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Tent lodger?

176 replies

Feelingtents · 10/08/2024 17:59

I've been dating someone for just shy of 6 months. At first everything was great we got on so well and spent most of our free time together. He said and did all of the right things and we seemed like a great match.

I introduced him to my kids and we have spent days together going to the beach and theme parks.

I've noticed recently that he's started to get more and more short tempered with me.

Fast forward to now. I booked and paid for us to come away camping for a few nights. (not our first time camping together) The first full day here the weather was forecast to be awful. The night before we talked about going sightseeing because of the crappy weather.

The day arrived and I needed to take an important call at 9.30. I had to drive to an area with better signal to take the call.i left him in bed and said bye. When my call finished about an hour later, I called to ask if he'd like me to pick him up some breakfast. He was really angry for waking him up despite having slept for over 12hrs.

When I got back he had a face on. He tried to make breakfast for us both and got irritated that the eggs stuck to the pan, so he hurled the pan out of the tent and stropped back to bed. Where he stayed till after 6pm.

I sat there like a twat reading my book trying to be as quiet as possible. Around 4.30 I went out, leaving him in bed and found a nice place to get something to eat. I'd only been gone a little over 30mins when I got a message from him saying thanks for taking the powerbank with you. After he'd ignored me all day he was now in another strop because I'd took the power bank to charge in the car.

Fast forward to today. We had a lazy morning he didn't get up till after 9 and has had over 12hrs sleep. We went to the beach this afternoon. He went for a dip in the sea and when he got out, he laid down on the blanket. I tried to have a chat with him but he scolded me like a child and said can't I get any peace, you've just woke me up again like you did the other day.

I packed up my stuff and came back to the tent. I've been left him to it on the beach

I'm sick of it being made to feel like I can only talk to him when it's convenient for him.

Am I being an inconsiderate twat and should I have just let him sleep. Or is he being a nob?

OP posts:
IncompleteSenten · 10/08/2024 18:44

Don't waste any more time on him.

His mask is slipping.

You deserve better and your children sure as shit deserve to not have to be stuck with this!

Too many women makes excuses for bad behaviour in the early days and it doesn't end well.

Six months in and you're feeling like shit and walking on eggshells.

He's not worth it.

No man is worth it.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 10/08/2024 18:45

I couldn't let the eggs go, threw the pan and stropped off to bed til 6pm?! What an absolute bloody misery!! Zero ability to regulate his emotions or climb down from a strop.

Please don't stand a second more of this absolute twat.

Gummybear23 · 10/08/2024 18:46

Feelingtents · 10/08/2024 17:59

I've been dating someone for just shy of 6 months. At first everything was great we got on so well and spent most of our free time together. He said and did all of the right things and we seemed like a great match.

I introduced him to my kids and we have spent days together going to the beach and theme parks.

I've noticed recently that he's started to get more and more short tempered with me.

Fast forward to now. I booked and paid for us to come away camping for a few nights. (not our first time camping together) The first full day here the weather was forecast to be awful. The night before we talked about going sightseeing because of the crappy weather.

The day arrived and I needed to take an important call at 9.30. I had to drive to an area with better signal to take the call.i left him in bed and said bye. When my call finished about an hour later, I called to ask if he'd like me to pick him up some breakfast. He was really angry for waking him up despite having slept for over 12hrs.

When I got back he had a face on. He tried to make breakfast for us both and got irritated that the eggs stuck to the pan, so he hurled the pan out of the tent and stropped back to bed. Where he stayed till after 6pm.

I sat there like a twat reading my book trying to be as quiet as possible. Around 4.30 I went out, leaving him in bed and found a nice place to get something to eat. I'd only been gone a little over 30mins when I got a message from him saying thanks for taking the powerbank with you. After he'd ignored me all day he was now in another strop because I'd took the power bank to charge in the car.

Fast forward to today. We had a lazy morning he didn't get up till after 9 and has had over 12hrs sleep. We went to the beach this afternoon. He went for a dip in the sea and when he got out, he laid down on the blanket. I tried to have a chat with him but he scolded me like a child and said can't I get any peace, you've just woke me up again like you did the other day.

I packed up my stuff and came back to the tent. I've been left him to it on the beach

I'm sick of it being made to feel like I can only talk to him when it's convenient for him.

