Tent lodger?

[Feelingtents]

I've been dating someone for just shy of 6 months. At first everything was great we got on so well and spent most of our free time together. He said and did all of the right things and we seemed like a great match.

I introduced him to my kids and we have spent days together going to the beach and theme parks.

I've noticed recently that he's started to get more and more short tempered with me.

Fast forward to now. I booked and paid for us to come away camping for a few nights. (not our first time camping together) The first full day here the weather was forecast to be awful. The night before we talked about going sightseeing because of the crappy weather.

The day arrived and I needed to take an important call at 9.30. I had to drive to an area with better signal to take the call.i left him in bed and said bye. When my call finished about an hour later, I called to ask if he'd like me to pick him up some breakfast. He was really angry for waking him up despite having slept for over 12hrs.

When I got back he had a face on. He tried to make breakfast for us both and got irritated that the eggs stuck to the pan, so he hurled the pan out of the tent and stropped back to bed. Where he stayed till after 6pm.

I sat there like a twat reading my book trying to be as quiet as possible. Around 4.30 I went out, leaving him in bed and found a nice place to get something to eat. I'd only been gone a little over 30mins when I got a message from him saying thanks for taking the powerbank with you. After he'd ignored me all day he was now in another strop because I'd took the power bank to charge in the car.

Fast forward to today. We had a lazy morning he didn't get up till after 9 and has had over 12hrs sleep. We went to the beach this afternoon. He went for a dip in the sea and when he got out, he laid down on the blanket. I tried to have a chat with him but he scolded me like a child and said can't I get any peace, you've just woke me up again like you did the other day.

I packed up my stuff and came back to the tent. I've been left him to it on the beach

I'm sick of it being made to feel like I can only talk to him when it's convenient for him.

Am I being an inconsiderate twat and should I have just let him sleep. Or is he being a nob?

Well, there's a vision of your future OP. You'll be up and doing and he'll be asleep for hours, grumpy and sulking when he's woken. Six months is nothing but don't waste anymore time on him

Yep, the mask has slipped. I wonder if a camping trip would be a brilliant move for all new relationships - see what he's really like under quite trying and uncomfortable circumstances, then consider as this is his true character, how will you feel in a couple of years down the line after more of this?

Knob, this first 6 months is meant to be the fun bit

Who is even able to stay in a tent for that long?
I would pack up and move to another campsite - without him.

He’s abusive. What next, smashing things, getting more verbally abusive? Where will it end. Get out now.

I think most people would have thrown him back in the sea permanently.

You are in an abusive relationship.. Is this all you're worth? Your dc do not need such a man anywhere near them. Neither do you. Ltb and block him in all ways. Or you may live to regret it.

God get rid. And don't introduce anyone to your kids so early in future.

You'd be far better alone OP. This sort of person gives men a bad name.

Why is he sleeping so much? Does he usually? That’s like toddler length sleep!

It doesn’t sound good at all tbh - do you know much about him, pre-relationship? Is this very out of character or has he been hiding this side of himself till now?

No OP should tell him to go home. She paid for it.

Leave. This is the real him, the rest was an act. Trust me.

Ask yourself why you even stayed with him last night? Don't you think you deserve to be treated better?

You do.

Agree. Best behaviour, love bombing, mirroring - all to create the facade of the perfect bf. And then something simple happens and the mask slips revealing the ugly truth.

There's a reason he was single when you met him. Be good to yourself and get rid.

This x 100000

Tell him to get to the GP too to rule out anything underlying if this is a sudden change. But most likely he's a bit of a shit and not one for camping. Not everyone loves tent life. But sadly you may well just be meeting the real him.

Next time he falls asleep, pack up the tent round about him and leave! After all, he did tell not to waken him…

Is the tent yours? If so, then start taking it down, get in the car and drive off. No need to say anything, in case you disturb him!
If it's his tent, then that's easier, just get your stuff and go.

When I got back he had a face on. He tried to make breakfast for us both and got irritated that the eggs stuck to the pan, so he hurled the pan out of the tent and stropped back to bed. Where he stayed till after 6pm. ….I sat there like a twat reading my book trying to be as quiet as possible.

C’mon OP. Why are you trying to appease him and allowing him to treat you like shit? It’s only been 6 months.

I hope to god, you’ve not let him move in with you?

As everyone else has already said, he’s been playing a part up until now, but this is who he really is. He won’t improve no matter how much you try to please him. He’ll no doubt put on his Prince Charming act and say you’re mistaken but face facts. He’s a manipulative arsehole and you need to chuck him back into the stinky pond where he came from.

Pack up and leave him

dump and run - next time also don't be in such a rush to introduce him to your kids!
just shy of 6 months is not enough to know someone, then introduce to kids!

You're asking the wrong question.

You can do better. Do you think so?

See ya!

I'm probably like you OP, in that I'd let the eggs go and think, oh he was maybe just trying and got frustrated. The power bank comment, OK petty.

But the last one, a chat on an afternoon in the beach and being snapped at would be the straw for me. I'd be really angry.

I couldn't stand being spoken to like that. You deserve much better.

This, OP you deserve better