Do you feel embarrassed of your overweight DP

[Littlemyyyyy]

My husband was getting ready for work this morning when he came out of the shower he commented on how he had gained some weight, I literally dgaf what he looks like as I love(d) the man to pieces, i casually said "you do eat a lot of junk food, what do you expect is going to happen? I think you're gorgeous regardless" he the. Got really annoyed and replied "well you haven't lost any weight since having the baby in October in fact you've probably put on a stone, I don't even like being seen with you these days" then left for work. To say I'm gobsmacked is in understatement. I have just been sitting in silence for the last half hour half crying with anger half crying with shock. He has never mentioned my weight and is constantly telling me I'm beautiful, I never in 100 years would have expected him to say that, to say he doesn't even like being seen with me because I've gained some weight after having baby is heartbreaking. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism back in April and I'm finding it very hard to shift the weight. I'm by no means morbidly obese, I'm 5'8 and 13 stone, he on the other hand is 6'2 and almost 20 stone. I don't even know why I'm posting this on just so upset and shocked and didn't have any one to talk to.

Thanks for all the replies. I still haven't been out with him in public. My self esteem is at its lowest low and I have barely eaten in days. At least he's tried to make it up to me and said he doesn't think I'm fat and that he was more upset with himself. It's not what he said but how he had said it and look of bitter disgust on his face before he left that has hurt me so much, I just need to pull myself together and stop self pitying!

OP, he was absolutely vicious in what he said.
There is no excuse.
He has shown you a very ugly side to him, towards a new vulnerable mother.
This is who he is.
I think you would be very wise not to let this slide without a huge discussion.
Has he apologised profusely?
If not, you have no reason to be business as usual.
You are not his emotional punching bag, yet he thinks you are.

If you tolerate this and allow him to think he can speak to you like this, I guarantee this won't be the last time he speaks to you like that.
Keep family and friends close.
Return to work.
You need to keep your independence when you are married to a nasty man.

Also op in terms of your self esteem, just remember there are far WORSE things about people than the fact they might be overweight. You could be forgiven for getting confused about that in our society, but really it’s not the be all and end all. People put on weight for all types of reasons and only a handful are straightforward laziness or gluttony. More often it’s hormonal or genetics or stress or just simply having other people and things that trump weight-watching that you have to attend to. I read so many threads on here with people lecturing about weight and always privately think I’d rather have the op’s avoirdupois than their tedious narrow view and superiority.

He’s the person with a eating/weight problem, not you. Please try to eat normally and as I said upthread, go back to your GP and ask for another blood test. Weight gain due to an underactive thyroid can be reversed when you’re on the right amount of medication.

Hypothyroidism literally means that your thyroid isn’t producing enough hormone. Once it’s replaced with the correct amount of synthetic hormone, your weight will stabilize. But it fluctuates so you need to be tested regularly. 💐