Would you date a bisexual man?

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Because as a man I think im bisexual (although never done anything with a guy before) but I can only see myself dating and marrying a woman, I have sexual attraction to both but romantically only into women. Would this turn women off?

Dating a bisexual man wouldn’t bother me at all. I’m straight. I don’t think you have to disclose it to a partner either, it’s no one else’s business but yours.

No I wouldn't be interested in a gay man. Nope. Nadda.

No one asked that.

The Equality Act doesn't apply to people's bedroom choices.

Bisexuality and homosexuality are not synonyms. Being gay and being bi are not the same thing.

Why am I not attracted to bi men?The same way a gay man wouldn’t be sexually attracted to a woman. I’m just not.

I don't think it is quite the same. If you're gay, you fancy people of the same sex. If you're straight, you fancy people of the opposite sex. If you're bi, you fancy people of both sexes. I think it's possible to fancy people before you know their sexuality, whereas a gay man is never going to fancy a woman, nor a lesbian woman fancy a man.

The reason I would not choose to date a bisexual person is that I don't want anything that might make my relationship even a tiny bit more complicated than it has to be. There are many characteristics that fall into this category!

Let's see. He was all over me at one work social, then all over a rather gorgeous openly gay man the following week at the next one. A pretty big clue, I thought!

This "examine your preferences" rhetoric has been used by the likes of Riley J. Dennis to argue that lesbians should be prepared to date "women" with penises.

People have the right to refuse to date anyone, for any reason. They don't have the right to use offensive language to express their reason, but nonetheless they have the right to refuse.

I don’t want to sleep with a man who sleeps with other men too.
It would put me off. Just being honest

Yeah but fancying is very different than having a genuine sexual attraction for someone.

I could think a man was attractive at first glance but then talk to them or find out X about them etc and then the fancying stops there.

I could see a man and think he's gorgeous and then find out that he's a transman and then I would no longer fancy him.

Yes and I have, both in monogamous and open relationships.

No. I'm straight and wouldn't go near a bisexual man with a barge pole.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation no its not homophobic to not want to date someone who is bisexual. Im a straight man but I would prefer a straight woman, I also aint into women who have a history of sleeping around or doing one night stands, who are into poly relationships and who are vegans.

Its preferences and you cant force people to date someone who turns them off.

My personal theory is that all men are at least bisexual and that’s why they are so incredibly homophobic. Most of you should be glad you can’t see into your husband’s minds.

I honestly don't know.

I'm only 41, so not ancient, but back when I was dating people just didn't talk about it unless you weren't their cup of tea. Any and all of the men I've dated/slept with could have been bisexual and I wouldn't know, as it wouldn't have come up what with me being a woman.

I don’t believe that to be true, just as the assertion that all women are bisexual (which I have heard so many times and it’s simply not true).

Well she commented so I asked her explain? If she wasn’t prepared to be asked further questions then she shouldn’t have posted.

The reasoning behind why she wouldn’t date a bisexual could be biphobic. If it’s ’because I find the idea of homosexual sex ‘ew disgusting no no no’…’ then that is biphobic. It may not be a biphobic reasoning.

Recognising this isn’t making anyone have sex with anyone that they don’t want to, unlike previous posters have suggested. As per there’s always a GC Mumsnetter who wants to shoehorn that POV in where it’s irrelevant.

Why though? Your personal preference can still be biphobic.

Attraction can't always be explained and doesn't need to be.

Why did you ask her to explain though instead of just accepting them?
Would you like to have to explain your own preferences or to have to convince people why they are valid? Would you even be able to express the reasons properly?

Why else would a straight woman do it?

Would you not believe someone who was straight but had never had sex either? Some of the responses on this thread are astonishing.

Sharing your body and reproductive organs isn't an equal opportunity so I don't think it's biphobic to say you only want to have sex with homosexuals or heterosexual. Bi people have also the same right to preferences.
There are things in life that are out of your control that also reduce your dating pool and it feels unfair to have a smaller romantic choice or be rejected for something you can't help but it would be even more wrong to pressure, manipulate. coerce or deceive people into having sex with you in the name of equality.

Well as I said, the two points were completely different.

One was about 'true straight' women and sex drives, which I've addressed as being bollocks.

The other point about threesomes didn't entail the woman being straight, hence the women who have threesomes may be bi and/or get a bang out of having a threesome for their own pleasure as well as/rather than their male DP's. They may also like watching their DP having sex with someone else, but that's not necessarily a selfless act of 'giving', they'd be getting something out of it too. Therefore while both the original points were unrelated, they both have a degree of bollocks to them.

@CallItLoneliness I would find it very unusual for someone of my age group to never have had sex, straight or otherwise.