Me again-8 husband shaming me for history continued

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It's me again with another new thread and new username. Have linked previous thread above.

I doubt he'd google my username but still felt I couldn't carry on speaking incase.

He isn't angry with me for starting the thread
But extremely defensive about the comments.

You know when someone loves you? They NEVER treat you like your DH treats you. Never.

Just because he can be nice sometimes, that doesn't mean he isn't abusive. It doesn't mean he loves you or respects you. All it means is you're in a cycle of abuse, and he's in the 'nice' phase. It's intended to make you doubt yourself, blame yourself, and stay with him.

Then he can be abusive again.

Please put your children before this vile man and leave him.

I meant to add…don’t argue with him any more. Every time you get upset, he wins. I bet when he reduces you to tears, he doesn’t try to comfort. More likely to leave the room. Smirking. Job done. He keeps bringing it up because he needs the reaction from you. He’s feeding off your distress like an emotional vampire, so go grey rock. Let his comments and jibes run off like water off a ducks back. Keep interaction to a minimum. Do you have family or friends for support or has he isolated you?