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Considering affair

137 replies

SuffolkMumof2 · 14/09/2024 10:35

I am married mum of 2 with a loving DH and great life.

I work part time for the NHS and work long hours with colleagues. I fancy one of them very much. He has already tested the waters to see if I'd be open to have a date. I dont know what to do, I really liKe the idea of a one off or 2 off.

Although it could happen at work I dont want to be caught and sacked. My entire career and home life ruined.

Bringing him home would work, the house is for me most days while DH is at work, and both my colleague and I have compatible shifts off.

I also feel guilty for considering it and wished I hadnt

OP posts:
bifurCAT · 14/09/2024 11:12

Reverse?

"I'm on MN, hopefully all these other women will show pity and say YOLO"

NotMyCircusss · 14/09/2024 11:13

Don't soil your soul. Don't risk your poor husbands health with STIs. Don't be an utter scumbag.

namechangeforthis5 · 14/09/2024 11:15

I’m guessing you have posted because you know this is a very bad idea. Read back what you have written. I had an emotional affair and it’s over now. I thank my inner voice every day that told me not to meet up with him and to cherish what I have as he showed his true colours before it got that far. Imagine you had read this as your DH posting. And not to be harsh but you sound worse than me as I was just taken in by a very persuasive man when I was at my most vulnerable however I think deep down you don’t want to do this. All that said I would never ever bring another man to my family home. That is abhorrent.

Becsahm · 14/09/2024 11:15

it's a wind up, nobody is this disgusting in real life surely and brazenly be such a shit mum.

RockyRogue1001 · 14/09/2024 11:16

Have you never read mn before?

FrogJump123 · 14/09/2024 11:17

If you want to leave your marriage, that’s fine, but do it with honesty and dignity.
Don't fuck up your entire home and work life for a quick bonk.
Your husband, kids and extended family/friends won’t forgive that behaviour.
That fact you’ve considered being him to your family home is despicable frankly.

Choochoo21 · 14/09/2024 11:17

He has already tested the waters to see if I'd be open to have a date. I dont know what to do, I really liKe the idea of a one off or 2 off.

Of course he’s already tested the waters.

We can smell the desperation coming off of you from behind a screen.

He would obviously be able to tell how desperate/easy you are.

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 14/09/2024 11:20

In other news, wannabe writer tests the waters of MN and quickly learns that her predictable plot line is kinda boring. Back to those creative writing courses, OP!

Barrenfieldoffucks · 14/09/2024 11:20

Lol

ThisFunHedgehog · 14/09/2024 11:23

Please sort yourself out. Why jeopardise your entire family’s well-being and potentially your career for the sake of a fleeting feeling? If this is a wind up then you’re mentally sick, please seek help.

Wherearemymarbles · 14/09/2024 11:24

Surely there is a broom cupboard you guys could use instead of the family home?

Christl78 · 14/09/2024 11:25

SuffolkMumof2 · 14/09/2024 10:35

I am married mum of 2 with a loving DH and great life.

I work part time for the NHS and work long hours with colleagues. I fancy one of them very much. He has already tested the waters to see if I'd be open to have a date. I dont know what to do, I really liKe the idea of a one off or 2 off.

Although it could happen at work I dont want to be caught and sacked. My entire career and home life ruined.

Bringing him home would work, the house is for me most days while DH is at work, and both my colleague and I have compatible shifts off.

I also feel guilty for considering it and wished I hadnt

You are trolling us aren’t you? 😂.
Posting this on Mumsnet? You know you will be crucified.

In any case, why don’t you tell your husband? If he agrees to it and you set the rules he is also free to enjoy an 1 or 2 offs with another beautiful woman.

frecklejuice · 14/09/2024 11:29

This can't be real!!

Gonk123 · 14/09/2024 11:29

Why would you consider this?

frecklejuice · 14/09/2024 11:31

Great first post!

isthereaway · 14/09/2024 11:33

I'd second @eldorado02 post.
Giving into this temptation won't fill any lack in your marriage - & you will be discovered & it will ruin your life.
So - look at what needs improvement in your marriage. Fix it. If you can't, leave. Then, & only then, start another r'ship.

Wishimaywishimight · 14/09/2024 11:38

BloodyHellBob · 14/09/2024 10:40

This has got to be a wind up 😂

Yep. It's completely unconvincing. I was almost buying it until the OP mentioned bringing him to her house 🙄

Christl78 · 14/09/2024 11:39

isthereaway · 14/09/2024 11:33

I'd second @eldorado02 post.
Giving into this temptation won't fill any lack in your marriage - & you will be discovered & it will ruin your life.
So - look at what needs improvement in your marriage. Fix it. If you can't, leave. Then, & only then, start another r'ship.

I like it that you take this post seriously and you are giving honest advice. She is trolling us. This is not a real post 😂

frogsofbox · 14/09/2024 11:39

I cannot imagine this is real but let's pretend it is. Fast forward a year from now, your Dh has found out and wants a divorce. He wants 50/50 so no child support and you won't see your children every day and you will need to alternate Christmases and holidays. You have to divide up all your possessions, go through all your finances, sell the house, find somewhere else to live on your single income. Your Dh treats you with contempt for what you have done.

In the meantime you realise you have an STI and your man has moved on to someone who doesn't have children. Rumours are running round at work and no one will talk to you because of what you did.

Anothernamechane · 14/09/2024 11:40

Boring!

yesoknow · 14/09/2024 11:50

This must be why nsh waiting times are so high 🤣 Jesus op get a grip and stop acting like a teenager.

Isitsixoclockalready · 14/09/2024 11:52

SuffolkMumof2 · 14/09/2024 10:35

I am married mum of 2 with a loving DH and great life.

I work part time for the NHS and work long hours with colleagues. I fancy one of them very much. He has already tested the waters to see if I'd be open to have a date. I dont know what to do, I really liKe the idea of a one off or 2 off.

Although it could happen at work I dont want to be caught and sacked. My entire career and home life ruined.

Bringing him home would work, the house is for me most days while DH is at work, and both my colleague and I have compatible shifts off.

I also feel guilty for considering it and wished I hadnt

Definitely a wind up.

Fastback · 14/09/2024 11:53

😂

Kazzmarie12 · 14/09/2024 11:55

If its true your pathetic! If its bullshit also pathetic..grow up ffs

category12 · 14/09/2024 11:58

It's a classic hide your lover in the wardrobe scene after dh returns home unexpectedly. Cut to naked man running down an alleyway "this is me, .. "