Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

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All the more reason to inform the wife, who, in turn, will definitely leave the emotionally abusive husband, right?

Maybe it's lame to genuinely not care about 🍆 size??

He could have the biggest bank account in the world, the cutest basket of puppies, the best cookie recipe etc. Him being married and chasing me would be the biggest turn off.

He could have the biggest 🍆 in the 🌎 and it wouldn’t tempt me to shag someone else’s DH. ( In fact it might even put me off further…😳😬)

Absolutely not.

i did this when i was much younger, and have always felt crap about it. would never do it again. Any man saying he is trapped in a marriage needs to deal with it, and either leave or stay but commit to the decision.

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Complete drivel, but entertaining.
You're really showing your pick-me nature with that last comment. You're obviously competitive with other women over men, which is a deeply pitiful thing. Who taunts another woman about such a thing? Even an OW should have more humanity than that. It's appalling behaviour. Just get some therapy.

I would certainly tell because she has a right to know. She may not leave him though. You can't get attached to an outcome. If she's not a friend, I'd just inform her and remove myself from the situation.

I did precisely this. Then I fell in love with him and he walked away with no reason given. I wasn't tempted in the slightest to tell his wife.

Ended up with my heart splattered all over the county. Karma indeed.

Absolutely not sleeping with a married man is just about the trashiest thing a woman can do.

Absolutely no. Let’s be honest most of us have been in the position where we could but we have the self respect to say no.

I genuinely don’t understand the mindset of anyone who knowingly has sex with an attached person and shrugs their shoulders and says ‘well I’m single so it’s not on me’

I hate this idea about not knowing someone so not owing them anything. Surely as human beings, we owe it to other human beings to not be a party to something that will hurt and traumatise them? Yes, of course the man is the one who is married so it's on him 100%. But it's also on the OW (or OM if the sex is reversed and it's a woman cheating with a man) if she's so selfish and callous to help inflict that kind of pain on someone.

I agree, the only way the make the world a nicer place is to act like decent people. That doesn't mean accepting being tramped on but it does mean behaving with moral standards

No because I believe in treating women with respect. Hopefully that means I am respected too. And if not well hey I still don't get to live with guilt and ostracisation.

Also DM had an affair and it would be the height of hypocrisy . If you are in ANY doubt, extra marital affairs are akin to detonating a bomb at home.

No, never.

Absolutely. I don’t understand how some women can be so blasé and callous to being complicit in potentially destroying another woman’s life by saying ‘his wife isn’t my problem’’ just for sez.

No once ages ago my son started football and his coach was chatting to me down the park one day whilst our kids played together. He began flirting in texts that night and the wife wasn't mentioned for 2 weeks. I think I thought they'd split but wasn't sure. I realised when his wife was stood next to me chatting away at football practice that he was incredibly cocky and was quite comfortable with us being stood together. He messaged me after practice saying you looked amazing. I felt alot of sympathy for his wife to be honest and wondered how many times she had sensed or knew he was flirting outside of their marriage as no way was I the first.

Anyone that is comfortable betraying their partner like that isn't very nice are they. I understand that on occasion some people fall for eachother and it gets messy. But when it's just for a s h a g. I mean what's the point? He already has someone to s h a g and isn't that the whole point in marriage and commitment.

I think you need to think how you'd feel if your boyfriend was balls deep inside another woman and messaging her all night whilst you sleep..as that's what pain you'll be causing another woman!

I completely agree. It AMAZES me that this is the go to argument as a get out of jail free card for other women. I can’t think of any other real life situation where common decency and a strong sense of morality is trumped by the nonsense of ‘you didn’t make the promise to them so..’

I’ve been on countless threads where calling this argument out is then seen as misogynistic.

I have no time for some of the language used against other women but it does seem to be far more misogynistic to collude with a man in removing his unaware wife’s right to sexual consent and personal agency?

Attracted to a man who thinks it's okay to cheat on his wife? What's attractive about a man with no moral compass exactly? Even if you don[t care about another woman's feelings, think about the type of man you find attractive.

No, I wouldn’t be a co-conspirator is causing another woman, and her innocent children, emotional, financial and psychological trauma. A lifetime of mental pain.

No I wouldn’t knowingly do it, and anyone who does this to another human deserves a lifetime of misery.

Those of you who enable cheating men, the next time something horrible happens in your life, go look in the bathroom mirror, and repeat, “I deserve this, I am an awful human”.

Sorry this was for @Bananachocs

Exactly this.

"I don't know you, so I can fuck up your life and your children's and cause untold pain with no remorse on my part" takes a particularly scummy piece of work.

To then sit all Pikachu-shocked-face at the idea they should be accountable for their dog shit conduct because in their eyes "it's all the man, and calling me out for being anything but totally innocent is misogyny" is just another layer of how unaccountable they are that anything is ever their fault. They're always that type. Nasty and never at fault in any part of their life.

Have any of you read this thread? Is it fair that the OPs husband has made her marriage sexless? This is one of several threads where one partner takes sex off the table. Which isn't ok.

If she finds a fwb, I think it should be with the consent of her partner. If that happened, should the FWB seek validation from the OPs partner of that consent? This is the hard reality of some of the married men which we are discussing on this thread. Whatever is happening, it would certainly not be the FWBs place to get involved. Nor would they be deserving of the awful name calling on this thread because they're sleeping with someone who is married.

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