Would you date a bisexual man?

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Because as a man I think im bisexual (although never done anything with a guy before) but I can only see myself dating and marrying a woman, I have sexual attraction to both but romantically only into women. Would this turn women off?

I'd be a bit of a hypocrit if I said no.
I'm youbin reverse.
Bi woman but only wanted to settle with a man

Been happily married for 10 years.
Wouldn't mind at all if DH said he was Bi.

Personally I’d assume the person to be sexually confused. If they’d never had a relationship or experiences with same sex but it was more of a fantasy so I’d feel quite unsure of someone who was in this situation. It’s something you’d need to explore to really know.

It wouldn't bother me at all. But I'm also bisexual. Although have never seen myself marrying a woman. Mind you I've never married anyone

@DavidBeckhamsrightfoot would you say that your more sexually attracted to women? Or men?

But its crazy how so many women are similar to you, I dont really encounter any bi men out in public but the amount of girls out there who would sleep with a woman or would give thier husband/BF a threesome

I’m married to one. He told me at the start when I met him online
He was also separated and awaiting divorce, so those were his “dealbreakers” to get out the way. I told him mine.
We’re good

He had some kind of experience with a man previously, no idea what exactly. None of my business.

My DBs girlfriend is also bi.

I’ve never given it a second thought to be honest

I'm not sure it matters to you whether I personally would date a bisexual man.

What matters is that there are plenty of women both straight and bi who would, and I'm sure you know that?

Nope sorry, I wouldn’t date a man that’s been with another man.

but the amount of girls out there who would sleep with a woman or would give thier husband/BF a threesome

These are two completely different subjects?

@Deebee90 haha fair enough, are you straight yourself?

I wouldn’t judge anyone by their sexual preferences, but I wouldn’t knowingly date a bisexual man. It would turn me off. I just couldn’t go out with someone who found men as attractive as I do. I’m 100% straight though, so perhaps that might be why. I just couldn’t be intimate with a woman and have never found them attractive at all.

No. No I wouldn't. I'm straight. Many years ago I turned down a man I really liked because I suspected he was bisexual. It turned out my instincts were correct. I have no regrets. I tend towards insecurity so I didn't feel I could cope emotionally.

@DramaAlpaca how did u suspect he was bi?

I would have said no, and then I met someone who rocked my world and I figured out pretty quickly he was bi. It didn't bother me. In fact I loved how open he was about his sexuality.

I've since gone on to date another bisexual man.

This is common though. Biromantic I think it's called. It's normal to have a preference. Don't be so hard on yourself op do you have a therapist?

@H112 I think bisexuality is a lot more common than they say especially in women, A lot of women will admit to sleeping with girls and finding them attractive but only want to settle down with men. I think there are more men out there who are bisexial but are more likely to keep it to themselfs while women are more open about it

Because the whole world is set up as a straight man's fantasy. Lesbians and bi women aren't seen as wholly human, rather as props for male sexual desire. Which means it's 'cool' to be bi as a woman, and positively encouraged (even to pretend) for men's viewing pleasure.

Bi men are all over the place. I know loads. But I only know loads because I have been in places and with people where it was completely boring (theatre, alternative music, housing).

I'm very old and married. On the question of dating bi men, I would and have. But I don't think I'd date someone, or certainly not settle down with someone, who hadn't actually had a relationship with a man if they were bi. Because the worry is that they've missed out somehow and that side of them would always wonder. Some people prefer not to be with someone who has ever been with a man so it takes all sorts.

In general bisexuality doesn't put me off and I'm married to a bisexual man.

But I don't think I'd be keen on someone who was romantically and sexually interested in women but only sexually interested in men because I think would expect some unfaithfulness - as though the attraction to men would be an itch that needed scratching separate from the attraction to me. I'm not sure about that. I'd have to think about it. But that's the initial thought that hit me.

Yes, would do, have done.

I think you are right that men may feel less comfortable being open about it than women.

I was a bit curious about your language when you say "give their boyfriend a threesome" - why do you consider it a gift to the man? Hopefully the woman would be enjoying a threesome just as much as the man did, not doing it simply to please him....

If it is something that you wanted to explore, plenty of women are interested MMF threesomes, as well as FFM. Possibly less socially acceptable for women to admit to this as a fantasy/preference - no idea why. I'm honestly not assuming you are interested in group sex simply because you are bi (a common assumption and quite an offensive one I think!) - I only say this because you mentioned threesomes.

How homophobic.

I wouldn’t mind at all. However, in a relationship, be it with someone who is straight or bi, I’d expect monogamy so if that wasn’t accepted it is no deal (but that’s really got nothing to do with the bi aspect).

Edited to add I know a few bi people who are all monogamous when in relationships but I guess it’s like anyone, bi it not, there are people that cheat and those that don’t, and others that mutually agree to open marriages or swinging or the like.

Straight woman here. Have previously and still do date bisexual men. Ironically none of them have ever cheated on me to my knowledge anyway, the cheaters were all straight.

Are you roleplaying as somebody really, really stupid from the 1980s?

this is so stupid that im not sure if you're aiming for satire? if you are it didnt land, its just homophobic and ridiculous

I've been out with bi men before, and honestly it made no difference at all.
If you're monogamous then that's still important, and it makes no difference to someone's character if they fancy a plethora of people, they are still committed to you and your relationship.