Am I being an inconsiderate twat and should I have just let him sleep. Or is he being a nob?

You need to come on a forum to get an answer.

Give your head a little shake.

LardoBurrows · 10/08/2024 18:52

Do yourself a huge favour Op and return this one from whence it came. It sounds like the mask has well and truly been cast aside and you are seeing the miserable whiny fucker in all his glory.

Hope you are busy packing up and on your way home, or to the nearest hotel, sans lover boy.

SamW98 · 10/08/2024 18:55

Yep actually agree with PP - leave him sulking in the tent and book yourself into the nearest hotel

It doesn’t need to be fancy - just the local premier inn and have a hot bath, some dinner and a couple of wines in warm peace and quiet

GoldenLegend · 10/08/2024 19:06

You don't really need to ask, do you? He's a prize knob. I would guess he's got something (or someone) going on elsewhere that he's angry about, but not your problem. Leave him to it.

SaintHonoria · 10/08/2024 19:11

Moody.
Irritable.
Lazy.
Bad tempered.
Childish.
Morose.
Uncommunicative.
Unpleasant.

I could go on but let's face it op, the man's an oaf.

You could do so much better.

Dotty87 · 10/08/2024 19:24

Dump him immediately, he'll get so much worse if this is what he's like after just 6 months.

Book a hotel somewhere and chill out without him and his man baby sulking.

UpUpUpU · 10/08/2024 19:35

I can see it being VERY satisfying to dismantle a tent and leave! I’d hide somewhere so I could see his face when he returned! 😂

BCBird · 10/08/2024 19:36

Pack up and leave him. He's wasting oxygen

seedsandseeds · 10/08/2024 19:36

Why do people introduce their children to boyfriends/ girlfriends so quickly?
We're gonna have a generation of confused kids.

yeesh · 10/08/2024 19:38

He is an utter twat, why on earth are you putting up with him speaking to you like that!

paddingtoncoffee · 10/08/2024 19:43

I can't quote reply, but anyone telling you that you need a head wobble can go off to perfect unicorn land and enjoy it there. For the rest of us, this is when he shows you what sort of partner he will be.

You're asking here as it feels " not enough". It is "enough". Get rid, and be thankful you're radar is functioning

Sparkletastic · 10/08/2024 19:59

Why are you on here asking about this when it's so obviously over with him? Pack up, go home, split up.

Ohdearyme72 · 10/08/2024 20:05

How old is he? 3 or 93? Dump him

TheYearOfSmallThings · 10/08/2024 20:05

Yet again I wonder WHY DO WOMEN PUT UP WITH THIS SHIT? Just WHY?

Schoolchoicesucks · 10/08/2024 20:11

Is it your car and tent? I'd pack up and move to another site for the rest of your holiday, make the most of the heatwave without some overgrown teenager-man having a strop and spoiling your break.

SamW98 · 10/08/2024 20:14

TheYearOfSmallThings · 10/08/2024 20:05

Yet again I wonder WHY DO WOMEN PUT UP WITH THIS SHIT? Just WHY?

Agree. Especially when it’s only a few months in and there’s no financial, property or kids to tie them to the twat.

Gooseysgirl · 11/08/2024 07:55

I would have packed up the kids and tent, left his stuff on the ground and driven off into the sunset without a backward glance... what an absolute prick!!!! Dump and move on.

TeaMop · 11/08/2024 08:18

‘There’s the sea, mate. Get in it.’

JFDIYOLO · 11/08/2024 09:01

Are you home yet, OP?

(Please say you haven't moved him into your home)

localnotail · 11/08/2024 09:04

He is now showing you his true colours, after reeling you in with being "nice and saying and doing right things". If you put up with this, this is it - you are stuck with this wankish nasty behaviour forever, and will get worse. He may get back to being "nice" if you decide to dump him, but you have see the real him now so I assume will not be fooled again. This is what he is, not the nice person you have been presented with before.

Sleeping for over 12 hours very strongly points to the drug abuse. As his irritated manner - he may be on a downer after taking something.

Go home, dump and block this fucker.

localnotail · 11/08/2024 09:05

Or better still, send him home. I hope you are there without your kids.

penguinonmybag · 11/08/2024 09:05

This is why you don't introduce a new partner to your kids for at least a couple of years......

CandyLeBonBon · 11/08/2024 09:06

Dump and run OP