Tent lodger?

[Feelingtents]

I've been dating someone for just shy of 6 months. At first everything was great we got on so well and spent most of our free time together. He said and did all of the right things and we seemed like a great match.

I introduced him to my kids and we have spent days together going to the beach and theme parks.

I've noticed recently that he's started to get more and more short tempered with me.

Fast forward to now. I booked and paid for us to come away camping for a few nights. (not our first time camping together) The first full day here the weather was forecast to be awful. The night before we talked about going sightseeing because of the crappy weather.

The day arrived and I needed to take an important call at 9.30. I had to drive to an area with better signal to take the call.i left him in bed and said bye. When my call finished about an hour later, I called to ask if he'd like me to pick him up some breakfast. He was really angry for waking him up despite having slept for over 12hrs.

When I got back he had a face on. He tried to make breakfast for us both and got irritated that the eggs stuck to the pan, so he hurled the pan out of the tent and stropped back to bed. Where he stayed till after 6pm.

I sat there like a twat reading my book trying to be as quiet as possible. Around 4.30 I went out, leaving him in bed and found a nice place to get something to eat. I'd only been gone a little over 30mins when I got a message from him saying thanks for taking the powerbank with you. After he'd ignored me all day he was now in another strop because I'd took the power bank to charge in the car.

Fast forward to today. We had a lazy morning he didn't get up till after 9 and has had over 12hrs sleep. We went to the beach this afternoon. He went for a dip in the sea and when he got out, he laid down on the blanket. I tried to have a chat with him but he scolded me like a child and said can't I get any peace, you've just woke me up again like you did the other day.

I packed up my stuff and came back to the tent. I've been left him to it on the beach

I'm sick of it being made to feel like I can only talk to him when it's convenient for him.

Am I being an inconsiderate twat and should I have just let him sleep. Or is he being a nob?

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A year ago I was left in a seaside town 3 hours away from where I lived by a stroppy arsehole who wanted to ruin our weekend away because he cared more about drugs than me. I didnt know he was on drugs. I knew he'd brought a significant amount of weed away with him. He spent the whole weekend puffing the rubbish and speeding around where we were like he had no time to stop and relax. It was shit.
You should never feel on eggs shells. He's a mardy dick head.

He's showing his true colours. Dump!

Well I'd be a bit irritated by your behaviour too. Taking a work call on holiday. Complaining because somebody was not up at 9 am on holiday. Sounds like you're just not suited. But he does sound very immature and short tempered, Things will only get worse so my advice would be to end it.

Life without a man is better than this by a long way. Just saying.

Please dump him. He sounds awful. Have some self respect and tell him to do one x

This must be a huge disappointment after such a promising start, OP, but you definitely need to end this.

If you were several years in, maybe a decade or so, and after a particularly trying time (and basically a decade of good behaviour), one of you had a really grumpy weekend, then maybe you could overlook it when set against a long shared and contented history. But you’re only 6 months in. This is the real him. He thinks he can treat you with contempt. You need to end it.

You’ve only been together six months and he’s behaving like this?!

OP, it’s not going to get better. You need to end this relationship. He’s showing his true colours.

He thinks he can treat you with contempt.

And he will.

It's absolutely great he has shown you who he is within six months. I honestly feel 6 months was too quick to introduce the children but that's by the by now.

Please get rid he is bloody awful. You deserve better.

Camping brings out the worst in people but it sounds like he’s miserable anyway.

If you can’t leave could you plan some nice things to do alone?

He’s shown the real him - multiple times. If it’s not making you happy, get out!

A couple of years 😂😂😂

Yes! only introduce a partner that's likely to be permanent. Don't put the kids through the stress of meeting a succession of boyfriends.

Why are you even asking? Just dump the prick..

It's been 6 months, chalk it up to a bad mistake and don't waste any more time

He’s showing you who he really is so you need to believe him. Apologies will probably come but it’s the actions you need to pay attention to and there’s major red flags. This behaviour will only get worse trust me so I would leave and if you can’t do that for you then please do it for your kids as he won’t just be like this with you he will most likely be like this with them too if they do something which he deems annoying . You can choose who comes and stays in your life but they can’t so please get rid of this guy - you and they deserve better x

Get him to fuck.

Why does he need to sleep so much?
He sounds utterly vile.

Of course an egg will stick to a pan unless there is cooking oil- I can't bear people who throw stuff in temper.

If you want a peaceful future, leave this horrible specimen as soon as possible.

I’d pack my stuff in my car and drive home . Fingers crossed the tide comes in and washes him in the sea .

Sleeping for so long does sound very un-natural.
Could be drugs {Opioids} or a health issue {Hypothyroid} or ''escapism''-

Either way, the ''charming'' initial veneer has begun to chip off, revealing the real him underneath.

He sounds like a total arsehole. Pack up the tent and the power bank. Arsehole.

He’s not a nob…..he’s NASTY! My first DH turned like this after about 6 months and I kept making excuses for his behaviour and stayed. It’s now my biggest regret in life. I should have left at that point and saved myself years of misery. Don’t make the same mistake. Dump now.

This is not for you nor for any other woman who wants love and respect.

He is unkind, selfish and vile. Get rid of him. Seriously, what does he bring to your life that outweighs this pathetic behaviour?