Is it strange to have your second wedding in the same venue as your first?

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Gathering opinions please!

My fiancé and booked our wedding about 6 months ago after mutually deciding on a venue that is special to us.

I've just found out that his wedding to his first wife was in the same place, having stumbled across an old wedding photo of his. It must have been a special place for him and his ex wife too! I haven't mentioned it as I don't know if I'm wrong in thinking it is strange to choose the same venue?

Very strange!

Agree!

And he should have told you his previous wedding was in the same venue!

I think it’s a bit strange. The people on his side will probably find it a bit odd I think.
I wouldn’t like to have photos taken knowing that there will be ones in the exact same spot with the first wife. That might just be me though. It will be hard for others not to compare the 2 weddings I think, if they also went to the first one.

It's really weird.

Extremely weird. I wouldn’t like it.

So weird. How did where he got married not come up in conversation before?

I’d be asking him about it straight away.

Unless it’s the local registry office/place of worship that’s weird.

maybe if it happens to be the only venue in your small village it would make sense, but otherwise I would have many questions right now

Don't ask why it's special to him because he sounds thick enough to say "because it's where I got married" 🤣

What has possessed him not to tell you? And all of his family for that matter. Bizarre

Very weird, even more weird that he hasn't mentioned it to you.

Yes. I know someone who did this. All the family and friends on his side were the same. It was like deja vu.

And somehow made the wedding vows sound less sincere as he had literally stood in the exact same spot making the same promises to someone else.

To make matters worse, his second wife had the same first name as his first wife and afterwards took his surname. So same first name, same surname, same venue, same guests.

Very strange.

So, so weird! No way would I want this.

Depends on the venue/location to me.

A church you belong to, with an associated reception venue, not strange. You live in a small village and there's one local venue that holds lots of the local weddings i.e. most the local guests will have been to multiple weddings/had their own wedding there, not strange. You live in the middle of a city with lots of wedding venue options, probably strange.

Yes that's weird. I got re-married somewhere other than my local church for this exact reason.

Thank you so much for all your quick responses. Not just me then, I'm going to have to talk to him about it.

Is there a lack of good venues in the area? Or is it a particularly good venue or something? Tbh with a different colour scheme and flowers or different room it could look completely different. But it’s strange that he didn’t mention it.

Very strange. Presumably some of the guests will have been invited to both- that on its own would be enough for me not to want this.

I think he's probably just unimaginative op.

I think it's weird and wrong but I can imagine loads of men thinking, oh that was a decent enough place, may as well use it again.

That's so weird. For any repeat guests as well. I'd feel really awkward.

In what way is the venue special to you both? Presumably he introduced you to it? Very creepy indeed.

I’d find it very strange if I were you op.

I think I’d also get the ick a bit about ‘our special place’ actually being somewhere he obviously found very special with his ex, the woman he promised to love and cherish for life, at the venue.

My ex husband took all 3 of his wives (I was the second one) to the same place for honeymoon (Florida).

Yeah I would be more bothered that it also became your special place, without you being aware that it was special to him before! Seems very very weird.