Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

There is actually no justification for sleeping with a married man and yes he's the one cheating but as a woman knowingly doing this is nothing more than a low life parasite

But you're complicit in hurting another person? If someone murdered someone and you helped move the body and kept it quiet for them, do you not think you'd be accountable in any way? You didn't kill them but you were still involved and therefore accountable?

OP, you are worth more than this. Why be attracted to a man who has no respect for you or his wife?

I couldn't agree more!!!!

This. Nothing more needs to be considered. Why do some feel like they can treat other people like they don’t matter. If children are included, then further shame on you.

Reported for misogyny

No. It’s an appalling thing to do to his wife.

Have some respect for yourself too.

He is also foul to do that to women.

I have done but didnt no they was with someone or married.
Just one nighters though no strings.

Name changed for this because people will probably hate me but one of the things I like about MN is getting different perspectives on things I hadn't considered, so hopefully at least someone will be interested in mine and I won't get any death threats!

I probably would, if I'm honest. I don't fancy many people and I don't get many opportunities to have sex because I live in London and do an average job so am still living at home in my mid thirties, which is shit for your sex life. Most of my friends and friends of friends are married, so it's almost impossible to meet anyone my age who is single and doesn't also live at home or in a flat share. I work in an industry where sometimes we're in hotels or apartments abroad for months. I have slept with quite a few colleagues in this situation who I knew had girlfriends and/or kids, and would again if I had the chance to tomorrow, because for me the chance to sleep with someone I'm attracted to is so rare that I couldn't pass it up.

It doesn't feel to me like a big deal morally because I think relationships are more about convenience and economic security than anything else, so I don't think cheating is that big a deal. Most relationships I've been in one or the other of us has cheated, sometimes I was upset at the time but it's not something I think about or am upset about when I look back on it - they were relationships that probably would have ended anyway for one reason or another. I am a lot sadder when I think about opportunities I could have had to have sex with someone or situations where I could have tried harder to pursue a relationship but messed it up or let something go without making my feelings clear because I was scared of rejection.

Had a friend who did this. One guy refused for a few months...but she wore him down eventually 😞

Well, I mean you do you. I am not a judgemental person. So if you think that’s just fine though…to do that to another woman…it has made me wonder…. I wonder, by your comment, whether it’s coming from a place where you’ve never been able to find someone to love you enough to know this would destroy you if it happened to you. Feel sorry for you. I hope you find that soon.

Never intentionally

I probably could have but my morals kicked in, in the moment. I regret it though if I'm honest.

I did when I was 18 becuase I was 18 and didn't really care about her or anyone, including myself. He was a serial cheat, still is over 10 years later. I hear from him every now and again trying his luck.

What you regret not having sex with him?

It's not like there's a shortage of single men to have no strings sex with so you must grab a married man.

He’s abusing his wife and you are complicit in that abuse
No

You say you don't want a relationship, but you're already finding him hard to resist. Do you know him from work etc? It could get very very messy for you.

If you slept with him- how would you feel if he ghosted you or moved onto another target? Or you carried on sleeping with him and developed feelings but he won't leave his wife?

Either way you're single, you don't need that drama in your life!

Lots of other people have said similar here. Particularly my first descriptor. They’ve also used worse words. Criticising people’s behaviour isn’t misogyny just because they happen to be women 🙄

This isn’t about someone being irresistibly attractive, or just a need to have sex. You can do those things with someone who isn’t in a relationship. This is about being the chosen one. So if you’re asking, does anyone sometimes like to feel special and important? Well, yes, I do. I don’t always feel good about myself. I get that.

But then what’s going on from the married man’s point of view? Has he seriously got it all wrong and you’re the love of his life, doesn’t sound like it… Is he always on the look out for someone, anyone else? Is he smiling, complimenting, touching any woman just to see who bites? Are women just things to him? Would it really make you feel good to just be a thing for him to use? Wouldn’t that make you feel much worse? That’s without getting into the betrayal and deceit that you will be complicit in enacting on his partner.

So no, I think it’s best not to do something in the hope it might make me feel good but in the knowledge it would make me feel awful. You can’t escape that, and you know that, or you wouldn’t have asked. You’re not absolved, you have to live with your poor decisions forever, we all do.

Why would anyone deliberately set out to sleep with a married man?
Shame needs to come back in fashion

Using hateful sexist language such as bitch and slag are examples of misogyny. Holding women to account for male behaviour is the definition of misogyny.

There was a year of my life when I had sex with something like six married men, so yes. I think the others were single. I didn't ask any of them but some told me. There was only one of them I saw more than once. Just wanted sex and novelty and plenty of both.

Um I didn't grab him though did I @Eldrick47s 🤨