Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

Of course not.

No, I’m the child of a serial philanderer, seeing the hurt it causes from a child’s perspective and the impact it’s had on my/my siblings self esteem would be enough of a deterrent.

No because I would not be that desperate

No because I'd find the fact that he's cheating on his wife a massive turn off 🤢

I wonder, by your comment, whether it’s coming from a place where you’ve never been able to find someone to love you enough to know this would destroy you if it happened to you. Feel sorry for you. I hope you find that soon

Love that stretch @KaleQueen

I am plenty loved thank you and very happy. I also believe sex is just sex. I don’t conflate it with love

I entertained this idea once. Met a married man whilst out at a pub. He tried to pursue things, he called me once and I heard his twin girls in the background. I shut it down right there and then. I couldn't and wouldn't go there, it's called having morals and decency.

I mean the official stats are something like 60% of married men have cheated so I guess they’re doing it with someone!

@MorrisZapp while I completely agree with you in terms of the use of language, I disagree with you in terms of holding women to account for male behaviour. I would feel exactly the same were it two women having an affair behind a male partners back. Why shouldn't women be held accountable for their own knowing part in an affair or one night stand? They may not have been the person to make the commitment to a relationship they're betraying but they are fully complicit in the hurt caused to the other person? I don't see holding women to account for their part in that in any way misogynistic? Different if you go down the "she made that poor man do it" narrative, but I see no reason why both parties wouldn't be held accountable if both parties know there's a marriage and a wife in the mix.

Yes, several.

This. ^^

In fact I would actually go so far as to say that knowingly acting in a way that harms another woman and leaves her in any way more vulnerable is misogynistic, especially when done out of a sense of competition and at her direct expense. Which is what affairs and adultery do.

Never mind the abuse of a womans rights to know that she's having safe sex etc. In that instance you have a man AND a woman knowingly removing another womans right to bodily autonomy and consent.

100% agree. I’d be calling a man posting the same pretty awful names too.

Not sure how using a few of words to describe appalling behaviour is considered worse than knowingly facilitating a family possibly being ripped apart and damaged for life all for a cheap sleazy fuck and a big of attention. Honestly alley cats have better morals

It goes without saying the men involved are lying cheating scum but the women are equally as immoral

The double moral standard hasn't gone anywhere since biblical times. Men are not belittled and dehumanised for their sexual behaviour, women are. Even when the man is committed elsewhere and the woman is single, vicious terms like slag, bitch and homewrecker are used by other women to keep potential threats in line. Obviously we can't stop men from wanting to shag indiscriminately so it's easier to make it socially terrifying for women to get involved.

You see it in every workplace with inter staff dalliances. The woman gets the blame. Every time.

Probably not, if they had an open marriage then maybe, but I’d want some serious proof I wouldn’t take his word for it. Also even if I would sleep with a married man, Mumsnet is not the place I would admit that because anyone who says yes will most likely get flamed 😂.

It's hard enough with the way some men treat women. I really wish us women would have each others backs more.

@MorrisZapp I see it more as women colluding with the scummy men who betray and deceive their wives and families.

The primary source of the rot is the awful men. They should be the focus of all blame.

But those who assist them are of course open to judgement too.

By calling other women easy fucks?

Your dd needs better friends.

I would not but plenty of people do this. So long you know what you in for. One thing I hate is the OW playing the victim in the aftermath.

Can you not find someone else?

Awful. The men are awful.

And the women are cheap, slags, easy, homewreckers, tarts and bitches.

Can absolutely nobody see a double standard here, at all?

I mean if I called your dad awful and your mother a bitch, which is more offensive? Why?

Sure, but it is true that bad behaviour can lead to bad consequences.

Karma would be the married person being cheated on, wouldn't it?

No but I don't imagine the women who do want to break up the marriage. Surely they're doing it just for the sex too?