Underwear not mine

[PeppyBlueFinches]

I am looking for some advice about what to do now please, as something doesn't make any sense. About a month ago I found a pair of knickers that weren't my size. I had managed to wash and dry them without noticing, it was only when I went to put them in the drawer that I noticed they weren't mine. Not my size. At the time I assumed that they had been my son's girlfriend's and that they had been somehow mixed up with his stuff. My son and his girlfriend had recently returned from a holiday so it seemed likely that is what had happened. I mentioned to DH that I had found a pair of knickers which I assume were her's.

I was waiting to see my son's girlfriend to ask her if they were her's. In the meantime, I had put them in my underwear drawer. She hasn't been round since then although I have seen her away from the house but I forgot to ask her if she had lost some underwear.

This weekend, I went away without DH. Putting away the washing today I notice that those knickers are nowhere to be seen in my underwear drawer.

There is categorically zero chance of my son going into my underwear drawer. I hadn't even told him about the knickers. The only other person who could have taken them is DH but then wouldn't that be a stupid thing to do as I had told him that I had seen them? What do I do now?

Similar has happened to me, in fact I accidentally wore them a few days ago. I'm pretty sure that they're DD's as she has a tendency to leave stuff lying around just as she did when she lived at home.

I know DH isn't having an affair as we are usually in the same house, in different rooms, and he rarely goes out without me.

I think he's having an affair

Your dh I mean !

Just bloody ask him your DH.

F-ing hell

When DS had his GF round a couple of years ago they washed their clothes here.
One or my M&S cotton underwear got mixed in with GF's undies- she was suspicious- til I said ''They are mine! I can prove they are one of a set''.

OH NO!

Welp, I assure you no one would be wanting to wank over my staid cotton underwear.

What is WRONG with men?

Women don't go stealing men's boxers or budgie smugglers to use as a mastubatory aid.

I’m sorry to say but your OH cheating was immediately where my mind went. He’s the only one you told about the knickers. Yeah it seems daft that he would go looking for them when you already told him about them but perhaps he thought of he removed them you’d eventually forget or assume you must have made a mistake. The rogue pair of pants doesn’t on its own necessarily mean anything sinister. It’s the fact that only OH knew and they have now disappeared that makes this seem dodgy AF.
Unless son’s girlfriend happened to say to your son ‘hey I’m missing a pair of knickers can you check to see if they are somewhere in your house?’ and he has went looking but felt too embarrassed to say. But then you’ve said there is no chance he would rummage in your underwear drawer.
Its a difficult one to actually ask your son because you don’t want to raise his suspicions about his dad before you have clearer information.
And you’re sure his girlfriend hasn’t been round and had a look and taken them?
Or could he have had another girl round? Even then, he didn’t know about the pants so therefore was unlikely to go looking unless the girl asked him to look.

Ok, sorry, I’ve given this a lot a thought and here’s what I think I’d do. Speak to your son. Tell him that a few weeks ago you found something in the house that you didn’t recognise and you put it somewhere safe but now it’s gone, does he know anything about it? Tell him you aren’t accusing him of anything; this isn’t a theft situation because the thing didn’t belong to you, but it’s really important he tell you if he knows anything about it. If it was him, he’ll know right away what you are referring and hopefully he’ll either admit it or you’ll know from his face/body language. If he genuinely seems to not know, tell him it’s possible it belonged to his girlfriend, has she mentioned anything or been round anytime you weren’t aware of.
(Does she have a key by the way?)
If this subterfuge comes to nothing it’s time to confront OH I’m afraid. I really hope it’s not that for your sake.

That's just gross.

And looking at all the deleted replies= The wank fodder men are clearly active tonight.

Damn! I just wrote a seriously detailed and well thought out sleuth like answer! That’s ten minutes I’ll never get back only to find out it was your mistake.

seriously though I’m pleased that all it was

I love the Brits use of "knickers"!! It is awesome term for panties.

What I am amazed at is how this mystery woman left so fast she forgot to put on her knickers before she headed out the door!

You always see this in films and TV dramas.

The wife stumbles across a pair of knickers - usually red and lacy - and confronts her wayward husband with them.

I've always rolled my eyes at it. Who just walks out without their knickers?

The word 'panties' sets my teeth on edge.

It's not that difficult. Before we married I used to go and stay for the weekend at DH's house. This was in the days when we all mostly still lived at home with our parents before marriage, fifty-odd years ago. There would have been at least a couple of pairs of knickers in my overnight bag. So it was quite possible a pair might get left behind.

More of a likely explanation than only having one pair with me and forgetting to put them on again!

Are they your husband's size?

@PeppyBlueFinches please update us - we're invested and need to know now.

Yes. Pants will do if you don’t use knickers.

She already has if you bother to read the thread.

Yes I saw it when I had CHANCE to read the thread.

Posted that so I could go back.