Is it strange to have your second wedding in the same venue as your first?

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Gathering opinions please!

My fiancé and booked our wedding about 6 months ago after mutually deciding on a venue that is special to us.

I've just found out that his wedding to his first wife was in the same place, having stumbled across an old wedding photo of his. It must have been a special place for him and his ex wife too! I haven't mentioned it as I don't know if I'm wrong in thinking it is strange to choose the same venue?

Yikes he not reusing his ex's wedding ring as well is he? Do you look a lot like her?

That is extremely weird.

I'm more baffled as to how this hasn't come up in conversation?!?! If he suggested the venue it is extremely weird. If you suggested it then why the hell didn't he mention he got married there last time round?! How has it become a "special place" to you both without him mentioning he got married there?!!

The fact he hasn’t mentioned it to you, and allowed his wedding venue to become a special place for you, is both weird and rude imo

He should have been open with you about the place the first time you went there.

I would not like this at all!

Yeah it’s weird, I wonder if he has even considered it.

When we were planning our wedding I said to DH that I’d like to avoid getting married on the same date as his first wedding, he couldn’t remember the date, we managed to narrow it down to a month and just avoided that month.

His first wedding just didn’t feel relevant anymore so he hadn’t given it a single thought for years.

Hopefully it’s something as daft as that.

I agree.

Bizarre!

Yes very strange unless it’s a church? Even then I’d be looking for a different church if it was me or I’d at least ensure my second spouse was aware.

Really weird. Even weirder that he just didn't mention it. 😬

Thank you all. It's a garden that has buildings that are licensed for weddings. It was a special place for me for years before we met, and it's also where we first met, introduced in a group of mutual friends. It seemed the obvious choice for our venue.

From what I can see he and his first wife got married in a different building in the same garden. The photo backdrops would be the same as it's obviously the same garden. I think (Hope) the reception venue is also different, but I'm not sure, I'll need to ask him.

First reply nails it! Yep, weird - all his friends and family will have been at his first wedding, they’ll all think it’s odd although will probably be too polite to tell you to your face.

Also odd that he’s never mentioned that this ‘special place’ is also where he got married, how/why has he never said that, bizarre.

Maybe not quite the same, but I discovered after He died that our wedding anniversary was only a couple of days after that of his first.

Not unsurprising - we were all teachers in the same LA.

Might explain why the ex and her boyfriend (another teacher) almost gatecrashed our honeymoon.

As strange as it is and damn is it strange personally for me the strangest part of this whole situation is that at no point has he mentioned that he has already got married at this location. That seems like a heck of an omission and pretty deceitful.

If it's a registry off or church it's not particularly odd, what is strange is that he didn't mention it though i suspect he just went along with your excitement

…after husband died

On phone and having difficulty with it.

Not normal at all. And weirder still that he didn't even mention it to you.

I would be changing the venue pronto! I'd feel cursed getting married in the same place! I cant believe that neither he or his mum, friends and family have said anything to you!

It would be a no for me however special the venue was to me.

However I am amazed that he never mentioned it.

I wouldnt get married there, i wouldnt like that he never told me either. Very strange.

Maybe he gets a stamp for every wedding and will get the tenth one free, like in Costa coffee.

I am desperately trying to find a silver lining for you OP.

Incredibly strange and very concerning he didn’t tell you. Unless it’s the registry office locally, but doesn sound like that

He probably thinks, 'different woman, different building' . But it's weird, and he should have told you.

Woah, there, Mrs de Winter, I would NOT be agreeing to get married there! It’s downright weird.

Very strange and equally strange that he didn't mention it!