Would you date a bisexual man?

[BeJustScroller]

Because as a man I think im bisexual (although never done anything with a guy before) but I can only see myself dating and marrying a woman, I have sexual attraction to both but romantically only into women. Would this turn women off?

O. Never.

I'd have no issues dating someone bisexual, I have dated bi men and bi women but the other part of what you said, about only considering women for dating and marriage would put me off.

No

I'm married to one, though in our case he is attracted to men but has never had a sexual relationship with one.

I'm in a monogamous relationship, I trust that he would never cheat on me, if he broke that trust it wouldn't really matter if it was with a man or a woman, it would be over immediately either way.

No I married one without knowing and it was the biggest mistake of my life.

Im a straight man but its funny how many women wouldnt date a bisexual man but yet would be bisexual themselfs (i.e find women more attractive looking, watch lesbian porn, kiss thier girl mates, have slept with women etc). From my experience the only true straight women are those with low/no sex drive, if a woman has a high sex drive then she's most likely bisexual.

Although I wouldnt date a bisexual woman because too many of them admit to finding the female body more attractive

As I said, I just wouldn't want an additional complication in my life.

Disagree with this limited perspective. Some women are truly straight because they like dicks. It's got nothing to with having a low/no sex drive. A woman can think women are aesthetically pleasing without wanting anything sexual with them.

No. Because life is complicated enough without the added risk my partner might want to change the side he bats for.

A friend of mine has a bisexual husband. They had an open relationship at one point. She is turned on by seeing him have sex with a man. Theg also had threesomes and she liked having 2 men. To each their own and no judgment at all from me. It just isn't for me.

Absolutely agree. I’m attracted to male bodies and dick. I’ve never been attracted to a female body. I can appreciate of a woman is attractive or has a great body but it does nothing for me sexually.

Not being attracted to women has absolutely nothing to do with level of sex drive. It’s what you personally prefer

I had no idea what a high percentage of women were homophobic until I started reading threads on mumsnet about dating bi men.

Thankfully the MN mods delete the most offensive slurs, but it's a real (and depressing) eye opener.

Why is it homophobic to not want to date a bisexual man?

Anyone has the right to refuse to be in a relationship with someone for any reason or no reason at all.

Oh look, a man who thinks he knows more about the sexual desires of women than actual women. Nothing you have stated is based on any objective truth🙄

Wouldn't turn me off at all! My hubby is ''in the closet'' bi, it's only myself and a couple of good friends who know he is.

Good on you, BeJustScroller and I wish you well!

@Polarnight "Why is it homophobic to not want to date a bisexual man?"

It isn't. Accompanying that simple statement with slurs is.

yes, both tested at the start. Always done with new partner regardless of orientation. I’d not take their word for it, and if they didn’t ask it of me I’d be suspicious.

Yes, this. Anyone who doesn't want to test, that tells you a lot.

Not homophobic at all, just a preference.

I'm a total hypocrite but no way.

For me, women on women is fine but I could not date a man who is attracted to men.

There's more risks of STIs/STDs from men on men and that's my rational. I have zero issue with being gay but I would not want to be with a man who has been with a man.

I know you say you've not acted out your desires.

I’m sure some women would be fine with it, but no, I’m only attracted to heterosexual men.

Thats not homophobic. It’s sexual attraction.

No I wouldn't.

As a heterosexual woman I want to be with a heterosexual man.

Don’t be ridiculous. There is nothing ‘phobic’ about having a sexual preference/attraction.

People don’t need to bend their attractions to fit other people’s feelings. I don’t fancy bisexual men. Nobody should be concerned with my preferences other than me. It’s weird that some people think they can dictate who others are attracted to!

Once we’re in a monogamous relationship, sexuality is irrelevant. DH could he straight or bi, my only concern is that he is attracted to me and is faithful. As I am to him.

If they were upfront from the very beginning of a potential relationship , I'd prefer to keep it friends only . However , if they told me months into a relationship , I'd have to have a big think about it .

Ah.

So my gay best friend in college who retched and yelled 'ew, ew, dear God no, that's disgusting' when someone was talking about sex with women was being something-phobic?

To me he was just expressing his personal revulsion at the idea.

It is sinister, this cloaking of entitlement that enables you to call someone names because they don't want to have sex with you.

People can be repulsed in a sexual way for many different reasons. Because someone is fat, bald, a different race, disabled. Literally any reason.

That doesn't mean they 'hate' anything. Just that they don't want to have sex with that person and feel a very natural physical response of revulsion at the thought of having sex with someone they are not attracted to.

Well I think it depends on that person's feelings and your own perspective doesn't it? Ds is bi but never dated a man ( yet). He said he wants to keep options open and if he is,attracted to someone their sex shouldn't stand in the way. He isn't promiscuous and he is totally faithful. On that basis girls can take him or not. It's so individual.