS's parties at a martial arts centre. They had limit of 15 due to the instructor-student ratios and someone turned up saying that "X's younger brother really wanted to do martial arts too."

Luckily another child was running late so the brother was able to participate in some of it and we had plenty of food. If other siblings had shown up though, we couldn't have included them.

Siblings invited to parties isn’t a thing where I live. Most people arrange age specific entertainment or venues where the numbers are limited.

FIVE? I'm stunned at this. Are these people particularly dim, or rude and grabby, do they come from a culture where they just don't understand the etiquette around these things? It's incredibly entitled and presumptuous.

Of course it's OK! When my DD had a birthday party for my DGD's 8th,she had no less than 4 siblings turn up. She was not best pleased.

Absolutely ok to do this. My child had a party, we invited the whole class of 28 plus 9 cousins. 37 children were invited, i made enough party bags for that amount of children. 53 children were at his party. Thankfully i did too much food and it was in a leisure centre with a giant inflatable, but i felt awful having to tell young children there wasn't a party bag for them. Only one parent asked if they could bring a sibling along because of child care issues. It was the most stressful party I've ever done.

Uh if any of my 3 children ever invited a classmate for a party then the invite is for that child only and not siblings! Parties are expensive and venues often cater for specific numbers.

I once had a friend of my child’s with a sibling turn up at their party who joined in the party (paid activity) without asking and sat down at the table taking my older child’s place!
The father just stood there and said nothing even when I tried explaining we didn’t have a spare (pre packed) lunchbox. Rude.

I thought this was the default? I don't remember bringing my sister to a party of my classmate's, or vice-versa. We only went to the same party if we were both friends with the kid whose birthday it was.

I once ended up owing a venue over £100 in charges due to siblings arriving without invite. It was a pay per child system. I was fuming as I had to use the money I'd saved for a birthday weekend away for DD so it was her who ultimately paid. Never ever again