Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

I don't know how you can find a man who is willing to cheat on his wife remotely attractive. You need to look at why you like the attention and deal with this.

No. I'm not a tramp.

well yes if I was married to him

Nail on the head in the first response!

To be honest I really struggle with the idea that if you knowingly have sex or any type of affair with someone who you know is married, that responsibility lies solely with the married person.

I'm not sure that flies with me.
If I knew a guy was married there's no way I'd entertain the idea of it no matter how much I liked him because i would have empathy for his wife and the hurt it would cause. I'd feel like I was actively participating in that because I knew he was married and decided to proceed regardless. It's one thing to not know someone is married and become the other woman by accident but realistically I think if you know then you have partial responsibility. Obviously he's completely responsible as well and should be held accountable but if you know then I think you're a bit accountable as well.

Plus realistically the idea of an unhappy marriage- unless there is a very specific set of circumstances (thinking for example a partner with advanced dementia who can't remember them or something similar) then I can't see a reason why you'd buy that. If he's so unhappy that he wants to cheat then he needs to either work on the marriage or leave it. I don't think I'd believe the unhappy husband line enough to have it be justification.

Realistically op you're saying you've no intention of ending his marriage and it's just a bit of fun, but if his wife found out then actually you could well be part of that marriage ending so what's the difference really? I think we can justify anything to ourselves if we try hard enough, question is if we should.

Yes she has distanced herself massively from them

No. Never.

doesn’t stop people assuming though. Dh’s ex is telling everyone -including his adult kids- I was the OW that broke up their marriage. Nope, it was her had the affair.

a work colleague told his wife we were having an affair. He tried, I said no. God knows what that was about.

again, I would never. No man is worth it, especially one that is a cheating arse.

@Coconut91
dont have sex with another woman’s husband. It makes you trash. Some people are hard to resist, married men trying to fuck women who aren’t their wives? Also trash.

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They’ll be tears before bedtime OP

Nope! Us women should stick together.
It’s also a massive turn off knowing he’s a liar who puts his ego before his wife. 🤮

No, because as attractive as he would be to me if he is married and is pursuing single women all the attractive will became disgust and I would no longer be attracted to him.

No I wouldn’t ever do this, because it’s not right but also it’s been done to me and the hurt from the betrayal is indescribable.

The ‘kink’ you’re suggesting is probably girls wanting and seeking ‘validation’ that they are somehow worth risking everything because they are so special (usually they aren’t, there’s normally more than one), or better than the wife, or desirable when in fact if they knowingly pursue married men they are a homewrecker and generally not a nice person. Sorry, just my opinion.

I also think this is like that desperate attention seeking on SM for likes just to validate yourself.

No; if I'm honest, not from any strong moral objection - it wouldn't be I who had made promises to his wife - I just wouldn't want the potential drama of such a situation.

No. Find someone single, a fuck buddy if you will.

No, I don't share and any man who could be taken to bed that easily has done it before many times.

You just don't. Think of the antibiotic resistant gonorrhea going about. It's gross.

No, because however attracted to him you are the fallout and how you will feel about yourself the next day just isn't worth it.

No. There's someone who is being made a fool of, even if she doesn't realise it, and I couldn't be attracted to someone who would do that to his wife.

This!

Nope. Married men have nothing to offer me. Plus if they can cheat with me, they can cheat with others and I'm none-too-keen on the thought of contracting an STI.

Unless you have daddy issues and no self respect or self worth, then no normal person would.

Have some self respect.

Attracted physically? Because the fact anyone would do something like that to someone the supposedly love is not attractive in the slightest.

Personality is (or should be) a large part of what makes someone attractive. On the outside they can be drop dead gorgeous but if internally they're bad, it doesn't matter.

Also, just take a beat to think about how you would feel if your significant other was pursuing another woman, and how you'd feel about that woman if she actively participated. Because that's who you'd be.

My friend has attachment issues. She's had relationships with three married men. Two of them were clearly in failing relationships and left their wives. She immediately binned them. She says it's not her problem as they are the married ones not her.

I couldn't. It's not down to my moral compass , its his ( or his lack of one ) I'd find repellent.

@Coconut91 no. No but you go for it if you think that’s the right thing to do right now, while you’re single, and carefree.
Then when you’ve found the love of your life and you marry him and carry his children, when you’ve built your world around him, and love him for better and for worse, and you think he does you, you’ll be totally cool when he goes off and shags someone new while you’re married… probably younger and now far more attractive than you’ve become. She’ll be fun and exciting and sexy just like you think you are right now. And you’ll be the wife at home with his kids breaking your heart when you find out. But you’ll be cool with that. I’m sure 👍 after all, he’s not sleeping with you anymore as you’re boring now.