Do you think once a man hits you once he’ll do it again?

[Missmaria95]

I’m 28 and he’s 37, we’ve been together nearly 3 years. I’ve always knew he had a temper, not necessarily towards me, just no patients. He is an ex body builder, so for the first few months of our relationship he was taking steroids, admittedly he treated me really bad during those times. But last week, he punched me in the face, not hard enough for me to be in pain but all the same he punched me, he then spat in my face twice. This happed because I was moody due to us travelling 2 hours with his friend to end up just driving back home because his friends girlfriend didn’t want to participate, but I ‘ruined’ it by being moody. He apologised and said how much he hates himself. Like I say, this is the first time in the whole relationship he actually hit me. Do you think because I ‘forgave’ him he’ll do it again?

Also, tell everyone you know in real life what he did.
They can then support you and it will help stop you returning to him.

Don't keep it a secret.

It's good that you've realised and are now leaving him.
Sounds like he's never treated you well but is now vamping things up by using physical violence towards you.

Every time my ex beat me he was "sorry". Didnt stop him trying to kill me.

Name changed to protect the guilty but please leave - I watched a family member spend years with a violent and abusive man but because he was “nice” sometimes she stayed and made her children’s lives miserable - don’t do this to yourself and any future family I still harbour resentment about the fact that she didn’t leave ❤️

What a disgusting man. I'm worried what he'll do when you try to leave. Maybe let the police know what he did and that you're leaving. Definitely have family around you

Please leave this person now. He is abusive and dangerous. Of course he will do it again. Get out now!

Yes. Leave. The end.

OP well done for leaving him, this is a decision that saved your life. He clearly has severe issues. Stay strong, you can do this!

These types of men ALWAYS do it again. Get out now.

Yes, it's a warning, a red flag if he hits you once, he'll do it again, and again.

It's why the domestic violence laws were tightened. Women kept being murdered by their partner.

Just don't be a statistic

Get out now, don't allow it to.happen again

There are many things in relationships that deserve a second chance but that is definitely not one of them.

Well done OP.

You get out and don't look back.

Let us know how you get on.

It’s not so much about the hitting because actually he has been agressive and abusive on many occasions - I think if you consider the actual punch as a ‘one off’ it’s misleading because it’s very much a pattern of behaviour that is exactly in line with his character. You need to get away from him op, no good will come and he has serious issues that put you in danger. Please please do not have any kids with this person and get away as quick as you can. X

Yes.

If you don't leave him, he will kill you one day.

Well done for leaving, OP. Report it to the police online via 101. Do not, under any circumstances, go back to this man, no matter what sweet words, promises or DARVO he uses (and he will). You forgiving him will only give him carte blanche to do it again and to escalate and to blame you for his actions each and every time. Good luck, go have a lovely life without this absolute monster polluting it.

a man that would hit me would give me the ick, also i dont believe in only once. its only once until the next time

It would be great to know if you were away from him and safe.

Yes he will! Next time though you may not be fortunate enough to be able to start a thread. Please get out now run and don’t look back. Don’t wait until you’ve 3 kids who are crying their eyes out on the stairs while their daddy beats the shit of their mummy.

Oh sorry op I’ve just saw you’ve left the despicable beast. I won’t say well done or you’re very brave though as that could be seen as implying that those who are too terrified to leave are weak. Its alright me in the comfort of my own with just me and my dog telling someone to leave but for some it’s not that straight forward.

Well done for leaving OP.

I understand why the spitting felt worse than the punch.

Don’t let him reel you back in. He won’t change. You deserve better and a happier life is ahead without him in the picture.

Take all the support you can from family and friends. None of this is your fault. Everyone gets moody at some point in life. No one should be punched or spat on for it.

When you feel stronger, you could try reporting his behaviour. He will do it to the next woman unlucky enough to cross his path. There are good men out there.

Please don't change your mind about leaving.

The longer you leave it the harder it gets and the more aggressive he gets!

So pleased to read the update and know that you will be safe from today onwards.

Remember you deserve to love and be loved.

Wishing you strength and a memory that holds onto what a horrible degrading thing happened.

Yes. And you should get out before you end up seriously injured or dead.

Get out!!!

Sorry didn’t see the update so edited to say good luck moving forward, glad you’ve chosen the right path.