Stingy restaurant behaviour has given me the ick

[HazelSchmazel]

This afternoon, I went on a second date with a guy I met on Tinder. Wasn't too sure after the first date, but I thought I'd give him the benefit of the doubt.

We had a nice meal and the bill was in the region of £50. When it was time to pay, I placed £30 (cash) in the middle of the table on the basis of £25 for my share and a £5 tip (our shares of food and drink were pretty much 50/50). He then proffered my £30 to the waiter, together with his credit card and said 'put £20 on my card'. So the poor waiting staff get no tip and my £5 effectively goes into his pocket!!! Uuuurgh - instant ick!

I should have said something, but I just wanted to get the fuck away from the knuckle dragger asap! Plus I was temporarily deaf from the thunderclap of my fanny slamming shut.

Now snuggled up with my cat, a bar of chocolate and am planning a Netflix binge, together with a future life of celibacy. Bliss!

Anyone else with a story of financially induced ick?

If he asked you out on a date, I would not be paying anything?

I would text him, then quickly block because he will only call you a prick tease or something similar.

"There will not be a third date, this was apparent to me half way through the main course, but just to fully cement my decision, your misery, skinflint, rude ass way of taking my, MY, £5 tip to the excellent waiting staff and pocketing it as some sort of contribution to your half of the basic bill indicates what a cheap, entitled prick you actually are, you're just not that good. So no thank you I have observed enough"

I had a friend like that. She would take the tip I'd left to cover her portion of bill. I'm angry when I think back.

She would insist we split the bill equally down the middle (if what she ordered was more expensive than what I had ordered). That way, she'd save a few euro.
She would also insist that we pay for our own individual items if God forbid my bill was even one euro more than what she'd ordered. I cant believe she so obviously schemed and always did me out of a few euro. Ruined every experience and I don't see her anymore.

“Plus I was temporarily deaf from the thunderclap of my fanny slamming shut”

love love love this OP!!! 😂😂

Are you sure he didn’t add the tip on the card machine after his £20 had been entered? It’s sometimes done separately.

I agree!😂

I think you should text him the truth and see how he tries to weasel.

@HazelSchmazel What was he like on the first date?

Oh come on! Of course we tip in restaurants in the UK. And if you plan to make up the difference next time you say so. OP has had a good escape.

Lol the I was temporarily deaf from the thunderclap of my fanny slamming shut, Funniest thing iv red for in ages and cant wait for hubby to upset me so I can use that line on him.

Less than what amount? Are you on mw?
You do realise that many people are paid less than mw? It is illegal, certainly, but it happens.

In his message, he commented on the fact that we ordered the same dish in the restaurant (hence my certainty that the bill was 50/50) and said that it must be a sign of how compatible we are.

so you reply:
But negated by your stinginess and thievery when the bill arrived.

You do realise that by ghosting him you are letting him think YOU are the one in the wrong, not HIM??

Please explain it to him, at the very least to make him think again when he takes a well-earned tip from a hardworking server. Plus saving another date from wasting their time with this stingy guy.

Barely over mw. I've worked lots of jobs on or just over mw and done some work for cash below mw and that wasn't in a job that ever gets tips. The vast majority of people 21 or over in hospitality will be paid essentially the same as me.

The straw that broke the camel’s back with the last guy I dated was him asking me for my £1 share of parking.

We were both students and I had more money than him so was generally happy to buy him coffees, drinks or whatever without feeling the need to be paid back.

I just looked at him and said ‘I pay for everything’ and ended it there and then.

Some women have such low standards it's actually heartbreaking.

This made me laugh out loud!!

Yes, please move on from this sorry excuse for a man...

Did he pay for everything on the first date?

Dont ghost.

think of it as doing him a favour. "I dont want to see you again. The fact is that I left my half of the bill and a tip, you took the waiters tip to pay part of your half of the bill. That is very stingy and deeply unattractive, I suggest you think about that on future dates."

It was a drinks date and we each bought a round, so 50/50

This.
You may tip, but you don't have to in the UK.
It's completely unnecessary.
Maybe he doesn't tip or didn't think of it? So what if not.
He may have been going to pay on the card, so was a cash and card combo when you paid notes.
YABU

Thanks - I really like this

To be honest, I rarely put anything in the box, but I regularly donate to our local food and and Crisis. I believe they prefer cash donations as it's more efficient and allows them to purchase what is needed in bulk.

Swoon