Tell me your ‘unreasonable’ relationship dealbreakers

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So I’ve said ‘unreasonable’ not because it’s unreasonable to you but may be to someone else. Maybe others think your dealbreaker is diva-ish but you don’t? 😂

So this excludes any unanimous relationship dealbreakers such as cheating, nasty behaviour etc.

I will also welcome posts around ending it for a reason that seems trivial to others but not for you!

I will start, I just could not be married to someone who worked away, for instance in the forces.

Is shorter than me in heels and I’m pretty tall so no less than 6 foot please

Men who eat children's food, like fishfingers, MacDonalds burgers, and can't cope with spicy food or vegetables. In fact any sort of fussy eating.
Unclean teeth or clothes, and dirty shoes, including trainers. Also overly white teeth, and anything more than a hint of aftershave.
Shoes without socks, especially if there is a bit of bony ankle showing. Makes my toes curl up in horror, as I can too easily imagine sweaty bare feet rubbing against the leather.
T-shirts which are slightly too low cut on the neckline. T-shirts with slogans or displaying any branding, and skinny jeans or trousers on men are just horrible.
Non-readers, and incorrectly written grammar.
Ineptitude and failure to adult.
I'd find it hard to be attracted to anyone religious but conspiracy theorists are worse because they are bitter and credulous.
Selfishness is unattractive, as is meanness. Some of the threads I've read today have had me reeling in terms of how mean and selfish some men are - I think it's been a particularly bad day. But I wouldn't want to be with a man who quibbled over a bill or buying a drink, or who tried to wriggle out of paying his full share.
Also I don't like the smell of fair-haired men.

What's wrong with firefighters? I don't know any but nothing immediately awful about them springs to mind.

This thread is literally about dealbreakers that are not universal/considered unique and sharing what those are. Not an opportunity to reply to what someone posted as their dealbreaker, and calling them judgemental because you have taken it personally or don't understand where I'm coming from. Bit of a double standard there.

And not that it's any of your business - but my exH has celiac, which I had to do all the shopping and cooking for (and I mostly always had to cook something separate for him than what the rest of us were eating). I appreciate that there are a lot more Gluten free options available at restaurants these days but it does still put restrictions on things (and disrupts family life in other ways when there is illness from consuming Gluten accidentally or on purpose). Not a situation I'm interested in dealing with again.

As for anything else I mentioned, it's about shared values - no different than what anyone else has posted here regarding their dealbreakers.

Nose breathers. And mouth breathers. Just breathe like a human ffs. Silently. In through the nose, out through the mouth.

One who cannot cope with general life stresses
Who come across weak I don't want to be the strong one for both of us
Dirty nails
Who don't like dogs and animals in general
Show pony separated dads
Weed smokers
Who cannot handle their drink
Dresses older than their age
Who say they're bored all the time

A smoker
Kids from previous relationship
Someone unemployed
Poor hygiene
Terrible kisser

Thinks he owns the road and uses the horn unnecessary.

snoring
smoking
in fact, breathing at all. Being a man and breathing. Instant dump.
🤣😬🥳

Skinny
Shorter than me
Earns less than me
Mean with money/debt problems
Too much sex or not enough
Female friends
Social media obsession
Gaming
Smokers
Dog owners. I have cats wouldn't work.
Non driver
Don't have own place, renting fine but not living with parents or house share.
Separated but not yet divorced
Wears supermarket clothes, secretly fine for me not for him.

Anyone who doesn’t love animals and dog ownership can trot on- of course nobody in real life communicates this openly.

It’s like it’s only MN posters that hate pets.

Anyone really into a football team to the exclusion of everything else

This was my ex. Is part of the reason he’s an ex, a whole weekend dictated on the result of the football. DS (20) is a football fan but thank god he didn’t inherit that trait, I made sure of it.

I had a brief relationship with the following walking red flag...

Tea slurper
Mental health issues, then claimed he was an expert. Yet couldn't go to work.
Addicted to painkillers
Used the word 'friggin' as a full stop.
Didn't eat vegetables
Had no money to feed his cat (not a euphemism)
Had shit tattoos

My DP is a fireman, he's perfectly normal.

Someone who puts his mum first before our relationship. Someone who always sides with his mum regardless and won't stand up to their mums unreasonable demands

-Likes sport
-Drinks alcohol more than a few times a year.
-Doesn't like kids.
-Isn't a family man.
-Isn't relaxed about life.
-Doesn't have a high intellect level.
-Is religious.
-Is not tolerant of others (Even Tories, gasp).
-Is selfish or mean
-Overly into looks or the Gym
-Is authoritarian
-Is in anyway controlling or micromanaging
-Very low sex drive
-Does not have a professional job.
-Never cooks
-Never brings up issues or things that are bothering him.
-Has mental health problems but won't help themselves.
-Likes WWE
-Doesn't drive
-Is overtly flirty or has female friends they regularly speak with or text.
-Is not able to enforce their own boundaries
-Not able to communucate effectively.
-Is violent
-Gets bored regularly
-Does not help others when situation arises.
-Is not open to new opportunities
-Is unreliable.
-Largely routine orientated.
-Watches soaps.
-Texts a lot
-Won't help with school runs
-Is overly tidy to the point where a little mess bothers him.
-Is unable to self-reflect if needed.
-Is a police officer.
-Doesn't like tea
-Doesn't like garden centres (cafes really).
-Doesn't like to entertain conversations of 'What ifs'.
-Blindly follows authority, even when unjust or ridiculous.

You think that's normal breathing??

-Is not tolerant of others

Erm........

Yes. Because it is.

Why what way do you breathe?

Just shows there's a lid for every pot... I'll take the cum announcers very happily and send away all the ones who never say a word during sex. I've been married to two of them and never, ever again.

That is not normal. And cannot be healthy. Is your breath not really bad?! Are you going about your day breathing on everyone? 🚩

Normal, healthy breathing is silently nose only.

The majority of examples so far seem entirely reasonable….

Men with feminine hands. Men who can’t drive. Men who tell you that nothing will ever part us, not even God, before you’ve actually ever met them.

Oh any man who can’t stand football. He doesn’t need to be a fanatic but needs to be able to talk football (not with me, with others). Men Wgo find like it turn me off