"No siblings this time sadly"... on a kids party invite is that ever ok!?

[Magicshroom]

Is this ever ok NOT to invite siblings to kids party??

I think not ok!!!?

Yes and the "sadly" adds a nice touch

Absolutely the norm - you invite the child(ren) that you want to invite.

Siblings should only come if specifically invited or their parent have reached an agreement with the party host that it is okay for them to be there (and any limitation that may come with that - e.g paying for entry/no party bag/babes in arms)

I do not understand people who force their other children onto another parent without consultation or permission.

Yup. What are you supposed to do if an invited child has several siblings?

I can’t stand it when entitled parents think they can bring their child’s sibling along when they haven’t been invited. Most party venues cater per head, so you’ve landed me with an extra one to pay for - who my child doesn’t know and didn’t invite.

This happened at my DS’s last party, and they just rocked up with them, and asked in front of the kid if it was alright for them to stay, making it very difficult for me to refuse!

Such rude behaviour. If they’re not on the invite, don’t bring them!

Yep. Completely fine.

Never invited siblings. He's friends with his friends not their whole family.

It depends on the party, you can’t ban siblings at a soft play open to everyone as parents can bring and pay for whoever they want.

if it’s drop and go party then yes obviously siblings can’t stay but if you expect parents to stay then some might not be able to come without siblings

Its OK for them not to include siblings
Its ok for you not to attend if its inconvenient

Of course it’s okay, I didn’t get in say in how many kids you have, why should I pay for them?

all that would happen is people would stop inviting little Susie who has 4 siblings, or Jonny because his wee brother is a pain in the arse!

Absolutely fine and hopefully stops any awkwardness, specifically when you might have only ordered 15 party meals/bags and extra siblings tip up.

Am guessing the parent who wrote that on the invitation had a shed load of uninvited siblings rock up last year !!!

Of course. Siblings come with extra costs

Of course it is OK.
And if that means sometimes a child has to miss a party they have been invited to then that is sad, but life.

It's never acceptable for siblings to gate crash parties. Is that what you're used to doing?

Totally ok. Siblings take up a lot of room.....although if you are expecting parents
to stay then your number of attendees might be down if you say no siblings.

Why would a sibling even want to hang about a the party of a kid they're not friends with?

I’ve just held a party for my 5 year old at a £15 per head venue. Invited clearly said name of child that was invited. 5 siblings joined the party on the day with no warning, and the parents were surprised that I had to say to them that they would need to pay for them. I didn’t have enough to pay another £75 for children my daughter didn’t know to attend the party. It was a very awkward 2 hours. Then I had to explain they’re weren’t enough party bags either!

Of course you can say "no siblings".
The only time I'd suggest a pass is if you ask the parents to stay and help, and Mum has a small baby that she's breastfeeding.
The birthday kid is perfectly entitled to have just his or her friends at their party. The birthday kid's parents are also perfectly entitled to limit numbers as and how they wish.

WTF?!

Of course its the norm for siblings NOT to gatecrash a party!

Basic manners - invited child only. Always unless the invitation states siblings welcome.

When my DS was at an age when he had birthday parties and was invited to birthday parties- admittedly a long time ago- there was never any of this inviting siblings to parties. And he went to a lot of parties.
I never even knew this was a thing until I read it on MN.

Why should people automatically expect siblings should go along too? Children's parties are a nightmare to organise and are costly. Why should people think invitations should include all the siblings in a family?

Then you decline the invitation.

It isn't a summons.

Another sibling horror story - older sibling (maybe 7, definitely old enough to know better) wasn’t being supervised, knocked my child off bouncy castle and made her cry (at her party) then stuck his fingers in the cake (before song and candles) took a huge chunk out of the cake and broke the decorations! I was fuming!

I would have been absolutely furious . I hope your child enjoyed the party .

Of course it’s ok and i can’t understand the entitlement that parents would bring their other kids along anyway

That is ALWAYS ok and its a shame its necessary to put it on the invite but due to CFers it may be