Would you sleep with a married man? Even if you didn't want him to leave his wife.

[Coconut91]

Just wondering would anyone sleep with a married man, that you find very attractive. And you know he's married and don't want to break up his marriage or have a relationship with him?
You're also single.

Let's just say you have no care or concern for his wife ( that's the truth of it), this will only end up hurting you.

You might feel you're in control right now because you kind of are. But it's likely that, being a woman, you're going to develop additional feelings once sex is involved, feelings that he's not going to have. Then the power dynamic will shift and you'll feel like shit.

Makes sense but with her I think it was issues with her father. He seemed to be in her life until the next woman came along. Just a hunch but from the little I know, it would make the most sense.

Yeah, I know of a female cheater with daddy issues. Her father was emotionally incestuous with her and set her up as a rival to her mother. She repeats that pattern over and over by getting involved with married men.
She's certainly no friend of mine, I can't stand her.
Having a crap childhood is not an excuse to be an asshole.

You can find a hard dick anywhere. Don’t interfere in another woman’s relationship. He’s a cunt. Doesn’t mean you have to be one too.

So you’re willing to destroy a woman, her family and her future because you’ve got hot pants?

Here’s hoping he gives you herpes from all the other slags he’s knocking off on the side.

We don't have to know someone to have a conscience and consideration for them. We should have it for everyone really.

Men can have morals and decency and even if they couldn't, we women still could.

Eh? That's nuts.

I don't fly and a whole lot of other things because I think it's shitty to add unnecessary carbon to the atmosphere as it's likely to fuck things up for people I'll never meet in another hemisphere (and eventually this one too). It's not because of some 'code': I just don't want to be a dick, irrespective of whether I know the person I'm being a dick to or not.
I don't have to have the thing I want (foreign holiday / fast fashion / burger / another woman's partner etc) if having it means causing misery or harm to another person.

Nope - I would not. I have no interest in involving myself in some form of "sticky web of lies".
That chap (handsome or otherwise) is inviting you into a life of deceit, guilt, hurt, and regret. A relation built on deceiving another is not really one that I would expect to thrive.
Run for the hills OP!

Yep did this when I worked and lived in a pub when I was about 18. Not proud of it but when you see someone every day for months in end and have a connection you get feelings. I was young and naive and the only literal reason I carried on with it for the six months it went on is he was a lot lot older than me and I home been with many men at the time and he was amazing in bed not to mention I’d never seen a 🍆 so big before that point on my life 😂😳.

The 🍆 was an endearing detail. 🤮

I had only been with a few guys up until him and I suppose I was just shocked. It made s3x completely different for me in so many ways.

Not unexpected from anyone who excuses being an affair partner by their youth and "getting feelings." We all get feelings. We don't have to act on them. Such a lame excuse.
They always start with the disclaimer; "I'm not proud of it." Then they add "but feeeeelings." 🙄

Grow up and stop being such a boring person. It happens to lots of people. No doubt it’s happened to you by your partner considering the edwardian/lame views you have on the situation.

No, because the fact that a married man makes himself available for a side shag gives the the ick.

Exactly, it would instantly put me
right off him no matter how attractive he is.

This is partly why I don’t have casual sex with randoms, there’s more chance of accidentally sleeping with a married man if you don’t know anything about them .

(And by ‘accidentally’ I’m not saying the sex happens by mistake of course 😆I mean I may not realise he’s married)

I do my due diligence before I even so much as kiss a man.

No, never.

Have done. Fell for him during a vulnerable period in my early 20’s. It was horrible and one of my biggest regrets. Never in a million years would I do it again.

Are you saying it's boring/Edwardian/lame to not want to sleep with someone else's husband....?

‘Edwardian and lame’ to not want to involve ourselves with stealing another woman’s right to informed sexual consent, her personal agency and to assist in her abuse.

Right…

And yes the aubergine emoji was beyond sad!

I hope you and all the women like you meet gorgeous, sweet, caring men who show you that not all men are pieces of shit and give you the confidence to value yourself and trust them.

Then once you’re established as a loving couple start screwing a work colleague/ one of your friends/ someone they meet at a hobby so you can experience the other end of this. Won’t it be fun then.

At least you’ve learnt and grown from the experience. Just curious - was he much older than you ? I’m grossed out at the amount of middle aged married men who target much younger women.

Who are you directing that post to @Truthbetolddd? If someone doesn't want to shag married men for the fun of it, conspire to remove another woman's right to choose not to be with a cheater, take away informed consent, risk disease and generally be selfish, then I'll continue to be boring thanks very much.

You also clearly don't know much about Edwardian attitudes, given that the married bloke the era was named after shagged around for England and many women colluded with him in it.

Well there must be plenty of women who do it.

Well yes there are. If you want to join the ranks of these shitty people, knock yourself out.

There’s something deeply unpleasant/ tone deaf about your post.

Or lame not to want to sleep with a big 🍆 at all costs?

Yes the Victorians in particular had almost institutional adultery. It’s only as women’s equality became a more established notion that we thought it deserved 🥒.