Me again-8 husband shaming me for history continued

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It's me again with another new thread and new username. Have linked previous thread above.

I doubt he'd google my username but still felt I couldn't carry on speaking incase.

He isn't angry with me for starting the thread
But extremely defensive about the comments.

And his argument is I never sent them to him (husband) so I must have liked this other guy more.

And I did actually send husband some anyway...but because he'd been asking for years it wasn't good enough

Fucking ridiculous.

Yeah. Thank you.
I did tell him last night that I won't apologise for anything. That i was just being a normal human and basically stop it...

He doesn't really care that i started the thread But he was just saying how extreme the comments were, they didn't know him ect ect.

We know enough. What would he think of a man who spoke to his sister/mother/daughter like that or thought that about them?

And he doesn't know most of the women he has such vile opinions about either but yet he thinks he can judge them and that he's so superior even if he engaged in the same behaviour just because he's a man.

And his argument is I never sent them to him (husband) so I must have liked this other guy more.

It couldn't have been that that guy asked you and he didn't, until recently.

Or that that guy pressured you, and he didn't, until recently.

Or that having been asked to do it once, you discovered you weren't all that comfortable of happy about doing it, and do weren't keen to DJ it again ...until pressured by him.

No, absolutely nothing reasonable like that ...
it can only be that he is second choice and a "cuck" that you got involved with only because the guy you sent the pic to dumped you (which he probably didn't) whereas he was willing to "wife you up".

This smacks of red pill "alpha fucks, beta cucks" philosophy.

Oh OP, I hate to break it to you but this will only get worse. Plus your children live there.

Obviously no one can tell you what to do but I'd really consider leaving him fwiw. I know it seems difficult and it's not something that should be taken lightly especially with kids in the mix.

I'd suggest counselling - firstly for him on his own for him to work out why he holds views as he does and what's driven it. Obviously AT and like have encouraged it, but in my experience, people relate to the things they already have deep within them. AT has struck a chord with your H and it's come to the fore.

If he's willing to go for counselling for the above on his own, I'd then suggest couples therapy to help you both get past this and heal the damage done.

If he agrees to neither, I'd really contemplate separating. I think you do need to give an ultimatum.

We know enough

Yep.

We know he's torturing his wife over some fairly minimal/standard previous sexual experience... That he knew about when he got into an LTR with and married her.

We know he's said some random 18 yr old girl he saw on the street had a "slutty" walk.

I think he's called his wife a "slut" too.

That's way more than enough.

Well I guess the truth hurts

He's thick as mince, I can't get past that.

I think anyone posting on this thread needs to be acutely aware your husband could be reading this. It is actually quite dangerous.

He really is, I'm worried for the op tbh

Pmsl - I thought you were one of the incels who pop up on here all the time, and you were attacking op.

(Oh and yeah, I'm definitely an incel myself .... That's why I wipe the floor with them if they post on here 🙄)

Its not really a pmsl moment. It's a omg sorry!! moment

Catch a grip.

God no!! couldn't believe your reply I thought what the hell is this about.

I meant the truth hurt the husband lol

And no i don't need to pay anyone in your edited post lol

What does that mean?

op, i posted on your last thread and im posting now. get rid, he will get worse. its hard to leave a marriage, i know, i did after 22yrs, but for your own mental health and that of your kids, you need to leave him. do you want his views affecting how your kids have relationships in the future? get rid of him

I think one of the worst things was reading the op say he's driven her to tears in front of her kids.

That's abuse of her and the kids

Yeah a sorry would of been nice.. Wow I only came on here as I commented on last thread. Where the hell did all that come from.

Well, he’s a messy bitch who lives for drama. I suppose he has some niggling dissatisfactions with his life and status, and has decided he’ll blame you. That’s pretty unpleasant behaviour.

I think for your safety you need to get to get in touch with people who can really help you. As this may only aggravate him further if he's reading your posts and looking through your phone. Woman's aid would be a good one. Good luck op

I mean re expecting a profuse apology from me for thinking your post (which was not clear at all) referred the the op, rather than her h.

If you didn't report it yourself, someone else has evidently thought the same as I did, and reported it.

My post was perfectly clear