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Tell me your ‘unreasonable’ relationship dealbreakers

266 replies

Ehhtfc · 02/08/2024 19:30

So I’ve said ‘unreasonable’ not because it’s unreasonable to you but may be to someone else. Maybe others think your dealbreaker is diva-ish but you don’t? 😂

So this excludes any unanimous relationship dealbreakers such as cheating, nasty behaviour etc.

I will also welcome posts around ending it for a reason that seems trivial to others but not for you!

I will start, I just could not be married to someone who worked away, for instance in the forces.

OP posts:
HollyKnight · 03/08/2024 08:26

Endofweekagain · 03/08/2024 08:21

But in your first post you said normal breathing is in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Now you are linking an article saying
Correct breathing is in through the nose and out through the nose

Did you just mis-type in you first post?

No. I just did a quick google and copied that one without reading it properly. Which was unfortunate.

Endofweekagain · 03/08/2024 08:28

HollyKnight · 03/08/2024 08:17

Most of the noisy breathers I've noticed are nose breathers. The other noisy ones are mouth breathers. Maybe I just know an unnatural amount of sporty people because I see plenty breathing oronasally.

Maybe when they are exercising, but I know a lot of active people too, as I am active, and they breathe in and out of their nose, same as everyone else, when not exercising.

Stop and look around you, watch a film, just observe normal people doing normal things and you’ll soon realise it’s very unusual to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth if you are not exerting yourself physically.

TheAverageJoanne · 03/08/2024 08:28

Cosycover · 02/08/2024 21:04

I have more. I wouldn't give a second glance if:

They run marathons.
They own a bike.
They haven't seen Game of Thrones.
They haven't seen Stranger Things.
They don't think Southpark is funny.
They don't own any books or read.
They are a picky eater.
They have small hands.
They don't go to the dentist.
They are sober.
They hate Christmas.
They don't like cheese.
They take their steak well done.
They play any instrument except guitar.
They are a rubbish singer.

I'll think of more for sure.

You want a piss head for a partner??

JamSandle · 03/08/2024 08:33

For men:

  • Goes on lads holidays

For women:

  • Too vain/obvious fillers or obvious bad plastic surgery/extensions/fake nails etc

For both:

  • Unforgiving
  • Too much social media (I.e. influencers)
BananaBender · 03/08/2024 08:33

HollyKnight · 03/08/2024 08:26

No. I just did a quick google and copied that one without reading it properly. Which was unfortunate.

That link was entirely supportive of nose only breathing. Seems that your argument is defeated by your own link. Exhaling via the mouth under normal, at rest conditions isn’t normal. Perhaps try using only your nose for breathing and keep the fine aerosol of exhaled saliva in your mouth instead of all over your family, colleagues and surroundings.

Anonymousbosch39 · 03/08/2024 08:35

You know when men wear those rings on their little pinky fingers?
Yeah, I don't like that.

twentysevendresses · 03/08/2024 08:38

HollyKnight · 03/08/2024 08:13

Oops. Not that one lol. Hold on.

You literally just killed your own point by linking an NHS article that literally says the opposite of what you are trying to prove 🤣🤣🤣

Genius!

FYI (as per YOUR article!) 'normal breathing is in through the nose and out through the nose.' 👌🏻

Bridgertontoofar · 03/08/2024 08:43

Men with tight curly hair, creeps me out, I don't know why

Necklace wearers

Obsessed with their car or labels

Not a feminist

Long nails

Gets stressed when late

ComedicPivot · 03/08/2024 08:56

Thought of a few more for a man, real U ones;

Blond hair (you can look like a 20 year old Brad Pitt, I just don’t like it)

Posh accent (it’s really wimpy)

Wears sports jackets, pinky ring, wears brogues with jeans

Skinny

HappyLittleNarwhal · 03/08/2024 09:02

Conspiracy theorist
Prepper
Blonde
Has a big womanly bum

Loloj · 03/08/2024 09:11

Not being attracted to someone’s “smell”

Too hairy (as in finding pubes and body hair all over the shower/bathroom after one shower).

Bad table manners - once dated a guy who every time he took a sip/mouthful of his drink he would swish it round his mouth like mouthwash 🤮

Weird sex face

Poor hygiene

long lady fingers - even worse with long nails - and even worse if nails are dirty

Fat/Obese glutinous types who live off takeaways and don’t eat any fruit/veg

BogusHocusPocus · 03/08/2024 09:18

Short (less than 6 foot)

Says or writes 'End of.' As though to clinch an argument

Takes pride in his car - washes it often, for example, or constantly upgrading if

Personifies penis - 'he' / 'him'

Scared of spiders

Calls sex 'making love' 😖🤢

DeepRoseFish · 03/08/2024 09:18

Anyone that breathes in through the nose and out though the mouth.

CurlewKate · 03/08/2024 09:27

Smoker. Not understanding what 50% means. Reform voter. Deliberate farter.

sammylady37 · 03/08/2024 10:01

Personifies penis - 'he' / 'him'
@BogusHocusPocus oh god I had one of these. He actually uttered the phrase “he loves it when she squeezes him like that” during sex, and he called my clit my ‘love pimple’ 🤮🤮🤮

HappyLittleNarwhal · 03/08/2024 10:08

LOVE PIMPLE

Oh my fucking Christ. Where do these losers come up with this shit?

