Boyfriend guilt tripping me for money screenshots

[Banana1979]

My boyfriend is guilt tripping me for money
I have put a screenshot of part of the message
Im in my overdraft and I told him I cannot transfer money from an overdraft to him. I am sick and tired of him asking it’s every other day I’m giving him a tenner or £20
he has told me today he’s starving
I offered to send him an Amazon shop about £15 worth of food until he gets paid next week
and he’s being nasty about it. I’ve said to him I have a child to look after and a lot of rent to pay I do get some universal credit towards the rent but not all as I work
. However I don’t understand why he is responding like it’s my fault I cannot send him money
I’ve already sent him money this month and I’m sick and tired of it and I’m ready to let him go. I am sick of this. I feel like I am being used for money he doesn’t do anything for me he doesn’t take me out didn’t buy me a birthday present asks for travel when he comes to see me it’s about £16 both ways tube and bus
he also smokes and is childless. He’s loving and caring when he comes to see me, but I am pretty fed up of him now.
i have a 9 yo DD
I don’t even know what to say to him, because I’m terrible at ending things, because for some reason I find it difficult to let people go even when they are terrible to me. My dad left when I was younger and I used to smell his T-shirt as a kid and hang onto his clothes, wondering when he was ever going to come back I don’t know if it’s linked to that,the way but I definitely need some kind of fucking help here.
my daughters, father also left me suddenly after 13 years, 3 years ago to go and be with a 21 year old
when I try to end it, he says he’s going to go missing . If I don’t sending money, he sends me messages like this and ignores me all day. I know it’s continue. I just need help to fucking drop him. I’m sick of being treated this way. I’m very kind and loving person. Everybody tells me this. I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age, most men my age, want somebody in their 20s. I just feel sad

Frankly, I would dump this cretin for being illiterate, never mind being a scrounging waster.

OP, this individual is not your boyfriend. He is a worthless leech. Nor is he a man. Scrounging from women who are themselves short of money is not how real men behave. He is weak and pathetic. He has no standards, no integrity and no self respect.

Dump him.

So he’s managed to feed himself and buy fags for enough years without using you as a cashpoint then?

If you can't do it for yourself, take a long, loving look at your daughter... Is this the example you want to set her? She's going to start thinking this is a normal relationship and will emulate it in the future. Is that what you want for her? I'm 100% certain you don't. Please be strong for her, even if you feel you can't be for yourself. Dump him, block him and don't look back, your daughter should not be missing out on things because you are supporting a loser and you don't want to be listening to her saying the same thing to you that you are saying here in 10, 20 or 30 years time. Be better, for HER, be strong, for HER, show HER how not to put up with less than the best!

You CAN do it.

Don’t respond at all. Block him and be free.

From your other thread you worked out you’d given him about £600 between Feb and Apr, so now you’re probably up to £1200-1500!!

You’re effectively paying him to make you feel like crap. If you dump him you can put the same money into a savings account - you’ll still be living frugally but you’ll be free of the constant putdowns (from a nearly 60 year old man who likes to sponge off a single mum - what a prince) and you’ll have a lump sum to take your DD on holiday.

There’s no room in your life for better while you’re still giving all your time and energy to this creep.

He’s a disgrace and sounds utterly thick apart from anything else. Kick him to the kerb and don’t look back.

Get rid for your sake and your child's. This guy is an abusive tit and probably fleecing you for drug money. Why else would he refuse a food shop if he was so desperate? Think about it.

@Banana1979 in previous threads you have written about a boyfriend taking money from you, you said he was 43, so is this the same loser boyfriend or a new one that you have since got together with that you allow to also take money from you?
I cannot recommend the Freedom Programme enough to you as you need to understand why you get into relationships like this and feel unable to have any boundaries or respect for yourself. You are worth so much more but you are letting men treat you like crap and you come across as desperate to be in a relationship no matter what the cost to you and your child.
Serously, educate yourself about what a strong independent woman is and learn to live a single life for a while until you learn your self worth and what a good relationship looks like.

Op hes giving you a lil 🍤 in exchange for money it made me dry reading that please please please block this vile manipulative passing aggressive leech right off that's grooooooss

So he’s managed to feed himself and buy fags for enough years without using you as a cashpoint then?

I'd guess he's been through a string of women to scrounge off, and when one's had enough he's moved on to another. I very much doubt he's done anything to buy his own fags and food.

He’s 56 and I writes ‘something’ as ‘suttin’? My vagina just crawled up into my body in revulsion. Forget the sponging for money (obviously don’t forget the sponging for money) and the emotional blackmail (ditto) the illiteracy alone makes me come over all Countess of Grantham. Text ‘it’s over’ and block him on everything.

oh i see theres been other threads from this op regarding this same user man. almost seems like this is a piss take by the op. starts a thread, everyone advises, shes ignores then waits a couple of months and starts another. im out, this op isnt serious.

OP, your DD needs a DM who is happy and well-treated. This man is not your problem. LTB, do the freedom programme, and start thinking about the happy times you will have in the future.

This, this, this!

DUMP HIM

For his illiteracy if not for anything else.

Just block his number. You don't have to explain it, I'd be amazed if he doesn't know exactly why and just be bummed his luck ran out!

You're not married to him. You don't live with him. Just dump the illiterate wanker before he gets any more money that should be spent on your daughter.

That was the first thing I took from those screenshots. Then I felt bad.. but in all honesty just the way he writes would give me the ick!

Mine did the same it made my skin itchy 😩

56!! Fucking joking? I thought you'd got yourself an early 20s toyboy with those texts! Does he wear tracksuits etc and listen to central cee wtf

Don't text him anything, block him and gain yourself some self respect.

He has no redeeming features. Dump.

Either

A) Dump him

OR

B) Make it crystal clear that you are not giving him another penny and that if he asks you for money ever again that is the end of tge relationship

On second thoughts just A)

This. I’m amazed at what some women put up with. OP, what benefits does your relationship with this man offer you? He doesn’t sound capable of adulting in his own life, and is leveraging to take money from a single mum who needs to put food on the table. Not very appealing.

Dump him, block him, enjoy being single