Would you date a bisexual man?

[BeJustScroller]

Because as a man I think im bisexual (although never done anything with a guy before) but I can only see myself dating and marrying a woman, I have sexual attraction to both but romantically only into women. Would this turn women off?

Not sure. I’d be doubting if married life would be suffice for bi-sexual, as their needs might not be met from just one sex?

I wouldn't.

Would this turn women off?

It does turn some women off but then other women are perfectly fine with it, so it's best to be honest about it!

I want someone committed to a monogamous relationship who values the emotional intimacy that comes from that. That means a person willing to forgo other sexual partners even if occasional attraction arises. I don’t see how it makes much difference if my partner is bisexual or not.

Oh now now @Littlepinkstarsbyradish you're being nasty but not accurate she's not being homophobic at all -- unless you consider actual medical data to be "homophobic"? Perhaps (logically and rightfully) phobic of actual disease statistics? Certainly that is something to be cognisant of?

hivinfo.nih.gov/understanding-hiv/fact-sheets/hiv-and-gay-and-bisexual-men

Thats a US link

In the UK new HIV diagnoses (cases not diagnosed previously abroad) increased in heterosexual men and women but continued to decline in gay and bisexual men in 2023
https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/hiv-annual-data-tables/hiv-testing-prep-new-hiv-diagnoses-and-care-outcomes-for-people-accessing-hiv-services-2023-report

And assuming that a bisexual man is more likely to give someone HIV than a straight man based on nothing but his sexual orientation IS homophobia/biphobia
Im not being nasty, im just calling out prejudice when its so blatant

No, I wouldn't date a bisexual man. I'm straight and wanted a partner who was straight.

Why are you asking, @BeJustScroller?
You are who you are - and the answer on MN isn't going to change who you find attractive.

But you are also potentially haven’t fully explored who you are. You haven't let yourself feel and experience your sexuality -
and that would be unfair on any woman you date now.

There is a world of difference between someone who is bi and has dated men and women. They are certain and secure with their identity. With you - one would have to wonder if you are simply suppressing one side of yourself. That is really a bigger issue. Not being bi in itself.

But yes - separately - most straight women wont want to date bi men. But it’s not a huge problem, as there will always be women who won’t mind.

not read any other replies.(yet)
no.
not knowingly,once was aware-No.but...i wouldnt date a man unsure ...or tempted by other women either .

No way. I couldn’t be attracted to a bi man.

"but the amount of girls out there who would sleep with a woman or would give thier husband/BF a threesome

These are two completely different subjects?"

I agree with this - it's not helpful to connect the two very different things as if being bi will mean a relationship is more likely to be non-monogamous. Also don't like the implication that a woman 'gives' their man a threesome. There's a seedy vibe to this line that is way more off-putting than the basic fact of someone being bi.

My last partner who definately was attracted to woman was also quite feminine in some ways that I found strange. He got eyed up by a gay man once and he seemed to be quite chuffed about it. He loved flowery clothes too.
He was a strange mixture - he was a biker, who loved women (too much, bit of an ogler in the street of young attractive women) , good at DIY so traits I would say are traditionally masculine. Then there were traits that made me think he must be bi. He had these long patent knee high boots that he was desperate to wear but didn't quite have the bottle to.

After we broke up I was quite relieved to find out he got married to another woman.

The seemingly gay/bi bits of his personality definately made me feel turned off. I don't know if he was actually Bi. I never asked and he never said he was.

Sorry if I have insulted Bi people who probably don't have these qualities at all and I am showing my ignorance.

In short as a straight woman I like my man to be masculine. So I wouldn't knowlingly get into a relationship with anyone that told me they had been with a man.

By contrast I have dated kind, gentle men who I suppose you could say had feminine qualities in so far as they shared housework equally and didn't like football or go on boys nights out. However they all indicated at one point or another they would be horrified if a man eyed them up and that they found the ideas of guys together disgusting.

Thus why I think my ex might have been bi.

No. I wouldn’t.

No
I wouldn’t date a bisexual man

I know quite a few men who are homosexual but heteroromantic (sex with men, relationships with women) and I thinks it's more common than you think. I think if the people you're interacting with are open to it, go for it!!

Dated a man who around 6 months in told me he had slept with another man. He said it did nothing for him, he had split from an ex and confused. It really put me off him and I didn't see him in the same way so we split.

No. It's in the list with blond hair, bad teeth, baldness and Cornish accents.

Of course. I'm bi myself

No I wouldn’t.

No, I just want a bog standard straight bloke.

No but only because I’d be concerned that there would be something he needed that I couldn’t give him and this doesn’t make for a healthy and stable relationship.

I have discussed this with friends and I think most feel this way.

I have discussed this with DS who is bi. I think those of his generation view it slightly differently (or st least they say they do since that is the cultural norm amongst the late teen/early 20s age group)

No

Yes, I would (and do)

My long term partner is bisexual. It really wouldn't occur to me to not to date someone on that basis, as long as they were definitely bisexual and not closeted with a much stronger preference for men.

Nope. Not for me at all.

Can't see why on earth it would bother me unless I was deeply homophobic. My husband is bi.