Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

I slept with a married man when I was in my early 20's, he was a manager where I worked and very much a ladies man. He would have been about 45 and his wife Laura was a similar age perhaps a bit younger they had two children and had met at University & then moved down for Scotland. I met her a couple of times and she was very nice. I always wondered if she knew, not about me, but about her DH's many flings ( I knew 2 others he'd slept with), I think they had been married about 15 years. It always fascinated me because she must have known what her DH was like, needless to say I regretted it.

I did last week. He said they'd split. But they clearly haven't properly split. I have known him ages so thought I could trust him. He's always been nice to me. Caring. Thought his wife was very lucky. But he ghosted me after shagging me twice. I was abit hurt for 2 days. But then thought to myself. He got married 6 months ago and told me their relationship was over. Then after shagging me it changed to I think it's done and I know I need to sort myself out. If he is Comfortable going home to the wife after that then it speaks alot about how he'd treat me. He'd not be loyal or trustworthy. Also it was awful sex. Genuinely was selfish rubbish sex. Wasn't worth it!

I knew all the responses would be no. As they should be.

However when the ow becomes the new partner, cue all the women telling the wife 'ow owes you nothing'. It's a favourite mn saying. She's disrespectful, overstepping, insensitive. She owes you nothing.

I know someone who met who she thought was a lovely man online. Fortunately she found out through some very clever digging that he had a baby of a few months , two stepchildren and a partner. When she confronted him he said it was over. Despite the happy famiiies post on instagram a month beforehand. She was so upset, but fortunately hadn’t slept with him. Why on earth would any self respecting man sleep with a married or involved man? If you do, you’re as bad as he is.

No for various reasons.

I’m turned on by decency, so a liar and a cheat wouldn’t do it for me. A man pursuing me like you describe sounds a bit desperate, gives me the ick.

Women I’ve known that have slept with married men seemed to have low self esteem and be looking for validation. Again, that’s not me.

Practically, I’d be concerned about STIs. A man like that is likely to be shagging about, I probably wouldn’t be his first extramarital affair and of course he’s almost definitely still sleeping with his wife. If you decide to go for it OP would be worth asking him for a clean bill of health.

Self respecting woman!

No. I don't even need to think about this. I just couldn't.

If I knew a man was married or in a long term relationship, then no, absolutely not. It's disgraceful behaviour.