Considering affair

[SuffolkMumof2]

I am married mum of 2 with a loving DH and great life.

I work part time for the NHS and work long hours with colleagues. I fancy one of them very much. He has already tested the waters to see if I'd be open to have a date. I dont know what to do, I really liKe the idea of a one off or 2 off.

Although it could happen at work I dont want to be caught and sacked. My entire career and home life ruined.

Bringing him home would work, the house is for me most days while DH is at work, and both my colleague and I have compatible shifts off.

I also feel guilty for considering it and wished I hadnt

Don’t shit where you live.

Don’t jeopardise your marriage, your family life or your career.

I don’t agree with people labelling you as a scumbag, that’s just very OTT; but I hope these thoughts you’re having prompt you to do something more positive and productive, talks with Hubs for example?

Make the correct choice for the long term x

You dont love your husband if you want to sleep with someone else.

Surely I cant be the only one who has had the temptation to do something allegedly and undoubtedly bad like this.
I was hoping to get experiences from women in my situation to see how bad it can get once you start

Go do it then when it all falls apart and it will come back and we can all say we told you so.
HTHs

The only thing you will get from this is into a mess! And that’s it.

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So your lovely husband a favour and leave him.

He deserves better than someone who wants to trash their marriage vows and behave like a slattern. What a hideous role model for your children you are.

This must be a joke thread, surely?

Do you love your husband and still want to be with him? Those are the first questions to ask yourself.

You’re human so have had thoughts
Consider if you turn thoughts into actions by swapping it around …
Imagine you came home to find your husband having sex with someone he fancied from work. Imagine seeing them in your bedroom, naked, enjoying themselves. How would you feel about it?
How would you feel if he liked the ‘one or two off’ and decided to do it more often?
If you wouldn’t like it, you have your answer.

Doing it in your house would be incredibly stupid and crass.

Do it at his house or a hotel if you're going to.

Or don't do it. That would be the obvious choice to preserve your homelife and family.

I wouldn't consider a full on affair as such, but I don't see a problem with occasional sexual encounters if you're not getting satisfied enough by partner but everything else is fine.
Only us men seem to think that way though.

Thank you.

Are you expecting anyone to say this is a good idea? This is either a wind up or your are delusional

happygoluckyme2 · Today 12:24

I wouldn't consider a full on affair as such, but I don't see a problem with occasional sexual encounters if you're not getting satisfied enough by partner but everything else is fine.
Only us men seem to think that way though.

Does your partner agree? Again, doubt this is genuine.

Op this is the message to really hear. Ignore all the name calling. If you didn't care you'd have fucked him by now. So work out why you're even entertaining this as more than a fantasy and work from there to fix your marriage or end it

If we can't bite people, who can we bite?

I'll bite. Yes, wives and mother's cheat, Google day use hotels if you decide to do that.

Most that cheat do so because they are unhappy in their relationship and too scared to leave so have an affair and either get found out or decide to be brave and leave. Some though live a double life for years.

I'm not psychic but a likely outcome is you shag a few times, you decide you want to burn your life and be with him, he decides it was only a shag and you throw your life under a bus

Don’t do it, if you’re unhappy leave your husband but don’t lie to him bringing another man into your marital home!
You should always treat others how you would like to be treated and definitely have more respect for the father of your children.
If you want to leave him then do it on a clear conscious!
if you don’t want to leave you should keep the fantasies locked away in your head because this will not end well and your poor husband will be very seriously mentally affected NOT IF BUT WHEN he finds out!
I really do hope this is a wind up because if not your family deserves better than this.

Oh bless the menz and their uncontrollable sexual urges - they just always have to come along to tell us women that shagging around is just fine.

Bet the kids will be just fine when their world is shattered because daddy or mummy thinks a quick thrill is more important than their security.

Not all men have such low morals

I know a lot of women who do think the same tbh, they just don't vocalise it and women are apparently not supposed to need sex in the way men do...

No I think you're meant to accept it's your fault as the woman for not providing adequate satisfaction to your man such that he has no desire to look elsewhere, and of you fail and his penis seeks comfort elsewhere, then it's a timely reminder to you to try harder with sex and forgive yourself for his failings.

But there will always be someone on the precipice of temptation. Sensible advice to someone else might just be the thing to pull them back

So if your partner feels the same that your inadequate it's OK for them too get sex elsewhere? You wouldn't feel hurt or let down?