Riverswims · 03/08/2024 10:09

Berlinlover · 02/08/2024 20:06

Someone who’s too lazy to pronounce the TH sound - I live in Ireland.

so you're actually calling the Hiberno Dialect lazy are you? priceless
you want people in many areas to go against their own comfortable accents to pronounce th for you or you won't give them the ride?
I bet you're very popular 🤦🏽‍♀️

motherofkevinnotperry · 03/08/2024 10:15

I don't think any of you are unreasonable and I agree with most. I seem to have loads.

I HATE bad hygiene, they're not coming near me if any part of them isn't clean. This includes their house, bedding etc. I'm not talking hard days work dirty, that's very acceptable and I'll happily wash their back (and the rest of them) 😁.

Need to smell good.

Bad teeth, I can't do bad teeth.

Poor work ethic, not financially independent, lazy to the point of doing nothing.

Overly religious or political.

They need to be respectful and polite to other people (no dickheads!).

Won't travel or fly.
No sense of adventure.
Isn't open to new things.

Goes abroad to find an English pub and watch the match (urgh).

Calf tattoos, bad tattoos ( I don't want to see a football reference anywhere).

No sense of humor or flirty banter.
Is an obsessive gamer (id prefer no gaming at all).

Isn't practical and can't do basic diy tasks - I see this as a necessity in all genders.

Wears tracksuit anything as day wear, everyday and has bad shoes.

Doesn't read books.
Doesn't like a mixture of music.

Isn't intelligent enough to have a deep conversation with and challenge my own views, make me think.

Is obsessed with sport.
Mood is affected by their teams success.

Drinks a lot, smokes, vapes, does drugs, gambles etc.
Is bad with money or overly tight.

Is unreliable and poor at communicating, lie and they're gone.
Racist, homophobic etc.

Picky/boring food choices. Can't cook or refuses to learn.

Noisy eater, poor table manners, eats like a pig.

Unsociable, must be good company in a group and alone.

Doesn't like animals or children (can't be trusted).

Shorter than 5ft 11 with a small cock or one that doesn't work.

Has a low sex drive, is a taker not a giver and/or 2 minute man.
Has a weird sex face.

I hate feet, they need to respect my hatred of feet. There will be no toe sucking or foot massages.

Has no lifelong/good friends or family about for no obvious reason. This is a huge one for me.

Has a string of women and children from previous relationships.

Snores, I need my sleep.

Also sorry to say but a nightmare of a family, I just can't be bothered with the drama!

If Im ever single again I'll clearly be staying that way 😂

Frith2013 · 03/08/2024 10:25

No to a

Fussy eater
Smoker
Drug user
Binge drinker
Conservative
Preferably not religious
Fat neck at the back that has a big crease in it
Shoes worn in the house
Dog owner
Rugby fan
Prawn shaped man (massive shoulders, tiny head)
Little and thin (I don't mind someone shorter than me but short AND weedy is no good)
Blonde
Bigot

cookiebee · 03/08/2024 10:43

Soditsally · 02/08/2024 19:44

I ended it with someone who once turned up in some bloody awful Paddington like checked trousers
I icked right there and then

Leather trousers for me, they creaked as well as he walked. He was actually really attractive but had a slightly flamboyant dress sense, I even forgave the striped jacket that made him look like an Edwardian about to go boating on the river, but leather trousers. He may even have been a great partner, but I was 9 years younger and was just too embarrassed by all this, I remember his next partner was younger as well, so maybe I would have been traded in at some point for a younger model and he would have walked off into the sunset with his new beau whilst dressed as king Louis XIV of France 😂

StMarieforme · 03/08/2024 10:47

CLEO42 · 02/08/2024 20:27

A grown man who plays computer games/xbox/ps wouldn’t get past my first hurdle

It may be your preference but here's no need to sound so derogatory about it. There's nothing wrong with gaming, and I say that at 61. I think we'll see a lot less dementia amongst gamers than drinkers in 30/40 years.

BobbyBiscuits · 03/08/2024 10:58

Tommy Robinson supporters
Anti-abortionists
Anyone upper class
Someone with smelly feet
Someone who hates reading
Limp Bizkit fans
Police officers
Social media addicts
Someone who's favourite cheese is red Leicester
Anyone who devoutly practices any religion

TheCadoganArms · 03/08/2024 11:05

abracadabra1980 · 03/08/2024 07:43

What's a syrup?!

Cockney rhyming slang.

'Syrup of Figs' = wig

SamW98 · 03/08/2024 11:15

SnowFrogJelly · 03/08/2024 01:11

Anyone with a comb over or a syrup

My friend went on a date with a guy who turned up wearing an obvious wig. She said as much as she tried not to stare it was very difficult not to.

He went to the bar and tripped up a step on his way back and the syrup moved so it was wonky and cuz he was carrying two drinks he couldn’t adjust it

Poor sod but my mate said she just had to end the date there and then

furusato · 03/08/2024 11:32

Some of these are classic 😂

Liberal woke warriors - no you're not a feminist too, fuck off.
Noisy cutlery on plates and chompy noisey eaters esp. crisps.
TV surfing all evening
If we go out to a restaurant and he puts phone on the table like the third guest 😡
Only reads non fiction
Follows random bro influencers on twitter - Amber alert... quotes random bro influencers and if they are informed research based intellects - Ted flag status
Low/sex drive/interest/imagination
Mansplains the details of my professional life's work to me.
Criticises my idiot dog (I can 😂, he can't)

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